AIBU to have called my neighbour a f%^king c&*t?

[domesticdiva]

I will set the scene first!

Just spent 6 days stuck at home due to the snow with 2 DSs one 21 months and other 8 weeks, so even walks around the village were out of order as couldn't push a buggy through 2 foot of snow.

So managed to find the car eventually under a snow drift, spent an hour digging it out then loading up the DSs for a wonderous trip to Asda. Asda a nightmare as usual (usually do online but they cancelled the delivery) and DS1 in a strop throughout the trip.

I get back home only to get stuck at the top of our street in an ice/snow hole thing. Spent an hour digging/crying/praying the car would move until I admitted defeat and started knocking on a couple of doors to ask for help. Neighbout in question opens the door an inch, glares at me and when I asked would she or anyone else in her household possibly help me as I am stuck and had two little ones in the car, she snapped "no, there's only me" and slammed the door in my face. I therefore ask MNers whether me (not shouting) saying fucking cunt to her door is not unreasonable.

I would like to state after another very nice couple of neighbours who came to my rescue pointed out that in cunty neighbour hadn't of parked her van as she has done then no-one would need to slow and hence get stuck as I did, so she is already a knob for creating the situation in the first place.

Thank you rant over!!

StewieGriffinsMom, there's a difference between "churlish" and shouting abuse outside a neighbours door. Besides who's suggested that the neighbour is allowed to have a bad day and be rude, whilst the OP isn't? Re-reading all the posts I genuinely can't see anyone here with that POV as you've described.

Well said frgr!!!

The Good Samaritan as rewritten on MN: People are fucking entitled with their expectations there is no moral obligation to try to help others, actually, so there? And ACTUALLY you know I've had a really BAD day, and WHAT ABOUT ME! wah wah wah.

It says in the op she didn't shout it. Even I would think that was beyond the pale

Where does it say the OP shouted abuse at the neighbour frgr?

"shouting abuse outside a neighbours door" is what I said - as, from the OP "whether me (not shouting) saying fucking cunt to her door is not unreasonable"

Diva, YANBU at all.

If I said fucking cunt outside your door now you wouldn't be able to hear me.

woops hit post too soong - "as, from the OP "whether me (not shouting) saying fucking cunt to her door is not unreasonable"" maybe isn't shouting it, but it still doesn't make it right if the neighbour might have heard it.

You could be outside mine now for all I know, saying the same thing.

Good gravy I'm sure she's delighted she posted her rant here! I bet she'd rather have s cuppa tea with the neighbor in question right now that read our posts

OK - haven't read all the thread but I have questions?:
What age is the neighbour?
Does she live alone?
Have you been kindly/friendly to her in the past?

If this is a single person living alone who you have never interacted with before then YABU.

If this is an elderly person who does not live alone but who you have never bothered to interact with before now then YABU.

If this is an elderly person living alone/living with others who you have interacted with on friendly terms then YANBU.

If this is an elderly person living alone then YABU... they probably need your help.

Not trying to be awkward but having spent the last few days observing good neighbours I've re-assessed what that means.

YANBU

My dh broke down yesterday and ended up blocking the street due to heavy snow we are very snowed in. A neighbour was trying to get out so offered to help push him, which he did. Then when dh had managed to somehow get down to the main road he saw and flagged down someone he knows. The man took him to a garage and in return the man asked dh if he would deliver a parcel to someone who lives on our estate.
Later on another neighbour got stuck at the top of our estate (it is very steep)I was trying to clear snow from the road at the time both myself and another woman went over to offer help. The other woman instructed her where best to drive and I just went to give moral support as I would hate to think it was me and nobody came to help.

Sorry for long post but people like your neighbour make me sick. She should get her van off the god damn road and park more considerately. I am no flaming driving expert but would not slam my door on a woman stuck in the snow. She could have said "I will have to get some outdoor clothes on and I don't have any equipment to help dig you out I'm affraid but I will make us a cuppa or watch your dcs" or anything like that.

My other neighbour gave me a bag of grit, I don't know him he has just moved in but one good deed deserves another in my book. He then got his car stuck so his next door neighbour then helped push him onto his drive.
One final word of advise I drive with a shovel in my boot!!! You could also keep some grit or a mat in your car in case you get stuck.

I am sounding like the AA now!!

OP, you were totally overwhelmed - saying it to her door was ok. But don't ever say it to someone's face.

I was walking down the high street in town - walking home from my GP's surgery to my house - when a charity collector jumped in front of me asking me to spare a minute, the way they do. With a sour face, I said 'NO!' He replied 'Jeez, if you're going to be selfish at least crack a smile, might never happen!' I had just been diagnosed with cancer (am fine now). My point is, someone's reluctance to talk/help/be charitable and their apparent frostiness isn't always cuntish behaviour but circumstance. I'm afraid YABU. But I'm glad you're home safe.

(I'm a namechanger, btw, everyone seems to think I'm a phoney now!)

No not unreasonable (although maybe she has mental health issues or has been robbed before after opening her door to strangers) but maybe you could choose language that didn't make you sound so common and chavvy.

This could have happened anywhere,not end of the street. What then ?

Is there anyone else in the household that could mind DC, fetch shopping ?

What would have happened if you left car exactly where it got stuck and walked ?

You're the one who has foolishly and needlessly invited the risks on yourself and very small DC.

Now Random Neighbour, must zoom to your assistance, else they are Fucking Cunts.

Grow up and fuck off, and please don't further endanger your children.

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"YABU YABU YABU YABU....This thread is quite depressing It seems to represent all that is wrong with society today. I'm so pleased you're not my neighbour. Rough as old boots!"

Yeah,man. Saying fucking cunt to a closed door. BROKEN BRITAIN wot u gonna do bout it, Cameron?

Cunt isn't used often enough, IMO. I would have daubed it on her door in lipstick myself. She probably has no friends.

Also, massive LOLS to the usual MN foamers coming up with possible hypothetical scenarios for why someone might have behaved undesirably. Is it never possible that someone is just rude?

Cumfy seems to be suggesting that merely asking for help is a hanging offence.

I think I might change my mind on this one.

I'm finding myself more and more disgusted at the OP for trying to feed her darling children.

She had no right to feel a sense of entitlement to go out in the snow.

She should have either left her two babies at home on their own while she went out to get the shopping in, or when she got stuck, staggered home with them for the 67 miles left to get to her house.

Honestly OP, I got it totally wrong last night, it's you that's the fucking cunt, and not that poor door at all

"Is it never possible that someone is just rude?"

Oh, of course it's possible. I rather think several people on this thread have proved that.

Just because the neighbour was unable to help doesn't make her a cunt. Perhaps how she handled it makes her rude but no ruder than the OP.