to tell DH I think it's mad for us to set out in a blizzard in the car with a 12wo and a 3yo?

[Jacksterbear]

For a visit to friends? They live 45mins away (in good traffic/weather) and it involves going on the M25. Terrified having seen news footage from last couple of weeks that we will break down/get stuck in the blizzard and all freeze. If we didn't have 12wo DD I wouldn't be so concerned. Am I being a drama queen?

YANBU

Thanks all. Well we set off but within 5 mins were passing cars slipping and getting stuck in the snow and I insisted we turned round and came home. DH is sulking now . Because we have a 4x4 which is not likely to get stuck in the snow - true, but that's going to be bugger all use to us stuck in a huge jam on the motorway!

Don't go! Mad idea imo. Obviously yanbu.

Your husband is an arse. What is WRONG with people who chose to ignore the very clear warnings about how SERIOUS this situation actually is. Can you show him this thread OP ?

So, OP posts: "shall we go out in blizzard?"
Overwhelming response from MN: "NO!"
OP: goes anyway.

What was the point of asking?

Clam, the OP didn't want to go and was proven right.

What was the point of your post?

Not to mention, MN, despite what it thinks of itself, is not the be all and end all of correctness.

FFS.

Tell your DH that 4x4s get stuck in the snow, too -- unless they have snow tyres AND wings to fly over everyone else clogging up the roads because they're stuck in the snow!

OP, why did you go if you didn't want to? And now he's sulking?

FFS, another poster with a husband who acts like a twat.

WTF is wrong with him?

Seriously?

He wants to risk his small baby's life so he can visit some friends in a blizzard?

And you went along with that?

FFS

What an irresponsible gobshite. He's not fit to be a father.

And now he's sulking?

How manly.

It is not the car, it is the tyres and how well the person can drive, IMHO your DP was an idiot of the highest order for wnating to go and a prat for sulking about having to come home.

Hope you are all snug and warm now.

"MN, despite what it thinks of itself, is not the be all and end all of correctness."

I hate to point it out, but weren't we also proven right in this instance?

Yes, but that still doesn't mean the OP has to do what we say, now does it?

More women need to learn to say NO! to their twuntish DH's!!!

OP I know you didn't want to go so why did you

You should have said to OH "see ya later, oh and leave the DC's here"

He sounds like a complete toss-pot in his 4x4

I don't know about you, five, but twunts like this didn't even make it past the dating stage with me, much less to marriage! :)

The second they sulked I was out of there.

I don't tolerate sulked from my 7 and 5-year-olds, I'll be damned if I'll take it off a grownup.

4x4 means nothing in the snow, really, particularly if it's one of those ridiculous BMW X5 or Audi Q7 sport 4x4 things. Absolutely shite. I remember one year travelling to relatives in Aberdeen along some pretty treacherous roads and seeing 3 abandoned 4x4 vehicles upside down at the side of the side of the road at various points. We managed fine in our 2-wheel-drive Volvo because we were driving carefully. There seems to be an assumption by some 4x4 drivers that they are invincible to the road conditions... Not all 4x4 drivers, but many.

Just glad that you did make him turn round after 5 mins!

His 4x4 can't drive over the top of the other stuck cars, can it?

He is probably sulking now because really he knows you were right all along but doesn't want to admit it. Never mind, you're all safe, he'll get over it and maybe next time he'll have a bit more sense.

Why did you let him force you??

Really, he doesn't own you, and yes, more women need to learn to stand up to these know it all idiots!! He married you, but doesn't now own you!

Lol Expat, DH has twuntish moments, but being older than him and overly opinionated, I can quite happily tell him to grow up and stop being a twunt!

I'm glad you are home safe and not parked on the M25.

Honestly though, I don't agree with how some of the posters have said it necessarily but I do agree with the sentiment. Your DH was being an utter utter arse & idiot - to want to do that trip, in this weather at all - never mind with his wife and toddler and a new baby.... you should have said NO it's not happening You with the brain and not the testosterone.

Thanks. I take your collective point: we shouldn't have gone at all, I know. Glad we're home and safe now though.

I can't believe you got in the car! My husband would have had to pick me up and throw me in the boot!

Am very glad you turned round, but lesson for the future - if you feel as strongly as you did (and you had good reason) then he cannot FORCE you into the car!

Jacksterbear: As someone (an experienced snow-dwelling 4x4 driver) said on another thread: a 4x4 may lessen your chances of getting stuck in snow but has no more power to stop you skidding on snow than any other vehicle. 4x4s cannot brake on snow any better than other cars. Your DH really needs to know this.

Please don't do what he thinks best if your own instincts and common sense tell you otherwise. Not with a tiny baby.

I'm glad you came home.

Yes. I agree. I've got a little 4x4 and you slide like buggery just like every other car! I think some people think a 4x4 is a tank that can just go and go and protect you in every situation.

That's just not true. You still have to be careful, you can still skid into a ditch!