to feel pissed off that the parcel I lovingly slaved over has apparently been received but no one has even mentioned they've received it, not to mention said thank you

[justanothersanta]

I kind of got it out in the title. Put a lot of effort into my mumsnet santa parcel. Spent quite a bit, and bought vouchers in case they didn't like what I'd chosen; bought wrapping paper, tags, little things for the childrens stockings, books, the stockings themselves, put gift receipts in for everything just in case they didn't like it. The whole thing. Struggled down to the post office with it (it was huge), stood in line for 20 mins to post it, got in late to work feeling quite smug. Tracked it on line, it was marked as delivered last weds.

And nothing.

Not a sausage.

I am not going to pretend to be a lovely altruistic person, I did want someone to say thank you, but what I really want is to just know it's with the right person and not some random person the parcelforce guy just found next door or whatever.

Why would someone not tell me that they'd recived it, even if, for whatever reason, they couldn't say thank you?

So I'm quite cross. And thinking I probably ABU as it was a gift and the joy of giving etc etc. But I would like to know all that effort had some kind of impact.

oh ok thanks SGM so how do you nominate

I'm joining this thread because my experience is a bit confused, and n=may help to enlighten OP that things aren't as straightforward as you would assume they should be.

I was nominated and graciously accepted the nomination.

I received a very generous voucher in a card with no clue as to the donor number on it.

So I posted my thank you on the thread and gave clues so that the donor could identify herself.

Before the donor recognised herself Rebecca kindly came on and posted that my donor was 66D, so that I could properly say thanks.

Then, the donor came on and recognised herself, but stated that she definitely wasn't 66D.

So, I'm just posting really to say that sometimes things don't run smoothly, and that there may be many reasons that someone hasn't "said" thanks.

It may help if you said which area you sent the parcel to, as it may prompt someone?

Did they get it then?

This is the reason I stopped buying my Sisters children presents. I never got a thank you or even a 'yes we received the parcel'. I would call on Xmas day and ask if the kids liked their presents and my sister would say 'what presents were they then?' I would then explain what they were and she would say 'oh yeah they got them'. I gave up there and then and have never sent another present ever again.

girlsyearapart - don't give up on your parcel to Oz yet. My sister posted my son something for his birthday, and we were really worried when it didn't turn up in the normal week and a half (we had lots of other things turn up in that time) - it eventually appeared about 4 weeks later. No idea where it had gone or what had happened to it! Sadly, I don't think there's anything you can do if it's not registered (we couldn't find anything useful out at the time). We also had an anniversary card turn up about 4 months after the event - it had been posted in plenty of time. I would love to know where it had been!

I don't get this thread. No idea what all these mumsnet parcels are. I thank people for gifts after I have opened them ie after xmas or birthday. I don't thank them for sending a parcel and parcels usually get squirrelled away out of sight by the other partner before birthday/ xmas.

Morning all,

The OP's SS did receive her gift.

The parcels of books and games direct from MNHQ were over and above being matched with a MNetter hence why we wrote 'more to follow'. So if you have received a parcel direct from HQ and at least one other, then that is everything.

Cadbury also kindly offered a few hampers of chocolate that have been sent to MNetters that were not matched with fellow MNeters as nominations were late.

Everyone who was nominated and received (and responded to) a nomination email asking for their address was matched and will receive between 1 and 3 gifts.

I am sorry for all the confusion but please do contact me if you have any further issues.

Merry Christmas

Thanks eraic
I really hope it gets there - annoying as what's inside will mean nothing to anyone except mil and if it arrives after end jan she will be back in uk!

That was very nice of Cadbury :)

Hello. Just a couple of things to add to RebeccaMumsnet's post.

The MN Christmas Appeal is not really a Secret Santa.

Secret Santas work by everyone buying a gift for everyone else - so everyone gets one gift. In the MN Appeal, people are nominated by other MNers - either because they think they are in special need or because they think they deserve a treat/thank you. And other MNers offer to donate presents.

There are always more donors than nominees, so many nominees get more than one gift - sorted by a stunningly complex algorithm patented by the extraorindarily patient RebeccaMumsnet.

And the whole shebang operates on good faith, trust and a big dose of Christmas spirit.

Yes, some people don't say thank you. But in our experience, they are a tiny minority - and in most of those cases, something has happened in RL to prevent them posting. Last year, for example, someone's child was taken to hospital the week before Christmas and they were simply knocked too sideways by all of that to remember to post a thank you.

I have to say that, before I worked at MNHQ, I took part in the Appeal for a few years. And the very first year that I donated something, I got no thank you at all.

I was initially pretty miffed, like some of you, but then I figured that the Appeal is such a brilliant, wonderful outpouring of collective generosity that, if one or two parcels went to one or two people who perhaps weren't quite as deserving (in whatever respect) as others, then I could live with that.

We hope you can all live with that, too.

Gremlins at MNHQ today methinks.

Started on the sherry and mince pies already?

Oh I do wish I had known about it. I would love to send a parcel to someone who needs stuff for the children.Its too late now but if ever mnhq does need anything like that[babies,birthdays anything]I would so love to be allowed to give.