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to think this is SO rude

55 replies

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 12/12/2010 17:42

Im fuming, not done anything yet, nor will I, but enjoying making up replies in my head Angry

My DS was Baptised today, relaxed sort of invites, kinda word of mouth. DHs cousin (about 40?) and her DD (23 ish) came, we never really speak to them, but they turned up(fine)

The DD then updated her FB status during the Baptism (only 20 ish mins, no one came to the mass before) "forgot how boring church was! won't be happy if I miss the chelsea game!!"

They came to the 'reception', sat and filled their plates, no word to DH or me (I was doing my best to 'do the rounds'),and left - not even a goodbye.

The Baptism was abit more intimate - only 5 children and bits of family, I cannot believe she sat their on her phone, complaining about something she wasn't even really invited to. I am seething at how fucking disrespectful that is.

Moaning on here to stop me being tempted to comment on her status Angry

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Flisspaps · 12/12/2010 17:45

YANBU really, but you know commenting on her status won't do any good.

I hope that you and your family enjoyed DS's day :)

Laquitar · 12/12/2010 17:46

YANBU

Bloody facebook Grin

ChaoticChristmasAngelCrackers · 12/12/2010 17:46

YANBU and a better person than me Xmas Grin

lostinwales · 12/12/2010 17:46

Ooh the brass neck of some people! I wish I could think of something good to reply to her status with. (she can't be very bright if she posted and has you as an FB friend so it couldn't be anything too subtle!)

TheMonster · 12/12/2010 17:47

Don't let one stupid woman spoil what was an otherwise lovely day.
I WOULD comment on her status. Just something along the lines of 'I am sorry that you did not enjoy my son's baptism'.

Actuallawyer · 12/12/2010 17:47

Moral highground - don't go and lose it over someone who won't appreciate what they've done.

ShoppingDays · 12/12/2010 17:52

YANBU. Get DH to have a word with his cousin and he can let her know that you are not impressed.

colditz · 12/12/2010 17:57

I'd comment - "I don't understand why you came to church at al, you weren't actually invited"

JamieLeeCurtis · 12/12/2010 17:58

Shem for example, is an immature twat

5Foot5 · 12/12/2010 17:58

Good grief! i would be shocked at a 13 yo who had such a low concentration span as to get bored in a 20 minute service and the bad manners to use a mobile device in church.

But a 23 yo! That really is unbelievably rude.

JamieLeeCurtis · 12/12/2010 17:59

she, not Shem

mumto2andnomore · 12/12/2010 18:00

Is she your friend on facebook-so she knows you can see it ? If so Id comment something like 'sorry you didnt enjoy it we had a great day ' and be the bigger person rather than stooping to her level. Hopefully she will apologise.

scoobytoo · 12/12/2010 18:00

I would definitely say something YANBU

scoobytoo · 12/12/2010 18:01

How come you saw her facebook update are you on her friends list or was it through someone else?

complexnumber · 12/12/2010 18:01

I doubt if she will be too happy that Chelsea only drew at Tottenham.

Does that make you feel any better?

Spidermama · 12/12/2010 18:03

Rude of her but pretty standard behaviour for a young teenager who has been forced by her parents to go to church I would have thought.

I'd be annoyed with the cousin for not saying hello. Did you say 'hello' to her though? It's kind of your job.

TBH I think it's as much your fault as theirs and sad that you have come home from a baptism with this much anger.

Sorry.

JamieLeeCurtis · 12/12/2010 18:03

She's 23 Spidermama

Kbear · 12/12/2010 18:05

"Thanks for coming, God and the family were thrilled to see you" :)

ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 18:05

YANBU

I would reply 'Sorry you found DS's baptism boring today, we didn't think you would appreciate the significance of it, it's one of the reasons we didn't invite you'.

ChaoticChristmasAngelCrackers · 12/12/2010 18:06

There you go, simply post Chelsea 1 Tottenham 1 Xmas Grin

toomanychristmaslights · 12/12/2010 18:07

Don't let it her spoil your day. Every time you are tempted to think about it, remember a happy moment of the day such as the joy of having your ds, friends who you did want there, a fun conversation, or how your ds reacted to the water hitting his hair.

RockinRobinBird · 12/12/2010 18:07

I had the same thing with my 16yo cousin this year. I had a BBQ for my dad's birthday, loads of food and drink, all out in the garden, my family are great fun so it was a really good day. When all had gone I went onto FB and saw that she had changed her status to something along the lines of being hungry and bored. She had written this when all the food was out. We were all in the garden having a laugh, she was skulking in the front room on her own. She had even brought her laptop with her ffs.

I did leave a comment, something along the lines of it was no wonder if she was intent on being so miserable and anti social. She apologised. She wasn't the youngest there btw, I have several cousins her age including her brother who were all outside enjoying themselves. So rude, she should have stayed at home.

JamieLeeCurtis · 12/12/2010 18:07

"Sorry you didn't enjoy the baptism Perhaps we should have held it at the pub and killed two birds with one stone"

Prinnie · 12/12/2010 18:11

YANBU but how old is the DD - is it possible she was dragged there against her will? You know what teens can be like, so although it sounds as though her parents were quite rude, I think you might as well let the DD behaviour drift over you as immaturity.

JamieLeeCurtis · 12/12/2010 18:12

The DD was 23.