to be getting a bit fed up with comments about how 'different' my dc3 looks?

[LetThemEatCake]

dark haired family, dc3 is randomly blonde

although not so random really as dh was also blonde until 6.

getting bored of people saying "OMG!! he's so blonde!!" But no big deal, just boring.

But twice in last week - "he doesn't look like he should be yours" from one and "are you sure he's yours?" from another. Which, stupidly, panged and rankled.

Some people are really stupid. I don't mind people telling me DC are beautiful , but comments like "one of the milkmans" etc are not that funny, IMO.

My DD looks just like DH and nothing like me. Also they both have fair skin, blue eyes and light brown hair, I have darker hair, brown eyes, live skin.

Comments have included "she doesn't look like she's yours" "she looks like she's adopted", just ignore.

It is just the way it goes. Dh and I are dark. Dd1, dd2 and dd3 are dark. Dd4 is as blonde as blonde can be. I just tell everyone she is the milkman's.

Maybe you should say something like...

"OMG!!! Do you think the stork dropped off the wrong baby "

Let it slide off you.

It's really interesting how different kids in 1 family look and people just say what's in their heads.

My ds1 and dd look like boy girl versions of same child, but dd's twin brother ds2 looks totally random with different colour eyes from all of us!
We do make the odd comment along the lines of 'isn't it funny-don't know where he came from' but obv it's brown eyed grandparents on both sides!
As I've often thought it myself I find it hard to worry what strangers think.

Years ago when ds1 wasa ginger baby (now totally blonde) the women on the checkout at Asda asked brown haired dh and I how he could be ours- I thought that was hilarious!

Get it all the time

DD1 and DS are dark. DD2 was so blonde as a small child her hair was practically white, and is still a natural blonde aged 17. She used to be asked by school mates who didn't know her well what hair colour she used.

Both DH and I were fair as kids. DD1 & DS take after my side of the family - DS looks like my younger brother in old family photos.

DD2 looks just like a number of her cousins on DH side, so no problem when she's with them - also my DBs kids are really blonde so in larger family gatherings it does not look odd.

But otherwise we still get the coments.

YANU because it does grate after a while. I recall being left speechless by a fellow dogwalker asking if my DDs had the same father! Well, yes, actually but... but... WTF?!

We have a trend for 'odd one out' babes in our family - one Aunt out of 5 children favours my late Nan, who was dark, the rest are very fair, my own DDs are completely different to one another and I have cousins who you'd never think are brothers - one is broad, dark and quite, the other a slim, livewire redhead.

You just have to rise above it and remind yourself that thankfully the rude people are in the minority.

Don't let the buggers get you down.

Dammit, dark haired Alan may or may not be quite something, but what I meant is that he is quiet!

I get that comment, but all 6 of us were blonde as babies/young children, and only the 9yo and 2yo still are. I think it's hilarious, it is not an unusual biological phenomena for LOs to be quite fair.

4 DC have 4 different eye colours, nobody comments on that, I find it fascinating!

Awww LTEC, I think I may have been guilty for passing comment abouth how blonde your ds2 was but my goodness me he is the spitting image of your ds1, who looks just like you!

Hey just think it's not as bad as all the people that comment on ds's beauty and then look at my dd and say (in front of her) awww never mind, perhaps she'll be clever

Ignore the stupid comments.

In my family, us three all had different hair colour - ginger, blonde and dark. the blonde and dark ones are twins as well! Both parents had relatively non-descript brown hair, so not sure where either the ginger or the blonde came from!

I au paired in Italy for a while - twin 2yo boys and their older sister - the twins were both very different, one small, fine and fair, the other large, dark and solid. Old ladies in the park were always commenting on them - and asking if they were fed different foods to be so different. The classic comment came from one who asked if they were born in different places!! As if their mum would have run down the road mid-labour to deliver the second one in a different place...

I hope your youngest doesn't hear the stupid comments and take notice of them - it can be incredibly hurtful for small DC to hear such things and set up all sorts of insecurities for them. Laugh at people who make such comments and ask them how they can be so narrowminded! Or something, anything to reassure your DC that these people are saying stupid things and that OF COURSE they are all your DC.

I get this all the time - hardly surprising as I am not biologically related to DD. I'm not bothered by it.
Apparently she has all my mannerisms, though.

