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AIBU?

To shout out how flippin' wonderful my husband is.....

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Sparklyblue · 27/12/2010 13:04

Reading all these threads about knobhead husbands has really made me realise how bloody lucky I am.
When I was ill last month, I was tucked up in bed, while he looked after the kids downstairs. He would bring me drinks and anything I needed. This is the way it should be. I do the same for him when he is ill. It's called teamwork.
He takes me out, tells me I look lovely (even though i'm carrying a few extra pounds) We cooked christmas dinner together, cleared up together, I could go on. We love each other, why wouldn't we want to help each other.
I really hope relationships like mine are the norm.
All these shitty husbands, why do women put up with it?

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TrudyVotion · 27/12/2010 15:18

someone who behaves like a proper grown-up, takes responsibility for himself and our home, and treats me with real love and respect

Well said - shame it's not everyone's norm. I'm married to a fantastic man who shoulders a lot of worry and has guided us all safely along what has been at times an incredibly difficult path between me and his older two children, who live with us. Our company's not doing so well and it's been a tough five years financially but he keeps going when I would have thrown it in and gone to work in a supermarket. In the midst of all this he changed his mind about having the second child I'd always so desperately wanted and so now we have DS who's two next week. I never forget that DH has given me everything I ever wanted and I try to give him everything that I can in return.

IMO it's small kindnesses that make the difference in a marriage, making a bit of an effort for someone when you know they're tired, fed up or would just feel touched if you showed that you were considering them.

scoobytoo · 27/12/2010 15:19

YANBU
Mine is a good one too!

grumpykat25 · 27/12/2010 15:23

My dh is brilliant. I wouldn't change him for anything, I am a very lucky lady!

InmaculadaConcepcion · 27/12/2010 15:24

Congratulations lucieloo!!

YANBU - I love reading the "fabulous DH/DP" threads, they're always a great antidote to the "feckless, uncaring bastard" threads

My DH is ace. When my mum told us her DP had been diagnosed with cancer and his treatment would prevent her from fulfilling a planned visit to coincide with DD's first birthday in Jan, DH suggested he drive us all to spend Xmas with her instead of on our own as we had planned. The drive can be anything between 9 and 12 hours.

We were rewarded by DD being an angelic passenger and a white Christmas (once we had safely arrived) spent in front of a crackling wood fire.

DH does almost all the housework and cooking without being asked and is a wonderful hands-on dad to DD.

Plus he makes me feel like a sex goddess, even when I've got eye-bags around my ankles (DD is not the world's best sleeper) and cold sores.

I feel like Mrs Lucky of Luckytown, I do.

IAmReallyFabNow · 27/12/2010 15:24

NotENoughTime That is very sweet but he is a much better person than me. I am deeply messed up and don't always put him first.

snowflake69 · 27/12/2010 15:32

Mine is the same. I see all these threads on here and dont think it represents many men I have ever met in RL.

BubbaAndBump · 27/12/2010 15:32

IARFN I'm have no excuses/reasons but my DH is certainly a better person than me too in many ways! poor sod!

ledkrsbellyislikesantas · 27/12/2010 15:33

mine normaly gets a mention on the dick head threads but he has been great the last few weeks,possibly as i am the hugest pg woman you could ever see,he has forgone seeing his family as was too far to risk travelling to and put up with all mine comimg.it was our anniversary xmas eve and he took me back to the place we had our reception,i was very touched. i will be back on the knobhead threads when he doesnt do his fair share of night feeds

floozietoozie · 27/12/2010 15:35

I think after reading some of the threads on here I have appreciated the good sides of dp a whole lot more. He is the house chef, now does the kitchen tidying up since we mved and got a dishwasher and after I was incapacitated for a while after having dd three months ago stepped up to look after (disabled) ds in a way he's never had to before. We had a rocky ride the first year after ds was born when he didn't do much but he's great now. Definitely loves and respects me and tells me. Though he lets ds watch telly too much!

pinksancerre · 27/12/2010 15:50

My dh got me fab Christmas presents. Last week I was on annual leave and I got breakfast in bed every morning. This morning he got up and has driven from Wiltshire to Kent to pick up his mum and bring her down here. He isn't perfect but he is quite fab

NotEnoughTime · 27/12/2010 15:52

IAmReallyFabNow-nobody ALWAYS puts their other half first and if they say they do then they are either a saint or a fibber

I too am "deeply messed up" and like I said in my previous post that sometimes it can make you MORE grateful for what you have now (ie if you never had it in childhood).

