to not think a coat is an acceptable Christmas present

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

I've bought DP a few things for Christmas. He's bought be a coat (I have it already)

AIBU to feel a bit bloody miffed that he gets nice things that he wants for a present, while I get a thing that I need

I do like it, it's a lovely coat.. but hmmm... I'd quite like some perfume or something. It's not about not having money for things, I wonder if DP just took an easy route to presents.

(not posting this in relationships as I don't want the second post to read 'he's a controlling bastard and you should leave him')

This is so wierd.
I always thought Jareth was a Dad.

Hmm...if I were your DH and read this thread, Jareth, I'd be incredibly pissed off and would sell the coat on ebay, then buy myself something with the takings. You may just be in a whingey mood tonight, but you do sound ASTONISHINGLY spoilt.

what I don't get is why you didn't have a choice to buy it for yourself? Couldn't you have said that you didn't really want it as a present and that you'd get it yourself?

My dad once bought my mum boxing gloves for Christmas .....so it could be worse!

rofl, thanks speedy

magic - because I don't have enough money.

Just vino? Tsk. Wanted champagne, aksherly.

and yer'll like it

arf. I'm not a spoilt brat, honestly.. (hoiks up speedy's judgy pants]

I'm very tempted to post this in relationships.. like, as an experiment, innit..

Er....thought you said it's not about not having money for things?

Ha! Caught you out! So you agree with me!

"it's not about not having money for things?"

I meant not having money as presents...

gah, I meant it's not about not having money for presents.. FFS

ah, ok. Assuming that you're a sahm mum then? If so, sounds like your financial arrangements suck - if you've both agreed that you should be at home, then I think you're as entitled to a few luxuries as he is, and you shouldn't have to be grateful for the basic necessities. I can see why you might be pissed off.

If you work, though, and usually keep your finances separate, then yabu.

I asked for a VAX

Oh dear.

YABVU about the coat. MIL already bought me my X-mas present this year. It's a coat. I LOVE it. She took the "easy" way out and bought it because we were shopping together and knew I loved it.

However, the only reason I think YABVU about this is the fact that I love my coat so much. Now if you posted something to the effect of 'to not think socks are an acceptable Christmas present', I'd say you were the least unreasonable person in the world.

[waves] Mme - we ALWAYS disagree :)

We do? Can I disagree with you and say that I didn't think I posted here enough to disagree with anyone?

In fairness I have been lurking under another name for a while now..

MerrilyDefective

What?

Unless you're DS' teacher or Sarah Palin, I'm thoroughly confused. . . and slightly afraid.

haha my work here is clearly done.

I'm so posting this in relationships in a few days though.. just to see the difference in opinion :)

I tried to give dh the hint on my views on practical presents by telling him if I got practical stuff, he'd get a presure hose for the garden. Now he's all excited by getting a pressure hose...

Sonic... i see you and I raise you a mattock.

It's NOT that I'm being ungrateful, not in the slightest. We're in the horrible position where I can probably afford a coat, but it would take my clothing budget for a couple of months. If I need anything, i can just say that I need something and DP pays for it...

If he wants something, he just buys it.

I get it (while thinking your financial arrangement is a bit unfair).

It's nice to get something as a treat when you can't otherwise afford it. That's hardly grasping.

Drop the heavy hints, woman!