to think Ed Milliband should have married his partner before having their 2nd child?

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One child, fine. Maybe it was a surprise, these things happen, marriage is so yesterday, no problem. But to go on building a family without legally committing himself to his partner ... I am unimpressed. AIBU?

mmelindt "wim a way, wim a way..."

OP YABVU

"I have yet to meet a woman that would not want to get married to the love of their life."

Next time you're passing, pop in! I'll make you a cup of tea.

Hi Hammy meet me!

Hammy I have a feeling you're about to meet several albeit in virtual

I am sure marriage is a lovely institution. I just don't want to live in an institution.

me to hammy!

Why do I have to be married to say I love someone? You sound like my MIL - she doubted my commitment to her son until (after 10 years) we got married - and yes, I did say it was only for his money .

Don't be silly.

... wishy washy ... wet .... and also a bit organisationally challenged. Kind of gross that he says they'll 'get around to marriage' soon. If they're so proudly not into marriage then why is he saying that?

is that you mum???

or just another 60 year old, daily mail reader who thinks the world will end if we don't all have a bit of paper saying we're married?

maybe he can't be arsed with all the petty crap that goes with organising a wedding (see every wedding thread on AIBU).

Bah-yer all just with fellas that won't marry you! Ducks for cover.

"But I do think I'm allowed to care a little bit about someone setting out to be prime minister."

Not read all the replies yet but had to answer this bit.

Ed Miliband's relationship is nothing to do with you whether he becomes PM or not. What he does as PM is your business, his private life, unless he chooses to spread it all over the tabloids, is not.

Hammy, have you actually read the posts from me and others who've resisted the kindly suggestions of our partners to Make them the Happiest Men Alive?

My bloke would rather love it, I suspect, if I finally caved in.

OMG organising a wedding = My Worst Nightmare.

I can't even organise a small 3 year old birthday party - we've got 50 people coming & that's keeping it small as possible without being rude. If I was to marry (& I have no desire to) it would have to be an elopement or Vegas job.

Chaoticangel ... I hear you and sort of agree. Maybe I'll rephrase it: I can't HELP caring a little bit about someone setting out to be prime minister. I mean if he had four girlfriends at once and had fathered 15 children and they all lived together in a sort of Utah Mormon compound - well it would be his private life, and it wouldn't be my business, but I'd have an opinion about it.

And I have opinion about him not 'getting around' to marrying the partner as he announces birth of child number two.

hammy _ I am married. I just don't see why anyone else has to do it.

Getting married is different to having a wedding. I organised ours in an hour and would have held it in 2 weeks if we didn't need to do the whole posting band thing. I guess some in the family did think we were rude (only had 10 guests) but they have never told me - at least not to my face lol! Hotel after was lovely and we had really yummy food.

finding - Little Chapel of Elvis would have been my first choice!

MI
I think we are all badge wearing lefty ones.

Mind you, if he's scared of organising a wedding (not that blokes have to do more than turn up) then maybe he's not an ideal choice to run a political party let alone a country

YABU.

Getting married before having children was very important to me and DH. However plenty of people (including SIL) don't see it as important. SIL's partner is just as much a dad to their children as DH is to ours, and they are in just as committed a relationship.

Just because it is right for me doesn't make it right for everyone.

I had a letter on Points of View when I was 12 criticising an evil anti CND woman on telly and the Greenham Common women sent me a mug. I'm looking at it now :)

I think running the country might be easier than organising a wedding!

Also, maybe he just can;'t be arsed. He deals with politics for a living, he doesn't have to turn his private life into some sort of political circus by daring to choose what food they're going to have at a wedding etc.