I am rambling on a bit but maybe you get the jist of what Im trying to say?

HowToLookGoodGlaikit · 27/12/2010 15:52

I have one of those fab husbands too and I adore him :)

HowToLookGoodGlaikit · 27/12/2010 15:53

and he is making me a trifle right now -

BubbaAndBump · 27/12/2010 15:57

I have to admit though, I do struggle to tell him how much I appreciate him though - quick to criticise

amicissima · 27/12/2010 15:58

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domeafavour · 27/12/2010 16:00

This is lovely. I'm not so lucky. I got one if the wanker. Be thankful.

GabbyLoggon · 27/12/2010 16:02

I must confess Iam the windbreaker in my house Most men do abit of Doyle Carting. Idont know if its a working class. It may be. By all meansif you really love someone, say so. That said relationships are not easy

deemented · 27/12/2010 16:38

Manshape is bloody fab. Am very very lucky to have him. I can't wait to become MrsManshape

ChildofIsis · 27/12/2010 16:40

Mine is fab too.

I'd wondered if those of us with good relationships just didn't post about them incase of upsetting anyone.

If a poster is having a bad time the last thing they need is to hear that others aren't having problems.

On the positive side I'd like to hope that seeing a thread like this gives out a message that there are good men out there, and that relationships don't have to be crap all the time.

ChildofIsis · 27/12/2010 16:41

Mine is fab too.

I'd wondered if those of us with good relationships just didn't post about them incase of upsetting anyone.

If a poster is having a bad time the last thing they need is to hear that others aren't having problems.

On the positive side I'd like to hope that seeing a thread like this gives out a message that there are good men out there, and that relationships don't have to be crap all the time.

ChildofIsis · 27/12/2010 16:41

Sorry, didn't mean to post twice!

Aims80 · 27/12/2010 16:44

Ah lovely, my hubbie to be is amazing too. we're lucky gals.

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Reesie · 27/12/2010 16:46

My dh is marvellous. He works really hard so that I only have to work two days a week and still have plenty of money. He keeps telling me how beautiful/lovely I am even though I think I need to loose a few pounds. He is marvellous with children and gets up every morning with them so that I can languish in bed until a more respectable hour.

I think he is gorgeous to look at but he always tells me how lucky he is to have me (he says that I'm premiership material and he is 3rd division). He has never ever lost his temper - I have never even heard him raise his voice. He is kind, thoughful and very very funny.

I do appreciate him very much and tell him this often.

I have been with loads of idiots and total wankers though before meeting dh. Thank god I didn't end up marrying any of those.

instantfamily · 27/12/2010 16:48

but I've got the bestest in the world!

Sparklyblue · 27/12/2010 17:13

Yes, Childofisis, that's why I asked If I was being unreasonable. I'd hate more unfortunate women to think I was rubbing it in. I'd hate to upset anyone.

I hope that wives of knobhead husbands will realise that not all men are dicks and it may give them strengh to kick them in to touch.

I had a nightmare ex (didn't marry him thank god) He told me I was lazy, fat, good for nothing, that no one else would want me. He told me off once for folding his clothes wrong. He would pick fights so that he could storm off to the pub. He would stay out all night sometimes and had a few affairs. I saw the light and got out.

I know how bad it can be, so I appreciate my husband all the more. He treats me like a queen.

I have been in tears reading some of your posts, lets raise a glass for all our darling hubbies and celebrate how lucky we all are.

Right, i'm going for a bath, my gorgeous husband is taking me out

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