to not think a coat is an acceptable Christmas present

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

I've bought DP a few things for Christmas. He's bought be a coat (I have it already)

AIBU to feel a bit bloody miffed that he gets nice things that he wants for a present, while I get a thing that I need

I do like it, it's a lovely coat.. but hmmm... I'd quite like some perfume or something. It's not about not having money for things, I wonder if DP just took an easy route to presents.

(not posting this in relationships as I don't want the second post to read 'he's a controlling bastard and you should leave him')

I'd have been delighted if my ex had bought anything from somewhere other than the corner shop! A winter coat would be fab, a Kenwood Chef would be an amazing gift!!

Jareth, I suspect you will be getting non-early presents too. If they are not to your liking as presents either then get yourself something in the sales with the money you have saved by having your coat bought for you.

Mattock is good. When pressed he also admitted that a cheap black fleece "nothing fancy" would be nice. It kind of makes it hard to ask to be indulged...

Last year for my Birthday, and Christmas I got a Slow Cooker and a Panasonic bread maker. Because a) I needed them to make my life easier and b)we couldn't afford to buy those plus a present. Though he did surprise me both times with a few extra bits and pieces :)

A coat is a lovely Christmas present - what's the problem?

So is the real problem that, with your current financial set-up, you feel he can buy an expensive purchase like a coat whenever he wants, whereas you have to budget carefully for it? So the fact that he bought two coats seemingly without thinking about it has made you feel that he has financial options that you don't have?

In my house, a coat would be seen as an excellent Christmas present, btw.

My POLs never want to buy anything as a present that could possibly be construed as basic or a necessity --> lots of useless things we don't want arrive in this home as "presents".

I've had coats/clothes for Christmas, I prefer that as a) DH has very good taste in clothes! (and buys good stuff, more expensive than I would myself); and b) I get more use than from it than things like perfume.

And I think he puts quite a bit of thought into it, rather than dashing in on Christmas Eve & grabbing a Chanel gift pack!

So is it the lack of thought/effort rather than the actual gift you are fed up about?

Jareththegoblinking ..
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