I'm really tired right now which is probably clouding my judgement, but I am feeling so upset and annoyed by my DP I'm almost starting to wonder if he is the kind of man I should be marrying.
I've been away with DD (22 mo) staying with family in Shropshire, DP stayed at home as he couldn't get time off work. I was pretty cut off up there with no phone signal or internet access so on Friday evening when we heard of the bad weather coming the next day I called him.
He was out and I asked when he'd be up in the morning (yesterday), he said early doors as he has to go Christmas shopping (he hasn't bought any presents at all yet). I said I'd call him first thing to find out the weather report at his end as I was driving back. I also mentioned that I hadn't been able to do the Ocado shop as I'd had no internet access (usually use iphone) so I'd have to do a quick shop before we headed to the party we were supposed to go to last night.
Anyway, I called him twice yesterday morning to find out what the weather was saying, as the reports in Shropshire and on the national news didn't mention anything about the M1 at all. It seemed from the weather reports I was just about going to miss the snow but I wanted to know what the report was for the SE.
Anyway, both times (9am and 10.30am) he was still in bed. Actually had a go at me because I was annoyed with him as he'd said he would check.
I decided to leave at midday as planned, and lo and behold hit bad weather. He called me about 2 hours into my journey to tell me that the reports in SE were awful, don't travel etc. Too late to turn back as the traffic was queuing in the other direction, so I had to carry on. Long story short, got almost stranded on the M1, skidding around etc, luckily got a hotel and stayed the night. Got no sleep due to sharing a bed with DD. DP, however, went to the party and had a great time, still texting me at midnight with photos of them having fun and asking me for party game idea. Thanks for that 
Called him 8am to get him to check the weather/traffic again, and headed home.
Spoke to him an hour from home and told him where I was.
Get home, ring him to get help with DD and bags out of car; 'oh sorry I'm just in the bath'. Good timing.
Get in. No housework done. Bed not made. No food in the house. DP obviously just got up.
I just burst into tears and locked myself in the bathroom for an hour to have a soak in the bath.
I feel so let down and hurt. It just seems completely and utterly thoughtless. If it had been the other way round I would have felt so bad for him, made sure I'd been shopping in the morning and had some yummy warm food cooking for his return, house tidy so we could just chill and relax for the rest of the day. Instead he just seemed to have got pissed and had lie ins all weekend.
And to top it all off, my plant is dead as he hasn't watered it once.
We seem to have the same conversation at regular intervals, I'm upset because of his lack of thought in various situations, he gets angry and denies he is in the wrong, I get more upset before he realises he has messed up, he apologises and promises he will be better and it won't happen again. Until the next time.
So, AIBU and too hard on him, or is it actually not too much to expect looking after a bit at times like this?