My daughter is 14 months and weighs about 14 kilos - that is just over 30 pounds, or about 2 stone 2 pounds.
She is off the centile charts, by a fair bit, in that she'd have to maintain her weight for 6 months or so to even hit the 99.8th centile.
She weighed 12kg (1 stone 12) at 6 months of age, then her growth levelled a fair bit and she weighed about 13 and a half kilos (2 stone 1) at just under a year old.
She is also off the chart tall, but that only means a bit, in that she still looks very rotund, with incredibly thick thighs, so thick that I can't really dress her in jeans - even size 2 simply dont fit around her upper thighs. She's a tunic and leggings kind of girl for the time being.
She got there on milk alone really, in that she was weaned at 6 months, by which time she was already 12 kilos. She was formula fed due to the fact that nobody could get her to latch on in hospital, tried everything including the newborn belly crawl, skin to skin, etc, and in fact at the point we decided to let her try some formula from a bottle (about 2 days old when she'd had nothing and they were threatening SCBU) she wasn't really interested in that either - she was 9 pounds 2 born, yet not a hungry baby, and in those early days if anything I was worried about her weight plummeting. Oh the irony!
She she ended up formula fed, I never "overfed" her as such from the point of view that generally speaking, apart from the odd growth spurt when she'd demand an extra bottle in the course of the day, she'd drink the amount that was given as a guidance on the back of the formula tin for her age.
She didn't take to weaning that well, needed to be encouraged a bit, though got better at eating as she approached her birthday. She now eats 3 meals a day and has a bottle of cows milk in the morning and a bottle in the evening of about 6oz each but no snacks. At the same age, her brother would be having 3 meals, 2 snacks, and if you didn't feed him bang on midday and bang on 5pm he'd roar the place down. My daughter is no such child - she can wait till whenever before she eats.
She eats no "junk" - we never go to McDonalds, have chocolate buttons, I dont give her biscuits, she has cereal for breakfast (Oatibix, generally) some kind of lentil or chickpea dish for lunch, or a sandwich if we are out and about, 50/50 bread spread with a little light philadelphia with onion and chives and a little turkey ham, and I generally offer her a banana for "pudding". Dinner is generally some meat like chicken, with vegetables, a corn cob, some mash, or some fish with the same, that kind of thing. If she has a drink, its water, or water with a dash of orange juice or apple juice, but that is generally only with lunch and I'll give her that same drink to finish with dinner. She doesn't really drink a lot of fluid.
The portions are the same kind of portions that I see my friends giving their normal-weight children, I have baby plates and cutlery, she really doesn't take that much and a lot of it ends up on the floor.
She's been seen recently by the HV and our GP and neither have concerns about her weight on the basis that she will probably level out when she starts walking, which she nearly is, and they (thankfully) believe me when I tell them what she eats and in what quantities.
With all that in mind though, am I being unreasonable to still feel concerned for her? How did she get to be so fat on what most babies would not get fat on? What does this mean for her in the future? Does it mean she will never be able to enjoy biscuits, chocolate, a glass of wine or 3, a Friday pizza or Saturday curry without piling on the pounds?
I'm sure other parents who dont know me think I'm overfeeding her or feeding her crap. I am on the chunky side, overweight but not obese, I am just under a stone overweight, I wear a size 14, 12 top mostly. Her father is BMI 24.9, so one cupcake away from being overweight on the charts (!) he wears a 32 waist trouser and looks fine, no pot belly or anything, thin face etc.
I dont really care what other people think of me really, to be honest, as I know what I'm doing, and I'm doing my best, but AIBU to be concerned? What would you do if you had a child with these stats? Would you do anything differently?