To think DP is being ridiculous and selfish

[MummyKnows]

a few weeks ago I ordered some stuff from argos. The next day DP decided he would order some stuff too. Cut long story short, DP's stuff was delivered first. Mine is still to arrive!! still, that's just the way it goes isn't it? So anyway two weeks ago I ordered some books off amazon. Half an hour later DP decided to order some books off amazon . Then the snow hit and nothing got delivered for ages. Then yesterday my books arrived. No sign of his. So he went off on one, swearing, moaning, kicking off saying it was "fucking stupid" that mine had turned up first when the orders were only half hour apart and that he was "fucking fuming". His main concern was that my books had arrived before his. God forbid I get something without him!! yet it was fine that all his argos stuff came before mine!! so I said to him "if your books had arrived and mine hadn't you wouldn't give a shit, would you?" and he didn't even answer.
Am I over-reacting or does this show a really spiteful and nasty side to his nature?
We're planning on marriage next year but this kind of thing really puts me off him and makes me wonder if we'd really be suited long term.

As notmyproblem says - it shouldn't be hard work, especially at this stage. Have been with my DH for twenty years and can only think of a couple of occasions when I have felt like battering him with a wet fish

mummyruns - how are you?

FFS dump him. You don't love each other. You don't like each other. THis relationship is not just dead but stinking - why on earth are you still in it?

It depends. Does his behaviour make you feel uncomfortable or even frightened? Men often put on a display of aggression which, while not actually directed at you, is engineered to scare the partner into submission in a sort of 'you really don't want to piss ME off' way.

you need to address this issue, or reconsider a lifetime of this.

Wow. Everything in your posts is screaming leave him - I agree it is not normal to have to ask yourself, or to have others ask you, why you are marrying him. Not once has anyone asked me why I'm with my DH, in fact everyone tells me how lucky I am.

YOU could have that one day. Everybody deserves that. But you will never get that with your current partner. Do you have kids?

Some of it sounds like he is genuinely very annoying, some of it sounds like he is winding you up simply because you have gone off him and now everything he does annoys you. This is a good pair of reasons to get rid, for definite, and it doesn't mean that you will always be just as intolerant of anyone else, honestly! When you meet the right person it will feel different and keep feeling different.

I went out with a chap for a year and we were taking it very seriously and discussing long-term plans. I found him increasingly annoying though and ended up breaking up with him: he had done some genuinely annoying and sometimes emotionally-distressing things but also to be fair I got to the point where i was clearly wound up by him just being him (once I shouted at him for chopping a courgette wrongly! He left loads on the end he was chopping off to throw away, so it was wasteful, but admittedly that was a bit of an over the top reaction!

I'm now with lovely DP and we have a beautiful little daughter together, and even when he does annoying things they're nothing like as annoying as with other chap!