38 wks pregnant and DH not returning phone calls ?

[batsforlashes]

Called DH 1.5 hours ago and he still has not rung back. I am 38 weeks pregnant and he is not down a mining shaft- works in an office.

Does he deserve a roasting ?

Hmm, not really. I can see why you're annoyed but could he be in a meeting or something? Would he assume as you only rang once that it wasn't an emergency?

No. Find out his reason first. He could be in a meeting room on something vital and forgotten his phone. If it's urgent then phone reception.

I think try to chill out a bit and hear him out when he does call agin/come back home

Depends what you phoned him for. It's not always possible to drop everything to return a non-urgent phone call.

If you had needed him, and said so in the message, and he had actually been given the message and chose to not return your call, then you could rip his bollocks off.

Well we had agreed last week after the same thing happened that he would have the mobile with him - he basically spends all day every days in meetings ( he is a lawyer) so needs to have his mobile with him and call me back.

Really I am not some sort of drama queen - this is DC3 -but at this stage the receptionist is gone home and there is still no sign of him. I know he does not have the mobile with him as he would always pick it up and let me hear that he is in a meeting if he cant talk there and then- sort of a code.

And no- I am not in labour- just a tired mum who needs her husband to be a bit more reliable.

don't flame him

he's busy, you don't need him urgently, not sure why you are moaning tbh

Is it possible it was noisy and he didn't hear the phone and so hasn't seen the missed call?

He's in the pub. Think he might be with mine.... He's not appeared home yet either and not answering either of his mobiles.

YANBU
I'm 30 weeks pg, and dh knows that even now, if he doesn't either pick up the phone straight away or ring me back as soon as possible, he'll be in trouble.
However, I recommend you listen to the others, as they sound more rational and calming.

His job depends on him being professional. He cannot always answer, it depends on the sutuation and whether it would be appropriate to drop everything and call you straight back. You should perhaps organise for a friend or family member to be available in an emergency. Sorry to be harsh but you doubtless enjoy dh's professional level salary. You're going to have to take the rough with the smooth on this one.

FFS chimney, she could be needing him urgently!!

I 'phoned DH the other day when DS went into a febrile convulsion, he 'knobbed it off' as he called it because he was in a meeting...

felt as guilt as hell when he knew I'd had to call the paramedics.

GOOD.

(DS was fine by the way)

DH and I had a system. If I called and there was no answer I'd try again later as it meant he was in a meeting - but he left his phone on vibrate so would be aware of the call. If it was urgent, I would call a second time immediately and he would know to dismiss himself from the meeting. That mostly worked - although he did get in trouble when he left hgis phone at home!

Hey, your pregnant, you have every right to be hormonal! ;-)

What happens if he is in a meeting? Why roast him, he is at work to work, if you need him urgently you call the switchboard and leave a message if he is not answering his mobile.

You are an adult if the baby came you can manage on your own getting to the hospital.

If he don't work in an office you want him to risk his own safety because you rang.

Are you the queen.

Pregnancy ain't an illness.

I had a deal with my DH who is notorious for NEVER answering his phone or returning calls. From about 36 weeks I would text SOS if it was an urgent / baby coming related incident. I never had to use it, but it was good to know he'd pick up / leave a meeting if I really did need him to.

OMG reading this thread _ Ive had two kids, not at either birth was the father. Im a big girl.

tbh OP if you had that discussion and he is not answering then i reckon he will have a pretty good reason for it. i doubt at 38 weeks pregnant he is just ignoring you. or do you think he actually has seen you are calling and ignored it?

classydiva

you are a saint who has huge big bollocks

well done you

some of us would prefer to know our DP/DH will be there for the birth if they possibly can.

OP - grow up. Are you in labour or otherwse in extremis? No? Then let it go. You were just testing him weren't you? How very childish.

If he did it last week too then I don't blame you for being angry tbh. I hate when a pattern emerges, it seems to let them off the hook, as in, 'oh I always forget/can't hear it/ arm was sawn off.

Is it always a Friday?

I think you're being a drama queen. Is this your first? He probably assumes, correctly, that as you have not left him an answerphone message saying 'I'm in labour' that he assumes it's OK to carry on working. Don't immediately have a massive go for little reason unless you want him to get sick of this parenting thing before the baby's even here.

good point perfumed. Op do you think he's in the pub?

PamelaFlitton the op said it is her third child, so not overy panicky.

My DH is the same and it is irritating. I second the advice to have a code for imminent labour so you can get him in a moment if you need him.

Hope he's back now