to feel pissed off that the parcel I lovingly slaved over has apparently been received but no one has even mentioned they've received it, not to mention said thank you

[justanothersanta]

I kind of got it out in the title. Put a lot of effort into my mumsnet santa parcel. Spent quite a bit, and bought vouchers in case they didn't like what I'd chosen; bought wrapping paper, tags, little things for the childrens stockings, books, the stockings themselves, put gift receipts in for everything just in case they didn't like it. The whole thing. Struggled down to the post office with it (it was huge), stood in line for 20 mins to post it, got in late to work feeling quite smug. Tracked it on line, it was marked as delivered last weds.

And nothing.

Not a sausage.

I am not going to pretend to be a lovely altruistic person, I did want someone to say thank you, but what I really want is to just know it's with the right person and not some random person the parcelforce guy just found next door or whatever.

Why would someone not tell me that they'd recived it, even if, for whatever reason, they couldn't say thank you?

So I'm quite cross. And thinking I probably ABU as it was a gift and the joy of giving etc etc. But I would like to know all that effort had some kind of impact.

op - email Rebecca.

tell her that you arew worried that your recipient hasn't mentioned it and could she just check that it has arrived.
she will email them and get a confirmation that it has/nt been recieved.

I had this too. Sent something and then seemed to be the only one not to get a Thank you. I wasn't hurt until I felt like I'd been left out. Have not given anything else since.

i have been nominated this year and i have not received anything as yet. i'm worried that there is wonderful mnetter out there thinking i'm an ungreatful cow for not saying a thank you.

your gift sounds very thoughtful, and i hope you get the thanks soon

could you give a rough idea of where you posted to? maybe others in that area will know what the post has been like there.

Maybe there should be a seperate thread (or something) for those who've sent and haven't heard/appears to be signed for

OP can't be the only on given the postal/delivery chaos

You are definitely not BU.

We have had parcels delivered (from friends / family for our children) and I texted each sender that day saying thank you, we have received it and we will say thank you properly after Christmas.

Thanks again. I have emailed rebecca and she is checking.

innerstrength, I didn't wrap the presents, last year we were told not to so ppl could see what we'd sent for their children in case they didn't want to give it to them for whatever reason, or so that they knew what was coming. I wasn't quite sure, but I followed those instructions again this year and sent wrapping paper rolled up in the box rather than wrapping up the presents, so I doubt they've put a bloody great cardboard box under their tree? It was about 3ft by 2ft by 2ft...

I do know giving is a joy etc etc, and it did make me feel really happy doing it and sending it, but as I said and others seem to understand, it is good to know it's actually THERE!

I will take on board all you've said re internet access

I have looked through the thread and none of the 'unlabelled' thank yous sounds anything like what I sent so fairly sure I'm not missing anything, but will keep looking.

Appreciate the input, thanks!

now take away your mobile phone and your internet access..........how quickly would you have been able to let them know then

justanother - you're not any of my SS's - but I want to say thank you to you anyhow - I am about to go and try and make my way through my bedroom and attempt to sort out a mountain of presents into 3 piles ready for wrapping. Something that would have been done and dusted in about 1/2hr had I not been nominated this year.....usually I wrap on Christmas even between putting the DS's to bed at around 8,30 and playing at Midnight mass at 11.....this year I need to start tonight - otherwise I'll never get through it all

actually I kind of have the opposite problem to you - I have thanked all 3 of my SS's - but I don't know if one of them knows I've got her parcel and how grateful I am for it as they've not posted on the thread

Justanother - what is Rebecca's email address please?
I also sent a voucher 2 weeks ago and have heard nothing. I am trying to cling on to all the reasons above for no acknowledgement ...and am trying not to think that someone is plain rude / it never got delivered and my money was wasted!!

oh ungratefulness or lack of manners drives me bonkers.

I sent someone on here something once. Went out of my way, paid postage, could have given it to a number of people without the packaging, postage etc, but no, thought I'd send it to someone who would need it.

2 weeks later i asked her if it had been received. Oh yeah thanks came the reply.

Manners cost nothing.

I hope to fuck that last year I said thankyou to everyone

I was so anal on xmas day about writing down what I had received and what the number them was but I could have got it wrong
I was in a bad place
I hope noone felt like the op does

everything I received last year and this year was so so appreciated
I felt loved and thought of
it was amazing

LOL, it wasn't you btw Trin!

Trinity I think everyone was aware that last year was incredibly difficult for you, we are talking about rudeness not forgetfulness in awful circumstances

phew

baroqin I assume you mean me by the emoticon? And we have a land line so I would have used that instead...or stamps to post a card...or carrier pigeon...

I still think it's a little early tone offended about Not being thanked.

"Trinity I think everyone was aware that last year was incredibly difficult for you, we are talking about rudeness not forgetfulness in awful circumstances"

and do you not perhaps wonder if those that haven't responded have had an awful year too? I'm still wracking my brains as to why I was nominated - however I know there are many who have been nominated who have had dreadful years so maybe, y'know - they forgot (or are currently unable to post) because of pretty nasty circumstances

Sheesh. Have a and calm down. Can't be bothered to explain re Trinity so I'll leave you to your self righteousness.

Hi all,

We have posted on the Thank you thread about this issue, we hope that everyone will post and say Thank you, but this isn't always the case and sometimes with very good reason.

OP I have PM'd you as I have just had an email from your SS

DoNotWantAnotherMincePie it's rebecca @ mumsnet.com

ermm - actually I need no explanation over Trinity -

Problem is Rebecca, it's really no good posting on the thread if people don't know if they are receiving a gift/gifts.

I know somone who got a gift from MNHQ, with a note saying 'more to follow'. She had also got a voucher before this from a MN donor.

Does that mean that she's gonna get more from MNHQ, or was the first gift the 'more to follow'

imo,mn santa is a gift gratefully received by someone who may not for various reasons specifically reply

what if rl folk know mn name and he/she dont want outed. a thank you may not be poss

have not been able to get out

sporadic internet access

you did a v lovely thing,and dont let that be diminished by disapointment

oh and Trin - next time I'm north of the Border I am going to come and meet you - never managed it in the summer as it was so manic.

scottish - those who don't want to be "outed" have namechanged for the thank you thread

but I agree with your other points.

PP - I will just add - I am a far too regular poster on MN - at all hours of day and night. Yet I would never dare to assume that I know all of the shite and dreadful things that have happened to MNers this year. Despite my regularity I've managed to miss fairly major stuff from other regulars - even when they've started a specific thread about it. Not everyone will start a specific thread (or may do a "vague" thread title which fewer people see) - they may just post on a relevant support thread that's already running.

Just because it's not a well known and loved poster like Trinity doesn't (sadly) mean that there's not other awful stuff happened.

I'm confused - is this a secret MN gift thing?

Whats this all about , is there a secret santa going round MN. Havent heard of this before, please could someone explain.