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AIBU to have called my neighbour a f%^king c&*t?

104 replies

domesticdiva · 03/12/2010 21:41

I will set the scene first! Grin

Just spent 6 days stuck at home due to the snow with 2 DSs one 21 months and other 8 weeks, so even walks around the village were out of order as couldn't push a buggy through 2 foot of snow.

So managed to find the car eventually under a snow drift, spent an hour digging it out then loading up the DSs for a wonderous trip to Asda. Asda a nightmare as usual (usually do online but they cancelled the delivery) and DS1 in a strop throughout the trip.

I get back home only to get stuck at the top of our street in an ice/snow hole thing. Spent an hour digging/crying/praying the car would move until I admitted defeat and started knocking on a couple of doors to ask for help. Neighbout in question opens the door an inch, glares at me and when I asked would she or anyone else in her household possibly help me as I am stuck and had two little ones in the car, she snapped "no, there's only me" and slammed the door in my face. I therefore ask MNers whether me (not shouting) saying fucking cunt to her door is not unreasonable.

I would like to state after another very nice couple of neighbours who came to my rescue pointed out that in cunty neighbour hadn't of parked her van as she has done then no-one would need to slow and hence get stuck as I did, so she is already a knob for creating the situation in the first place.

Thank you rant over!! Grin

OP posts:
panettoinydog · 03/12/2010 23:00

I am referring to shan and others saying the same kind of stuff

curlymama · 03/12/2010 23:00

YANBU at all. She should have at least offered for you and the DCs to come inside and use her phone or whaever. The fucking cunt. I can't abide non community minded people.

Would you say the same if you knew this woman had just been told her DP had cancer? Maybe I'm taking it to the extreme, but it's possible.

Look at it if it were a thread posted by door woman. AIBU to have not helped a woman with children stuck in the snow because I just had some terrible news? Or my medical condition is bad today? Or I just had a massive row with DP and was really upset? Or I had a migraine?

I don't believe this fictional poster would be met with loads of YABU's.

BluTac · 03/12/2010 23:02

In fact I'm going to go round and call my neighbour a cunt now. It's richly deserved and it's been a long time coming.

panettoinydog · 03/12/2010 23:02

Why are you telling us?

BluTac · 03/12/2010 23:03

Why shouldn't I?

AgentZigzag · 03/12/2010 23:03

Yes blutac, why are you telling us cunts?

Get yourself round there and tell us the consequences when the deed is done.

BluTac · 03/12/2010 23:04

Back in a sec

Lovesdogsandcats · 03/12/2010 23:05

No YANBU, because, quite frankly, she is a cunt. And a fucking cunt at that.

AgentZigzag · 03/12/2010 23:05
HerBeatitude · 03/12/2010 23:08

Oh this therad is hilarious.

The thing is, even if the cunty woman had just heard she had cancer, she wouldn't know the OP had called her door a cunt. So what difference did it make to her?

And also, if the OP had known Mrs Cunt had just heard she had cancer a) she wouldn't have called her a cunt adn b) she wouldn't have disturved her by knocking on her door.

HerBeatitude · 03/12/2010 23:09

Sorry, I mean her cunting door, obv.

BluTac · 03/12/2010 23:09

Well she wasn't very happy I don't think, but she had to concede that I had a point, and we've agreed to live next to each other in peace and happiness from now on. Must be the magic of christmas Smile

frgr · 03/12/2010 23:12

There are a lot of "shoulds" being bandied around on this thread. Neighbour should have... "of course anyone should have"....

Christ, people - the OP was asking the woman a favour. She has no moral or legal obligation to help out. Why SHOULD she do anything, especially when we don't know her own circumstances?

No one has cause to be rude (either the neighbour or OP), it's simply a matter of expectation here, which is entirely the OP's problem. For all we know the lady might know that the OP is the type to shout cunt at her door, and wanted nothing to do with the OP Hmm

Thank god I don't live near some of you, I prefer to think that when other people ask favours of me that I have a genuine choice about whether to accept. And if it is, it is graciously appreciated - if not, disappointing but not enough to have abuse shouted at the door. It's unbelievable.

Lovesdogsandcats · 03/12/2010 23:12

Yes, she's a cunt, and so is her door. Perfectly reasonable to voice that fact, anyone else agree?

curlymama · 03/12/2010 23:13

No but she's thinking it, and that is equally as mean spirited. She should be thinking, or muttering, 'I hope I haven't disturbed that lady or upset her at all by knocking on her door' But she didn't, instead she put her own problems first and thought this woman was 'fucking cunt'enough to warrant posting about it on here.

Cumbrian07 · 03/12/2010 23:14

Blutac you are funny Grin Grin

AgentZigzag · 03/12/2010 23:16

You're such a fucking cunt blutac.

But as you say, you have to do some things, however unsavoury, in the spirit of peace, happiness and the festive season.

I'm actually starting to see you in a community hero light.

Lovesdogsandcats · 03/12/2010 23:16

Bloody hell, someone round the corner from me spent ages last winter helping me dig a safe path to my door, and other than 'hello' we don't really speak - thats what neighbours do! More so when your neighbour is as clearly upset as OP was.

BluTac · 03/12/2010 23:19

We need more people calling their neighbours cunts, not less! The "fucking" is optional imo.

hmc · 03/12/2010 23:20

Ah - I understand your frustration, stress and misery and so grant you a pardon.

But it wasn't very edifying really was it?

defineme · 03/12/2010 23:24

Yes it is entirely reasonable to expect someone to help a person, particularly with tiny babies, in these circumstances. Imo there is no choice there, it's basic humanity.An absolute moral and social obligation.
That kind of ignorance is a crime against us all.
Using the word cunt when you're very stressed and your dc are screaming? Perfectly appropriate.The English language is a wonderful thing-every last word of it.

Your priorities are twisted if you think the morally superior person is the one who didn't swear Shock

StewieGriffinsMom · 03/12/2010 23:33

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AgentZigzag · 03/12/2010 23:37

That's all very well SGM, but you haven't stated whether they're cunting double standards you're talking about, or just normal, run of the mill ones...

curlymama · 03/12/2010 23:39

SGM, of course OP isn't supposed to behave like an angel at all times, but she doesn't seem to have given any thought to the fact that the door woman could be dealing with her own lifes crap.

Someone else did come and help, because they were in a position to be able to. Door woman may have helped just as much on a different day. Therefore, it's not really fair to make the judgement that she is a fucking cunt.

GotArt · 03/12/2010 23:40

BluTac LOL I agree.

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