to be upset that my dd age 4 came out of school with half her hair cut off!!: (

[armani]

GRRRRRRRR! just need to rant! my dd has beautiful long blonde hair,today she came out of school and somelittle *** has cut her hair!!!!at the front it is awful cut down to the root and at the back her pony tail has been mostly cut off :(

im so upset for my dd, why would another child do this?

you appeared to draw a comparison and inference was it assault if child involved

This happened to me at school (although a bit older). A boy cut half my ponytail off. Snip - and there it was, lying on the floor. I was devastated.

It must be ever so upsetting for you and your DD, but it will grow back (sorry if that sounds glib, but it will, it's hair).

The child in question should be punished, of course, and kept away from scissors until he/she can use them responsibly. But they are 4 yrs old. Very young.

And I think you'll have to take the lead on this and be upbeat and calm with your DD, lots of 'it will grow back', 'we'll get you lots of lovely new hair bobbles and do some fab new styles' etc. If you let it get &you^ down too much, it will be tougher for your DD to recover from.

OP - you are quite right to be very upset by this - don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

School ought to have better discipline than this.

You are not being unreasonable to be upset but YABU to be livid/angry at the teacher/call the child concerned a shit etc.

This sort of thing happens all the time. Either we accept that it is an unavoiadable stage of growing up or we stop children having free access to scissors, which is ridiculous.

Talk of taking an eye out is hysterical - has anyone ever in the history of the world heard of such an incident? But we can each recount several hair cuts. Think we can calm down on that one.

I played hairdressers with my pal when we were about 3 or 4 and didn't realise she was going to use real scissors. My mum cried and I had a fringe for the only time in my life. But these things happen and it is only hair, it will grow back.

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I would be furious(not with either 4 yr old) but the school

ive seen more sympathy when neighbour uses wheelie bin threads than on here

mum right to be upset.id be incandescent

it is a big deal

But what can be achieved by storming down to the school crying and shouting the odds, except for making yourself look mentally unstable?

It is a very upsetting incident, but it has happened now. Helping the little girl to move on is the most important thing.

It would be reasonable to express to the teacher that you are very upset, OP, and to seek assurances that the use of scissors will be more closely supervised in future. But there really isn't much else anyone can do.

My friend chopped off one pigtail during her first day of school. Her dad picked her up with one pigtail and one stump.

My mum was a Brown Owl and one of her Brownies used safety scissors to cut her fringe... the Tawny Owl hauled the girl in front of the pack to explain what happens when you cut your own hair.

I was accused of cutting someone's hair in Art class in secondary school, fortunately the teacher believed me, not the shrill bully.

And I cut DH's hair, giving him a graduated bob and necessitating a trip to the hairdresser, who found it hilarious and called all his colleagues out to see what I had done.

So, OP, it is common, it will grow back, and it's all part of life's rich pageant.

isnt about remonstarting at school .thats daft.is about legitimately feeling upset at unfortunate mishap

No it's not a big deal, unless the OP chooses to make it one.

It is unfortunate. It was presumably done without malice and I suspect mum is waaaaaay more upset about it than the child.

Getting upset about it will only cause the child more upset.

I'd be sorry for dd, but I wouldn't certainly be upset or pissed off. It is a fairly common accident at that age, and most likely not done out of malice.
They are children, they manage to look super cute even with a mad haircut .

H&M has fantastic hair clips.

Well, scottishmummy I think we agree about how upset we'd be if it happened to our child/ren.

But on the school run just now - I was thinking about it - and actually most behaviour from children could be construed as assault if from an adult - so I realise that it does have to be put into perspective as children aren't culpable at the age of 4. And I'm not saying that anyone should be sued, just that it'd be a different story were adults involved.

I don't think it should be dismissed as an over-reaction though - OP is not being unreasonable to be very upset about it.

if you want to overthink normal 4yo child behaviour eg pushing, snatching,fighting,shouting and transpose those age appropriate behaviours onto adults and start chunterring about assault,well that is one massive leap

my toddler threw breakfast bowl at me this morning, i ducked it hit wall.nice big schlep as it slid down wall. i dont think i was assaulted.i am able to differentiate child doing this from an adult.isnt comparable

cannot compare age appropriate child behaviour to adult so no amount of well if adult had done this...

Unreasonable?? I would be utterly livid and down there reading the absolute riot act!! I am so so sorry for your little girl and I doubt that there was any malicious intent in it but surely someone should have noticed - it must have taken quite a while to hack through so much with blunt little scissors!!

You sound a little hostile, scottishmummy. I apologise if what I said has offended you, I don't see how it has but obviously it has somehow.

not hostile at all pointing out the obvious flaw.now if you are touchy and that feels hostile,fair enough

Take loads of photos of her hair as it is now and bring them out at her hen do/wedding.

She will definitely thank you for it

i would be more angry that such small children had sisscors without being watched over,i would be demanding an explaination from the head teacher

"Devastated" "livid" really?! Because one child has cut a childs hair? Total overreaction and projection of own feelings onto child's play. Bet the children arent bothered until mummy starts tearing her own hair out about how devastating it all is. Get a grip. Do hope the OP hasnt gone huffing into school to harangue some poor overworked teacher.

No, I'm not touchy - far from it in fact.

Besides - I feel you missed the point I was trying to make entirely.

well you would say that,wouldnt you

I don't get this whole one teacher/ 30 kids thing that's gone through this thread. My daughter's class (also reception) has 4 adults in there so it's more like one adult keeping an eye on 7 children and yes I have done that, that's looking after my brother's children with my own.

FWIW I gave myself an MN haircut with a pair of ELC scissors.

What? What sort of comment is that?

You would say that you're not hostile, wouldn't you? - but 'pipe down', and 'chuntering', 'touchy' are all words that indicate to me that you are in fact hostile. And I think you're looking to pick a fight about nothing (I've seen enough threads to know you do like to pick a fight). I'm sure there must be someone else who can be your focus today - it sure isn't going to be me.