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to think this is SO rude

55 replies

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 12/12/2010 17:42

Im fuming, not done anything yet, nor will I, but enjoying making up replies in my head Angry

My DS was Baptised today, relaxed sort of invites, kinda word of mouth. DHs cousin (about 40?) and her DD (23 ish) came, we never really speak to them, but they turned up(fine)

The DD then updated her FB status during the Baptism (only 20 ish mins, no one came to the mass before) "forgot how boring church was! won't be happy if I miss the chelsea game!!"

They came to the 'reception', sat and filled their plates, no word to DH or me (I was doing my best to 'do the rounds'),and left - not even a goodbye.

The Baptism was abit more intimate - only 5 children and bits of family, I cannot believe she sat their on her phone, complaining about something she wasn't even really invited to. I am seething at how fucking disrespectful that is.

Moaning on here to stop me being tempted to comment on her status Angry

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ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 18:12

TWENTY THREE

as has been mentioned several times!! There are only 25 frigging posts - try reading them people!

supersalstrawberry · 12/12/2010 18:13

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JamieLeeCurtis · 12/12/2010 18:13

Grin ChippingIn

Prinnie · 12/12/2010 18:13

Ok - sorry, I see it in the first post now! The behaviour was so 15 yo ish I completely missed the age!

YADNBU!!!! (sorry again)

JamieLeeCurtis · 12/12/2010 18:16

Frankly, Even if the DD was a teenager I'd be furious. My oldest is 10 and even he knows not to be so fucking rude as to go on FB in a church .

classydiva · 12/12/2010 18:17

One was 40 the other 23. Im not sure where the 13 comes from of even a youngster.

complexnumber · 12/12/2010 18:22

YANBU but how old is the DD - is it possible she was dragged there against her will? You know what teens can be like, so although it sounds as though her parents were quite rude, I think you might as well let the DD behaviour drift over you as immaturity.

Prinnie

I totally agree, but then I was dragged to all sorts of things I didn't want to go to as a teen.

I knew better than to throw a strop or even a sulk at a family do... You just didn't do it.

5Foot5 · 12/12/2010 18:23

Sorry maybe I confused things by saying I would be shocked at this behaviour in a 13yo. But I did go on to say it was unbelievable in a 23yo.

Firawla · 12/12/2010 18:28

yanbu so rude and 23 is not young at all
i think you should reply to her status as some people have suggested just "sorry you did not enjoy the baptism, we have a great day" or something. so not a rude comment from yourself but makes your point

Jajas · 12/12/2010 18:29

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saffy85 · 12/12/2010 18:29

YANBU I'd have had to sit on my hands to stop myself commenting on this 23 year old's status. Wtf?!

MadamDeathstare · 12/12/2010 18:34

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FrostyAndSlippery · 12/12/2010 18:40

YANBU. I am 23 (well I was until Tuesday) and youth is no excuse. Jeez.

I think a simple "sorry you didn't enjoy my son's baptism" is PERFECT as it is polite but she will, if she has ANY sense at all, be quite embarrassed that all her friends can see how rude she was.

SantaIsMyLoveSlave · 12/12/2010 18:42

I would be very tempted to comment "Sorry you found my son's baptism so boring. Hope you managed to catch the game so that the day wasn't a complete loss for you."

toomanychristmaslights · 12/12/2010 18:44

Love santa's reply

catinthehat2 · 12/12/2010 18:47

I would try to quote her status in your comment in case she deletes it - you don't want to be left with your comment looking a bit off.

Spidermama · 12/12/2010 18:58

OK sorry. Didn't realise she was 23 as only speed read. Apologies.

I wouldn't be able to stop myself from writing a comment on the fb status because it will be so embarrassing for her to realise you've seen it. Perhaps it'll teach her not to be so horribly rude in future. BUT resist the temptation to be rude. Write something like 'Sorry you found it so boring.' at leave it at that. Nothing clever or bitchy which would bring you down to her level. Something simple which puts you above all this.

Sorry your day has been marred and sorry for my unreasonable post earlier. Wish I'd properly read the OP. Blush

whiteflame · 12/12/2010 19:02

I would reply - i would just say 'thanks for coming today, it was nice to see you there'.

she will know you know, and you haven't spread gossip (true or not) about how rude she is!!

SummerRain · 12/12/2010 19:04

my mother invited her neighbour to dd's baptism... he spent the whole afters loudly proclaiming how awful he thought organised religion was and why there couldn't possibly be a god and anyone with faith is a complete moron... all the while downing my parent's food and drink (we had the baptism at their church as we were more part of their community than we were in the city we were living in)

Dp and I were Angry, we're not hugely religious ourselves (but are spiritual in our own way) but ffs a baptism isn't the place for that sort of talk

InLoveWithDavidTennant · 12/12/2010 19:49

I would comment. I woudlnt be able to resist... But then I do tend to say what I think and not care about the consequences. Maybe thats why I get into so much trouble lol

She was rude and wasnt invited. Comment. you know you want to Grin

thisisyesterday · 12/12/2010 19:53

oh i would SO reply, i just wouldn't be able to help myself.

something like "and I forgot how boring it was having relatives at our babies baptism who'd only come along for the free food"

Sassybeast · 12/12/2010 19:57

I wouldn't post on her status but I'd do a separate wall post - lay it on thick about how fab it was to see her and how pleased you are that she took the time to share in your special day. make her cringe Wink

Rollmops · 12/12/2010 20:08

That's what you get if you're related to oiks... Hmm

purplepidjbauble · 12/12/2010 20:39

Tottenham 1 Chelsea 1

God got his revenge for her disrespect Xmas Wink

DasherandSmugly · 12/12/2010 21:03

I would definitely comment.