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To hate children that correct adults!

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englandsmistress · 14/12/2010 10:14

My colleague brings her son (9) in to the office today. As they leave I say to him "Happy Christmas, I hope santa brings you the most brilliantest presents"
To which he says, as he rolls his eyes skyward, "it's 'most brilli-ANT'"

and tuts.

Little, shit. He's not even cute Wink

OP posts:
vess · 14/12/2010 22:13

Generally I don't like children who correct adults much, BUT
in this case YABU. To you it's a harmless joke, to him it may sound like you're making fun of him.

hmc · 14/12/2010 22:18

Surprised at the posters defending this boy - eye rolling and tutting is unequivocally rude.

A1980 · 14/12/2010 22:24

Glad someone agrees hmc! It is indeed!

Sn0wflake · 14/12/2010 22:26

Why shouldn't a child correct an adult if they are wrong...blimey kids have to get corrected all day long from adults so why not point out when you are being a bit of a twit.

hmc · 14/12/2010 22:27

Because it makes them revoltingly precocious

FranSanDisco · 14/12/2010 22:31

Snowflake, there is a way to correct people -tutting and eye rolling isn't the way, ever! He was rude.

Ormirian · 14/12/2010 22:31

So if OP was to say' who's a cutey wutey little boy and what is father christmas going to bring you in your stocking then?' he should just have smiled at her and not stabbed her through the heart with a biro?

A1980 · 14/12/2010 22:34

Ormirian, the OP didn't say that, so it's moot.

But I still think that tutting and eye rolling is unacceptable. A 9 y.o. politely saying Ii don't believe in Santa, my mum and dad are getting me xyz presents would perhaps be appropriate but tutting and eye rolling never is.

In general, when you correct your children, do you tut and rolls your eyes at them or do you just say, it's actually this and not that?! So why is it ever accpetable for a child to behave with such rudeness?

Ormirian · 14/12/2010 22:36

If I rolled my eyes and tutted at my DC, they'd laugh at me. But I think they'd get the point.

Yes he was a bit abrupt but the OP should have sucked it up and accepted that most DC don't like being talked down to.

A1980 · 14/12/2010 22:43

But they're YOUR children Omirian.

A child doing that to strangers is unequivocally rude, particularly when the Op was only trying to kind.

Children should learn some manners instead of adults accepting they shouldn't be talked down to and putting up with that sort of rudeness.

When they're all grown up will that attitude cut any mustard with an employer? I doubt it.

FranSanDisco · 14/12/2010 22:44

Well I didn't read it as op talking down to him so I don't see she has anything to suck up.

A1980 · 14/12/2010 22:45

Just imagine that 9 yo as a grown adult on his first day at work, tutting and rolling his eyes at his boss. "I KNOW that already." I can just see it.

If it isn't accpetable for adults to beahve that way, then shouldn't be for children.

A1980 · 14/12/2010 22:46

Exactly FranSanDisco.

If someone had said that to me at 9, I would have laughed and said thank you. But then I didn't have a huge smart ass chip on my shoulder as a child.

tyler80 · 14/12/2010 23:08

A1980

If he was going to Florida he was going to Disneyworld, Disneyland is in California

hmm, perhaps not the thread to be pedantic [sneaks off quietly]

A1980 · 14/12/2010 23:25

Tyler80, it was definitely California. His dad is American and is from San Francisco. They go to San Francisco all the time for holidays but it was his first time going to Disneyland in California. They were going to Disneyland for a few nights from San Francisco while they were away.

He thought he was going to the Disneyworld though. I couldn't be arsed to type the full scenario but he thought I had it the wrong way around but in actual fact, he did. Hence his shouting about stupid I was for getting it wrong about which one he's going to.

Bonsoir · 15/12/2010 08:05

A1980 - you really do like to have the last word, don't you Wink.

cory · 15/12/2010 08:27

I would certainly want my ds to stay quiet and swallow any comments. At the same time, OP, why did you have to choose the age of 9 to speak baby language to? Ime out of all the ages of mankind, 9yo boys are the most sensitive to any hint of patronising or babying. A teenager would have coped far better. But I do hope ds would have smiled politely through gritted teeth.

pointissima · 15/12/2010 08:31

It was an idiotic thing to say to a 9 year-old (even without the "brilliantest"-most at that age are positively offended by the idea that they might be thought to believe in FC); but the child was appallingly rude.

My (v normal)9 year old would just have said "thank you", then asked me afterwards why the OP was being so weird. Enjoying smug moment

classydiva · 15/12/2010 08:35

Saying Santa to a 9 year old is pretty dumb, if by 9 they still believe in Santa I'd be worried.

FranSanDisco · 15/12/2010 09:38

I know lots of 9 yo + who believe in Father Christmas. Classydiva, I don't think their parents are worried at all.

hmc · 15/12/2010 16:06

Quite Fran! Ridiculous comment from ClassyDiva

Original poster
englandsmistress · 16/12/2010 10:11

Are you only able to say Santa to people who may beleive in him? I have had adults ask me if santa brought me anything nice for Christmas.. Isn't it just a turn of phrase?

OP posts:
lololizzy · 16/12/2010 12:38

Hate kids telling adults what to do. Would've got a 'clip round the ear' in my day lol! There is a smug little know it all that comes to the shop i work in. Shop policy is if you are serving a customer you don't answer the phone as customer who is there in person comes first. So i'm serving someone and the phone rings and this kid goes beserk..''your phone's ringing your phone's ringing your phone's ringing'' (umm yes i know!) And all the time interrupting whilst i'm serving. -why arent i answering it..then he goes to reach for the phone himself!!! And his mother says and does nothing!! Just smiles proudly that son is so 'conscientious'!!! Grrr!!

lololizzy · 16/12/2010 12:39

(and i did politely explain to the child why i could not answer. And was working alone).

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