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Babies and booze

91 replies

AllyH9 · 29/12/2010 10:33

Shortly before Christmas I was standing outside Prezzo's restaurant in Farnham, Surrey when I noticed a couple sitting with a young child in the window table. As I watched, the woman offered her glass of wine to the child, who cannot have been more than two. The child took a large slug and beamed broadly. Over the next few minutes, the child clamoured for more wine and the woman allowed it to have two further large slugs. The man seemed unconcerned by this, but I was horrified.

I'm all for inculcating a responsible attitude to drinking, perhaps even allowing a teenager to drink in carefully-monitored moderation, but surely booze should not be given to babies? The amount the child drank must have had an effect on such a tiny body, and it seems clear that there is a link between childhood drinking and alcoholism in later life.

Since then, I have been berating myself: I should have been brave enough to go in and say something to the child's mother. My only hope now is that she might recognise herself and question the wisdom of her actions. What do other mums think?

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BooBooGlass · 29/12/2010 10:34
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TheHoneydragonsInTheIvy · 29/12/2010 10:35

Are you sure it was wine? I don't drink, but use a wine glass in restaurants if I don't like the clunky glasses offered. My dd is also a bugger for stealing sips of my alcohol free pear cider Hmm Grin

Panzee · 29/12/2010 10:36

You can't give a baby booze!!!

Fags, however...

Chil1234 · 29/12/2010 10:37

And you know it's wine because.... ? If you're going to go rubbernecking people in restaurants you've got problems.

sarah293 · 29/12/2010 10:37

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nancydrewrockinaroundxmastree · 29/12/2010 10:39

DS 4 drinks water out of a wine glass when we are out. He is very disdainful if the waiter tries to give him a tumbler. God forbid if it's plastic Wink

charliesmommy · 29/12/2010 10:39

I often drink J20 which looks like red wine, in a wine glass...

Sounds like you were standing there staring at them for quite a while too.. lol!!

Fontsnob · 29/12/2010 10:46

Ah panzee you beat me to it.

Panzee · 29/12/2010 10:48

:o

iwantavuvezela · 29/12/2010 10:51

A child that age having a big slug of wine would probably not smile but pull a face! I know this because my DD took a sip of my wine (thinking it was apple juice) and pulled an almighty face when she realised! (the wine was in a normal type glass not a wine glass and was an accident not purposeful!) So I dont think its wine, the taste of alcohol is not what a young child would be gulping down ....

scoobytoo · 29/12/2010 10:52

Legally you can give a baby alcohol as long as it's perry or porter, pear or apple based alcoholic drinks. It's a very old licensing law.
However morally????
As others have said it probably wasn't alcohol, many people drink soft drinks from wine glasses nowadays.

StuffingGoldBrass · 29/12/2010 10:52

FFS get a hobby or something other than going round looking for things to do a catsbumface at.

Binfullofgibletsonthe45 · 29/12/2010 10:54

www.skiddle.com/images/restaurants/112157_1.jpg such tiny windows you must have been very noticeable goggling in at a family enjoying their meal.

If you had gone in, perhaps the pissed baby would have slugged you one in the gob with a pudgy little fist - before going back to a bottle of Jack Daniels with a teat sticking out the top.

And when do you refer to a child as it?

GingerbreadGiraffe · 29/12/2010 10:55

"Since then, I have been berating myself: I should have been brave enough to go in and say something to the child's mother. My only hope now is that she might recognise herself and question the wisdom of her actions. What do other mums think?"

Not really your business though is it?? The mother would have given you an earful and quite rightly. You're not the parenting police.

Could have been me since it is my local prezzo. Maybe I know you!!

ragged · 29/12/2010 10:56

My DC would glug it down if they had a chance.
Of course it's outrageous, Ally -- if what you think you saw really is what you really saw.
I must say, very brave of you to make your MN debut in AIBU.

TheHoneydragonsInTheIvy · 29/12/2010 10:57

Erm .... If they had noticed you maybe they were doing it to wind you up?

Binfullofgibletsonthe45 · 29/12/2010 10:57

Used to be mine to gingerbread, I was confusing it with the Zizzis which is in an alleyway - that had been the case she would definitely have been a troll stickybeak!!!

Binfullofgibletsonthe45 · 29/12/2010 10:58

Perhaps the baby was drinking to forget.......

GingerbreadGiraffe · 29/12/2010 11:04

LOL Binfull.

I suppose there are bus stops along there so you could legitimately be stood around but peering into the windows is just plain rude.

Definately would be stickbeak if it was zizzis.

chipmonkey · 29/12/2010 11:08

I have NEVER seen any child smile after tasting alcohol. It can't have been wine.

Binfullofgibletsonthe45 · 29/12/2010 11:18

Am sure they smile a bit once the bottle is empty, just not the next morning IYSWIM.

nancydrewrockinaroundxmastree · 29/12/2010 11:28

chipmonkey DD smiles if she drinks wine Confused

I don't think she really likes it, rather she likes to pretend and prove her parents wrong!

DuelingFanjo · 29/12/2010 11:39

I once sat and watched in horror as my ex's parents fed their nephew beer on a spoon - he was less than a year old! My ex was an alcoholic - no wonder.

AllyH9 · 29/12/2010 11:40

I couldn't tell whether the child was a boy or a girl - you often can't with tinies...

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AllyH9 · 29/12/2010 11:41

Yes, I'm sure it was wine. We often eat there and they serve soft drinks and water in different glasses.

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