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I still get all the comments about dd being blonde haired and blue eyed despite us all being dark. but thanks to your "genetics made easy" explanation a while ago on fb I now describe her as "mummys likkle throwback aren't you darling" when people comment

My Mum used to say "No, we found him on the back step" with an unsmiling face.

I would say " are you rude, or just stupid" or "well at least my dd doesn't have a bag of spanners for a face...."

When Dd was about 6 months old, her father took her to the supermarket on his own.

Dd is very white with blond curls and sparkling blue eyes (see profile pics). Her father is black and I'm olive skinned with dark brown hair and eyes...
Cashier asks if he's a black man yes he says. She then asks if she (Dd) is his, he says yes (by now he's a bit annoyed). She says 'her Mum must have really strong genes then'

I laughed when he told me. A lot!

I get this all the time - Me - half portuguese, olive skin, dark brown hair, brown eyes. DP, scottish, black hair, bright blue eyes. DS (2yo) - fire engine red hair, skin so white it's blue and almost black eyes.

The number of times I've been asked if DP is his father, or asked "Oooh, where does the red come from?" (with added suspicious glare)...I've started saying that I dye it, just to see the reaction

thanks everyone. You have all made me feel better.

I do worry about dc3 picking up on the comments and 'feeling' different, although he is young yet (14 mths)

funny what comes into your head though - woman at nursery was one who said "he doesn't look like he should be yours today" as she was bfing her new dc3 and into my sleep-deprived hormonal head (first period in 2 years) came the words "yes, well that baby doesn't look like it should be yours either, you;re holding it so bloody awkwardly to bf it."

My mouth just grimaced though

Megglevache I can't even believe that anyone would say that about your dd, she is divine!! I know I focus on your ds a bit but only bc he is my future Son in law ....

Ha my dc3 is also randomly blonde, although not shockingly blonde, but much lighter than the other 2. Meh just ignore, not worth being offended over.

Ds1, ds2 and ds3 are all blonde. When ds4 was born he had a thick, dark mop of black hair. Everyone commented on it, not in a bad way but because it was unexpected!

Which led to ds3 thinking that dark hair was superior in some way and sadly saying "I hate my blonde hair!"

When ds was less than 2 I did a boy swap with a friend. One afternoon I had hers with mine and another she had mine with hers. Mine was big and chunky, blonde and blue eyed. Hers was dark and skinny and brown eyed. The number of people (esp elderly ladies) who squealed "are they twins" was amazing.
YANBU OP.

I just think that people see a gorgeous baby and simply have to make a comment - it doesn't matter what, just something, usually brash and a bit strange.

I'm quite pleased now that Charlie (now 3) will start saying random stuff to strangers that stop us to admire his hair (beautiful blond curls) and leaves them utterly confused and wanting to get away sharpish not expecting the child to start telling them his stories about us going to the seaside (they're learning about the sea at nursery) and about how Hugo was wearing a hat to go outside at nursery and then fell over and said "oo, my knee" and then said "oof fall down" and jumped up and ran away etc (that story's quite a long one)

I usually go for a comment about hair or a general "Ooo, she/he is gorgeous, how old are they?"

I just wonder how long it will take before we can walk through a throng of old ladies and not get stopped half a dozen times...

I have two brown haired children ( like dh) a red head ( like me) then suddenly number 4 popped outbwith blonde/ white hair! I do think it may be getting redder though,

Don't let it bother you.

My DC are both quite fair (like me) and my DH is dark haired and looks a bit Mediterranean-ish. When we go for a Kebab he often gets talked to in Turkish, when we are in Italy everyone assumes he is Italian and blathers in Italian with him.

One time we were in a Turkish restaurant and the waiter asked why I was speaking English and DH German to the DC. I explained that DH was German and I was Scottish. He spent the next ten minutes looking at us, then the DC then looking back at us.

Eventually he came back over and asked my DH, "Are you really the children's father?".

Just as well DH is not suspicious :o

If there's one thing you be sure of when you're a parent it's that people are very free with their comments about children and babies.

I was the family member who didn't resemble the rest and people often pointed it out. Then two of the DCs turned out to have red hair and here I am nodding and making pleasant small talk with random strangers who think they're being so original, all over again... I thought of preparing a long, boring scientific explanation of red hair and 'where it comes from', but life's too short.