to not think a coat is an acceptable Christmas present

[JarethTheGoblinKing]

I've bought DP a few things for Christmas. He's bought be a coat (I have it already)

AIBU to feel a bit bloody miffed that he gets nice things that he wants for a present, while I get a thing that I need

I do like it, it's a lovely coat.. but hmmm... I'd quite like some perfume or something. It's not about not having money for things, I wonder if DP just took an easy route to presents.

(not posting this in relationships as I don't want the second post to read 'he's a controlling bastard and you should leave him')

I got a coat last year, and was pleasantly surprised, as DH had picked it himself and I was dreading seeing it incase I hated it But I was happy!

My DH is very practically minded, so I usually get new trainers or gym gear. have hinted I would prefer jewellery this year- will probably get a bejewelled tracksuit!! Be grateful it's a coat, and not (as my dad once gave to my mum and nearly had it rattled off the back of his head!) a kenwood chef!

PS- he is a controlling bastard and you should leave him

I'd be quite happy with a nice new coat tbh, especially if I needed one. Did you tell him that you didn't really want the coat as a present? And have you dropped sufficient hints about perfume etc? If you already have the coat, perhaps he's got something else for you to unwrap on christmas day.

When he asked what you wanted, did you say "a coat" or did you say "mmmm, suprise me with lovely smelly things and shiny trinkets"?

FWIW, I always get what I need for christmas too. I've asked for a butter dish.

I have bought DH clothes, but I am a controlling bitch, and he should leave me.[fgin]

Can you drop a hint that it would be nice to have something to open on Christmas Day? DH is rubbish at big presents but very good at little presents, so I get chocolate, books, DVDs or suchlike that I wouldn't go and buy for myself.

I mean.

Freudian slip.

PS, pass that fgin over here, Queefer - DH is ill and being a fucking drama queen suffering

YABU.
Of course its acceptable. It may not be thrilling, but you said its a lovely coat.

Poledra.
Touch of Manflu?
mmmm, fgin and tonic.

my first birthday with DH he gave me a blender. We had just moved in together...

You're not being unreasonable to be a bit miffed but I find with DH I often have to show him exactly what I want or I end up in the same position as you. I'm a fussy bugger though.

Just tell him outright you want a surprise present from him too if money isnt a problem!

Its a bit.....grasping isn't it? Sort of stamping foot and saying I want more?

Dunno, depends on how you do things. Seems to miss the point of giving presents IMO.

I'm bemused. He's bought you a lovely coat. You really like it. AND it's something you need. So what's the problem, exactly? Are there rules on what does and doesn't constitute a gift these days?

You sound extremely ungrateful. So yes, YADBVU.

DH went to buy me a kitchenaid for my birthday when we were first together. He mother told him not to under any circumstances.

I'd bloody love a kitchenaid.

I may have been a bit after 6 months together though.

Friends mum got a dyson one year and was happy as Larry!

dad got mum a dishwasher one year. that was a looong xmas.

I don't think OP is being grasping. I see her point. I'd feel too frivolous buying myself a whole coat when there are things the DC need. (We don't have much money though.)

Hence I've put a butter dish on my list. We need a new one, but it isn't really a necessity iyswim.

I've got a coat for Xmas. It's lovely, vintage, sheepskin, a tiger print, three quarter sleeves and WARM. I love it even though I had to go to the cash machine to buy it (market stall and DH seems to have forgotten his card). Only prob - have worn it a lot before Xmas so DH is now wondering if he needs to buy summat else.

cats - I did the same thing for my birthday last year. The coat gets so many compliments. I love, love, love it.

It's not about being ungrateful, you miseries

I NEEDED a coat. I picked a coat. He suggested that he pay for it as an early Christmas present.

I should have suggested that his coat was an early Christmas present from me, but then he paid for that too.

It's not that I don't love the coat (i do!) but it's an essential purchase. He's getting some hopefully lovely things for Christmas, and I'm getting something I neeeeed.

I dunno, I'm jus whinging. It'd be nice to get something I want rather than something I need for once.. but I suspect that is the cry of many Mum's up and down the country at Christmas/Birthdays

(btw, I did email suggestions a month or so ago. I know he will have bought me a book)

Most of this is written with a smile on my face tbh, like I said, i like the coat, it's just different when you don't have a choice to buy it for yourself and have to get it as a present.... feels a bit rubbish.

She's not saying a coat is too much, its just not enough!

x-post. Well why are you telling us this and not him?

Dp has got me I bike, and I ave been informed I ave to go on it

because he'll feel like shit BPB

I am venting, that's all