To report the parents on the other side of the wall

[SteelMagnolia]

We share a wall with a family I haven't met. The entrance to their house enters on a gated mews, while ours opens onto the street. For at least nine months, we have heard crying babies on the other side of the wall. We have a one year old, and of course, he cries sometimes. But these babies...I think there are two...cry ALL the time. It just doesn't seem right. I'm listening to it now.

I feel like I should report this. Possibly these children are neglected, or perhaps the parents just cannot cope? Our experienced nanny also finds it odd how often, and for how long, these babies cry.

Would I be unreasonable to report this? If not, who do I call? And will they even do anything, given that I've never even laid eyes on these people?

Intergalactic - I am sure that wherever you are there will be someone (or several someones!) who would love to meet up for coffee!

I'm in the SE :)

Intergalactic - I'm in Herts if you want to meet?

YABU. Some babies cry a lot. Our next door neghbour hasd a baby who cried lie that, They were great parents and definatly didn't neglect the baby but he was just one of thise who cried no matter what they did,

Just wanted to say that I have not passed judgement on my neighbors. I have just heard babies that appear to be unattended and felt, over time, that perhaps have some responsibility in doing SOMETHING to make sure they are ok.

Would like to say also that I am not weird or shy or antisocial. It's hard to explain properly but we do not share a back wall over which I could shout...we have no back garden, and they are behind a gate with many different buildings and addresses.

However, I have been motivated by the number of people who have said that I really need to go around there in person, even if it is difficult or awkward. So, last weekend, I was walking past and the door to the mews was propped open. I went in there, and was able to find out what their house number is. It was 9am on a Sunday so I thought not appropriate to knock just then, but now I have a way to know which house to buzz! Or failing that, to send a note.

This week my whole family has shared around a cold with fever so not the best time to make contact with the neighbors. But hoping that this Saturday afternoon I can do that.

Anyway, that's the update. Thanks to those of you who have been helpful and constructive. If I can get in touch with them, will post again.

That's great, hope you all get better soon and you can pop by and put your fears to rest and perhaps become good neighbours

OP why dont you mention this to your HV then she can find out whom is HV for the place and they can see if the mother needs help.

SteelMagnolia - did you meet your neighbours? What happened?

Why not "accidentally on purpose" chuck a ball over the wall, then you have an excuse to go over and knock?

Then can get talking.

Probably nothing sisister going on, but likely that someone who has a baby that cries that much could use some friendly support.