Was this a resonable behaviour?

[selfrespect01]

A few weeks before my wedding my mother-in-law bought a tie for my husband's tuxedo that he selected on the catalogue of the shop she knows. After bringing it to my husband she tied the tie for him when my husband was trying it on.

Is this normal the mum ties her son's tie in front of his fiancee? I was just watching it at that time as I didnt know how to tie a men's tie but would you be upset if your future mother-in-law did it without asking you?

So your MIL bought a tie for your DH, and tied it for him?

Doesn't sound particularly unusual to me.

lol yes yabvu!

actually, your husband could have tied his own tie couln't he

but no.. why should she ask your permission? he isn't yours any more htan he is hers. she doesn't have to ask your permission to help her own son do something

and as you don't even know how to tie one anyway it's surely a moot point?

No, why on earth would you be upset, it's his mother not another woman!

Bridzilla alert lol

without asking you - why would she need to consult you over tying his tie for him?? really? Now , if it was an ex of his, that would be a different thing......

i thought i was being quick in replying!

i would be mortified if my mil turmed to me and asked permission to do anything at all involving my DH. I don't own him
why would she need to ask my permission to touch her son?

but I would be pretty embaressed if my dh did not tie his own tie. in the scenario you describe I would expect dh to laugh and say 'i think i can manage ma'

YABU. And a bit odd.

as long as she didn't fasten his flies for him......

JESUS - his Mother grew him and made this man the man you want to marry!!!.

You may well be the woman hes chosen to spend his life with but mums are important to you know.

Thank God your not marrying my ds .

Imagine in the future when she gives sugar to your baby 'without asking first'

You are quite right. You should have received a consent form in good time for you to seek proper legal counsell and only on the advice of a legal professional should you have allowed the tie tying to have occured.

Sadly your failure to use the proper process has now given you future MIL untold powers. She is now your nemisis. Your only course of action is to have her destroyed.

This is not abnormal behaviour, doing a tie is hardly intimate. On the odd occasion we have being going somewhere particularly eventful and I have sorted my dh's tie I have always successful managed to not dissolve in to a crazed sexual frenzy.

Unless I am missing something else here UABU

Dis she sit on your sofa too .

By Christ if you already feel that she should ^ask you before she assists her own son then God help the poor woman when you're married to him!

Why on earth would anyone be upset by this? [gonfused]

whoops - successfully

Katie

Odd, very odd, you not your MIL.

Oh rollocks, shall we try confused instead?!

God help the OPs DH if he ever eats anything the MIL cooks!

Seriosuly OP...can you imagine it?

MIL: May I tie your future husband's tie for him?

YOU: How dare you! Of coure not! But thank you for asking.

I'm am possibly the most anti MIL person I know, I can't stand mine and haven't spoken to her since my wedding a year and a half ago. And I pretty much always come down on the side of any DIL over any MIL on the threads on here.

But even I think you are being unreasonable, and slightly wierd.

katie middleton,i salute you

YABU and weird.

is it the tie? did you not like it? had you wanted to help him choose one? did he discard one you had lovingly knitted him for one his darling mummy wummy bought?

PMPL

...Oh, you're being serious.

Get a grip - his mum bought him a tie and tied it. Why on earth would she need to ask you anything?

about fastening his flies though!