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to not want DS to be weighed and measured at school

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choufleur · 30/11/2010 18:06

Got letter from DS's school today to say that he will be weighed and measured (obviously along with all other kids in his class) to see if he's a healthy weight.

I think it's a completely pointless thing to do. And one that could potentially contribute to healthy children having issues about their weight.

AIBU to not let him be weighed and measured?

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ArthurPewty · 30/11/2010 19:49

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purplewednesday · 30/11/2010 19:52

Childrens health is not the schools problem, it is merely the venue where large amounts of them can be accessed for a public health intervention, same as vaccination programmes.
From a public health perspective though, education and health are closely linked.

purplewednesday · 30/11/2010 19:54

Custardo do you think the child benefit should be dependent on attendance of parenting classes? I can see how it may work...

ArthurPewty · 30/11/2010 19:55

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PixieOnaLeaf · 30/11/2010 20:05

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Tortington · 30/11/2010 20:08

yesyes i do

choufleur · 30/11/2010 20:12

Why Pixie? Does she have health issues? Even so measuring twice a week seems excessive (how much can a child grow in 3 - 4 days? )

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TattyDevine · 30/11/2010 20:24

"people do need educating about the dangers of obesity. Thats why children are weighed in school and the parents told if their DCs are overweight"

Well, then, since they started the national child measurement programme 5 years ago, the child obesity epidemic should have vastly reduced, then?

Why hasn't it?

What I am saying is, simply weighing and sending a letter does not educate people on the dangers of being obese.

A person who is properly educated on the dangers of being obese and who is genuinely concerned enough to want to do something about it involving lifestyle change will need to be self-motivated to do so, or it wont happen.

poobumfartbollocks · 30/11/2010 20:42

I also want to point out.

DS1 was weighed/measured at aged 16.

He came out on the charts as being morbidly obese

Grin Grin Grin

He was doing a sport at international level at the time

Bunbaker · 30/11/2010 20:49

They don't weigh the children at DD's school. Do they only pick certain schools or certain areas?

gonaenodaethat · 30/11/2010 20:58

YABU. If your child was overweight would you not want to know about it?

Weight gain happens slowly and if you're seeing your child every day it might escape your attention.

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thisisyesterday · 30/11/2010 21:22

sorry, haven't read the whole thread (yes, i know i know it's intensely annoying)

but choufleur i felt exactly the same! and i didn't consent to any of it except the hearing test, which incidentally was rubbish anyway. I put on the form that i wanted to be present when he had it done

i think it's all utterly unnecessary.
If they have concerns about a child they need to speak to the parents about it

vetting every single child doesn't help does it? apart from giving them statistics on the average height/weight of kids

TattyDevine · 30/11/2010 21:28

"Tatty - Why do you have to be present when your child steps on the scales? Can't she do it alone? Or do you think the nurse might abuse her?"

No, its not about abuse at all.

By me being present at all health checks, I can ensure the health checks are conducted in a way I am content with. If they are not, I can give feedback, change provider, change GP surgery. If they are but I have questions, I can ask there and then, at the time, and not have to ring someone up or be passed around a system.

By me being present, it perpetuates a system where the child's health is in the hands of loving parents and a GP/health care provider that is chosen by the parent and vetoed by the parent if they are not to their liking.

Quality of care can be controlled.

To the person who asked me if I'll be hauling ass into school for all the health checks - no, I wont, I wont be giving them permission for my child to be weighed.

Not sure about sight tests and hearing screening either - haven't considered this yet - I can say that I refused permission for my newborn daughter to have infant hearing screening in the hospital as a newborn though. This was an example of me applying quality control and vetoing a service I did not feel they were competent enough to perform.

thisisyesterday · 30/11/2010 21:28

ok read most of it now

so... it seems that you all think this is necessary because what about the poor fat children whose parents don't care?

well... how will they be helped by my son being weighed?

the teachers are with these kids 6 hours a day. if there is a child there who is overweight, or being neglected in some other way they will notice it

the entire class doesn't need to be weighed to find this out, the teacher needs to bring it up with the parents and any relevant outside authority

thisisyesterday · 30/11/2010 21:31

agree with all tatty has said

plus... it's just unnecessary!

we took ds1 to a good local optician (that dp uses) and they did his full sight test, for free
we were there and could make sure he was happy with everything that was going on and he wasn't upset in any way.
we got the results immediately, saying his sight was perfect

if i was concerned about his weight then I would see the GP.

so I have opted out because I feel I am capable of looking after my own child's health.
This makes no difference to any other child at the school who may need help in some area does it?

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piscesmoon · 30/11/2010 22:00

'piscesmoon: you dont know my DD1 then. she got quite upset about it!'

Why? Who has got her in the frame of mind where she is upset?

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piscesmoon · 30/11/2010 22:07

That is quite understandable and in that case wasn't specifically about being weighed. She would have been just as upset if she had been taken out to have her photo taken -to speak to the school governors etc.

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piscesmoon · 30/11/2010 22:13

Hopefully Pixie she will have a statement and a TA to help her.