AIBU to be really annoyed about this email from an ex?

[CrossEx]

Have namechanged because I think my ex's wife posts here too.

I got an invite to be a contact from a long-gone ex on Linked In (which is a sort of business version of Facebook). Thought there was no harm in accepting his request so I did. Then yesterday, I got a message from him asking how I was and reminding me of a particularly steamy session we had once.

I haven't replied obviously but AIBU to think it's completely bloody wrong to send something like that to an ex when you're married with three children? What a twat

Yes. It is very wrong.

I assume you can block people?

I think simply blocking without replying and having no further contact sends him a clear message.

His poor bloody wife though.

If I was the mner whose husband this is - I'd want a copy of that fucking message.

Honestly Hecate I'm bloody tempted. I'm absolutely furious. I haven't seen him or is wife for ages but I have met his wife a few times and she is lovely. Even if she weren't, she deserves better.

Wanker

wanker. block him. I wouls be very tempted to write a rude message first.

Calling him pathetic.

sounds like he's looking a bit of a repeat session.

poor, poor woman.

YANBU - totally out of order. Don't know what goes through blokes heads. I personally wouldn't do anything like send it to his wife though, just don't think it's your place and I wouldn't want to potentially wreck a relationship for what could potentially have been a one-off/slightly drunk/generally idiotic thing to do.

Write back to him and tell him how inappropriate this behaviour is and that it is effectively emotionally cheating on his wife.

YANBU - yeuch.

I have an ex who contacts me every so often presumably when all the females have left Brighton for the weekend. The last exchange was:

Him - are you married yet?

Me - yes.

The End.

AIBU to think he could dress it up a bit? Maybe open with 'how are you?'

Don't message him- just ignore and block. Speaks for itself.

I agree BOF - I'm not going to engage with him. I know he'd just say that I was being po-faced and taking him too seriously so it would be pointless.

It's quite sad that he hasn't moved on. We occasionally (once in 2 years) see my ex as he lives near my in-laws and was a friend of DHs so they have mutual friends. He has on all 3 occasions come up to me and said "I had a dream about you the other night...." then he goes on to describe so lesbian fantasy-type scene, infront of whoever is their, friends, people I don't know and DH! DH thinks it's weird and everyone just stares at him until he stops talking then we change the subject.

Particularly odd as he finished with me.

YANBU - had a similar email a few years ago from an ex which ended with his asking if I fancied a coffee! I said "yes, coffee sounds lovely, my husband and I will go for one later" and then promptly blocked the twat!