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AIBU?

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To hate children that correct adults!

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englandsmistress · 14/12/2010 10:14

My colleague brings her son (9) in to the office today. As they leave I say to him "Happy Christmas, I hope santa brings you the most brilliantest presents"
To which he says, as he rolls his eyes skyward, "it's 'most brilli-ANT'"

and tuts.

Little, shit. He's not even cute

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englandsmistress · 14/12/2010 17:03

Yes, it would have been ok if he was cute

Of course not dadissad, don't be obtuse!

Loving the mixed responses..! (aware of bad grammar in sentence)

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FellatioNelson · 14/12/2010 17:06

It's quite right to teach your children the correct way to speak, but they must also be taught respect and humility, and that it is very rude to make a show of people who haven't had the same luck in that respect. Smug little shit. But ultimately his parents are to blame.

FranSanDisco · 14/12/2010 17:30

I disagree that this is typical boy behaviour. If you allow your boys to get away with it that's another matter.

FranSanDisco · 14/12/2010 17:34

Actually I just asked dd 10 yo who said she would have replied 'I can't believe you work in this place. Your grammar is horrific!'. . So I am right, this is not typical boy behaviour . I blame the parents, FellatioNelson is right!

FellatioNelson · 14/12/2010 17:35

The child I know who is most likely to do this is a girl. God, she's a foul specimen.

I do know a boy who would do this too, but he's not clever enough to know that 'brilliantist' is wrong!

brokeoven · 14/12/2010 17:36

ahh jeez, you were just being friendly and chatty and making conversation with him....kinda got a kick in the crotch from him there for your efforts didnt you!
little shit indeed yanbu imho

We always have the most brilliantest Christmas in our house, i love to play on words, shows imagination and a fun personality.

Alouiseg · 14/12/2010 17:42

I would rather a pedantic child than my Kevin of a son who asks "why do you get stressed about all that stuff?"

At the time I was screaming at Cheryl Cole on Sunday for some minor misdemeanor

ShoppingDays · 14/12/2010 17:55

booyhohoho I agree and was thinking that too.

"the only reason you find it rude is because you are embarassed that someone so young has picked up on your mistake."

Poshpaws · 14/12/2010 17:58

My 9 year old DS would probably laugh but once we walked away would look at me like this .

Even when I read the op, I thought that 'brilliantest' was a bit of a baby word to use when speaking to a 9 year old.

So, yanbu that he was rude, but I would not have been to upset by his reaction.

Did his mum say anything?

CardyMow · 14/12/2010 17:59

. It has taken me a long time to learn not to correct other people in situations like that, and my DS1 is just as bad for it. At 5yo, in Y1, he got his list of spellings from his class teacher, and pointed out in front of the whole class that she had misspelled 'seaside' as 'seeside'. He did this in such a rude way though - he turned round to her and asked her "How can you as a teacher expect us to learn the correct spellings for words if you are going to misspell them on the sheet we are meant to learn them from".

. Thankfully his tact has imroved (slightly) since then, he is now almost 9yo. BUT, I have to say, he robably would have responded to the word 'brilliantest' in the same way as the boy you are talking about did! I am trying to squash it out of him teach him it's not good manners, he's improving but will still occasionally correct first and think after.

So on that note, YABU. Nine years old is still quite young to be tactful in every situation.

FellatioNelson · 14/12/2010 18:01

Just noticed I wrote 'brilliantist'. In my defence, it is because it's not actually a proper word, so how could I be expected to know how to spell it?

magicmummy1 · 14/12/2010 18:10

I corrected a teacher once when I was about ten. She had written an incorrect spelling on the board for our "spellings of the week" and I felt obliged to point out that it was wrong.

She was furious, and probably thought I was the most annoying little brat ever. But at least I stopped 29 other children from memorising the wrong spelling!

edam · 14/12/2010 18:40

an incorrect spelling on the blackboard is quite different from a friendly conversation, though.

zapostrophe · 14/12/2010 18:42

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booyhohoho · 14/12/2010 18:45

arf at a 9 year old having to be more tactful when dealing with being patronised by an adult!! really!

Niecie · 14/12/2010 18:59

YANBU - it is a bit daft making up words for a 9 yr old you don't really know ( I do it with my DC but then it is messing about) but at the same time he shouldn't be correcting you - it is rude. The eye roll I could take but not the spelling out what you said wrong nor the tut. He is a 9 yr old not an adult.

laydeestardust · 14/12/2010 19:16

My DS who is in year 1 corrected his teacher's spelling-she'd written that he had to dress as a SHEPHARD for the play.
It was even funnier because initially she told him he was wrong and got a book to show him

She thought it was hilarious!

gentlyfalling · 14/12/2010 19:37

Loudlass - thanks for making me laugh hysterically - your DS sounds fantastic!

molemesses · 14/12/2010 19:40

It winds me up too.

My friends son does this all the time and is horribly cocky with it too, despite being told it's rude. His mother and I are just waiting for the day he corrects the wrong person.

I caught my daughter correcting someone once, she got a nudge by my elbow and told to apologise for being rude. Later I had to explain to her that you have to ignore they way other people speak or say things most of the time and just carry on with the conversation.

petratsdontsmell · 14/12/2010 19:48

I think how cute you look does have a bearing on the situation.
I fairly often see unattractive behaviour in some children and make the mental comment 'sorry mate, you're just not pretty enough to get away with that'.
Unfortunatley I think research consistently bears me out- good looking children get a far more positive response thoughout their lives. It is yet another of life's unfairness.

autodidact · 14/12/2010 19:50

Sounds like he could be a bit socially immature. He obviously didn't "get" that you were being deliberately funny and enthusiastic if he felt that correcting you was the right response.

Bonsoir · 14/12/2010 20:05

Am seriously aghast at this thread and at the number of posters who would prefer to be humoured by a 9 year old whom they had patronised under the guise of "politeness".

I'd rather learn my lesson!

ochayethenoo · 14/12/2010 20:13

Today my nearly 4 year old corrected me when she heard me apologising to my MIL for not going round on Sunday.
I was mid lie about how I had had a driving lesson to which my little darling pipes up "no you didn't mummy, you said you couldn't be bothered"
Cringe!

FellatioNelson · 14/12/2010 20:15

So would I Bonsoir, but not that way! It's the mark of an educated yet accepting and decent person not to point out others' flaws like that.

Mumcentreplus · 14/12/2010 20:15

HA!...my DD is a corrector.. but then apparently so am I..(tis all lies I tells ya!) ...

she would probably have smiled politely and then whispered to me afterwards 'Mummy that lady said brilliantest thats not a word!'

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