To shout out how flippin' wonderful my husband is.....

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Reading all these threads about knobhead husbands has really made me realise how bloody lucky I am.
When I was ill last month, I was tucked up in bed, while he looked after the kids downstairs. He would bring me drinks and anything I needed. This is the way it should be. I do the same for him when he is ill. It's called teamwork.
He takes me out, tells me I look lovely (even though i'm carrying a few extra pounds) We cooked christmas dinner together, cleared up together, I could go on. We love each other, why wouldn't we want to help each other.
I really hope relationships like mine are the norm.
All these shitty husbands, why do women put up with it?

My DP is so wonderful that I like to joke he was created in a laboratory to my specific requirements for the perfect man!

Me and him are total equals. Our relationship is based on mutual adoration, respect, desire and consideration. We play to our strengths, ignoring traditional 'male' and 'female' roles. I have never heard him utter a single sexist word (or any other kind of prejudice) and I have never once felt taken for granted in anything.

We've always done the housework 50-50 - he never has to be prodded or reminded - and now I'm pg and ill, he's doing virtually everything (am 20 wks and have had one horrible prob after another - am currently in week 7 of 24-7 near-migraines that paracetamol can't touch and am developing SPD). When I tell him how guilty I feel, he tells me that I'm doing all the hard work and that he'd rather hoover, etc., than be in pain, so he's the lucky one! He seems to be under the impression that I'm some fabulous, gorgeous goddess that he's lucky to be with, when the situation is quite the opposite!

He also did 80% of Xmas Dinner, waited on me hand and foot, drove us to my parents' house, did all the washing up and tidying and then thanked me for doing so much despite my pain (I fell on my back last week so also have awful back pain - luckily the baby is fine) and said he couldn't have done it without me (I did all the timings and planning and some cooking).

Did I also mention that he is 9 yrs younger than me, utterly gorgeous, clever, funny, talented, sensitive and amazing in bed? The only thing I could criticise him for is leaving the toilet seat up! My DP is my best friend in the whole world and we never stop laughing, kissing, chatting and finding ways to lighten each other's load and show our appreciation of each other. My Ex was an EA twat, so I know that there can be light after a crap relationship.

Another one here who dotes on her dh and is very much loved and appreciated in return. I know that I am lucky and he feels the same way . Am looking forward to this evening as after kids are in bed we will snuggle up on sofa and watch a film together.

YADNBU!!

My xh was a complete bastard, made me do all the cooking/housework/childcare, whereas DH now is amazing in comparison. Yes we have our difficulties and he suffers from mental health problems and addiction (he has beaten the cannabis problem thank goodness, but is now addicted to prescription painkillers!). But, when the shit hits the fan, he is there for me and looks after me. In the past year I've had a hysterectomy and was rushed into hospital a few weeks ago with a large cyst on my ovary. He does all the cooking and we share the kitchen duties. We do things as a team and he loves all the DC's as his own (DS and DD1 are from my previous marriage). He tells me I'm sexy and beautiful, especially when I don't feel it; and we are best friends most of the time.

I love these threads! I remember being the reader of them when I was in a very bad relationship and wishing I could have just a small piece of it, even for a day. Now I've got it and I feel like all my dreams came true, even if there are hard times too - at least the good times outweigh them this time...

My hubbie is Fab.
He helps all the time
He loves spending time with me and our 2 DD's
We are a partnership and share every thing.
I love him so much

I post on the shitty H threads because I used to have a shitty, self-obsessed, druggie, toss-pot H and want people to know you can leave them and meet a handsome, caring, intelligent, washing up, nappy changing DH. You just need to believe (please Santa, send one to everyone).

My hubbie is fab too. He would walk 5000 miles for me like in the song. I might not walk the 5000 miles back but I did give him three sons and I would consider cycling the 5000 miles, hips permitting.

Mine's a good 'un too. Most of the time... but would never be abusive, go out drinking, gamble, take drugs etc. He's a hard worker and does the right thing.

YANBU we forgt that there are good things in life as well as the shit. I met DH when I was 18 (I'm in my 40's now) and wanted hm from that moment - we got together 2 yrs later and have been together ever since. We've had some very shitty times : death, pestilance and babies but we have somehow held it together because we know there' something special between us. I'd be broken without him.

My dh is fab too. He does completely his fair share of parenting and housework without question. If I want ice cream he will go to the shops and get me some.

Every night he makes me a flask for when I am up in the night with dd2. And when I was pg with dd1 and felt sick the whole way through he made my lunch every day because I couldn't face it.

He is not perfect, no one is, but we communicate and act like adults. He respects me & I give him reason to.

Hey fourth

NotEnoughTime you are lovely but I know I have hurt my dh and have done some stuff he would be pretty pissed off about. Don't know why I did it though. He means the world to me.

I get breakfast in bed every morning!!!!

Well I'll buck the trend a bit here - yes I guess you are being a bit unreasonable to crow about it when many of us are making do with okay but not wonderful dh's/dp's. For instance I could crow about how fabulously wealthy I am - but tend not to, because most people aren't

That said - post what you want to post!

I've got a good one too. Works 12 hour days (commuting into London), comes in and gets straight on with bath, sotires and bed for kids, whilst I go out to gym.

Has taught himself lots of DIY and is very "handy".

He's generally thoughtful and kind and always listens if I do have cause to complain.

I try to treat him with similar consideration but often fail as I'm much moodier

He's almost tee total, which can make some social occasions a little dull, but at least I never have to drive.

IAmReallyFabNow

{unmumsnetty hug}

hmc

I hear what you are saying but I think this thread is a good idea as it might inspire people reading it with the "not wonderful dh's/dp's" to maybe change how they deal with them/not put up with them etc and realise that there are some decent men out there and that they deserve one of them!

Hey quilting! How's things?

Hmc I think this is a bit different to crowing about being wealthy. I think it is more of a demonstration of what good men are like. I think some people in crap relationships just don't know how else it can be. They are so used to being treated like shit they don't realise that is not the norm.

And, like having plenty of money, I'm willing to bet most people on here still have to work hard at their relationships to make then so good.

Also, it's a question of priorities. My dh doesn't have much earning power and he is not always very social bit I would take those things along with being a respectful and supportive partner and fab dad.

Ok, perspective from someone with a shitty husband,I do not feel for one second that you are rubbing my nose in it, if anything I have realised from these threads the way thingsshould be. And I am not putting up with it anymore. So I thank you all. I don't really care if I never meet anyone else but I know I Am worth morethan this.

Good for you domeafavour - make 2011 a good one!

YANBU. I have a truly, truly, wonderful husband and I'm so thankful for making the right decision with him! He's incredible and everyone deserves men like ours :)

DH doesn't turn up with a bunch of roses every Friday, and sometimes I had to kick him to wake up and do the midnight feed. But he is Prince Charming a hundred times over compared to the creeps some posters on here are living with. I cannot believe the number of witty, interesting posters whose DPs and DHs are ignorant, self centred, childish, spoilt pratts (at best) bullies (at worst). There is a lot of shit going on out there.

Domeafavour - Good luck and may 2011 find you happy! xx

I am a great DH and SAHD too

Not that I am blowing my own trumpet you understand