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Original poster

to think Ed Milliband should have married his partner before having their 2nd child?

349 replies

Gooftroop · 09/11/2010 10:53

One child, fine. Maybe it was a surprise, these things happen, marriage is so yesterday, no problem. But to go on building a family without legally committing himself to his partner ... I am unimpressed. AIBU?

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TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 09/11/2010 15:13

PerfectlyNormalinFrance - What with his athiest marxist parents?

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 09/11/2010 15:13

Though maybe HER parents want the big church wedding.

motherinferior · 09/11/2010 15:14

Perhaps there are Embarrassing Aunties. (If Jewish aunties are anything like Indian Aunties they are bound to be embarrassing, believe me.)

PerfectlyNormalInFrance · 09/11/2010 15:14

Well, by 'family' I mean nosy buggers who have no business caring either way.

PerfectlyNormalInFrance · 09/11/2010 15:14

who may, or may not, be related to him.

motherinferior · 09/11/2010 15:15

Maybe they're worried - now - that his brother will flounce dramatically half-way through in order to grab the limelight.

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 09/11/2010 15:15

Maybe he is ALREADY secretly married tom I dunno a Rothschild or Mao's grandaughter or something.

kitten30 · 09/11/2010 15:16

YABU I am very happy he didnt because it shows he is not just doing things in his personal life because he thinks it will help his political career. I lived with my husband for ten years before getting married and we only did it because we were having a baby and STILL people have these old fashioned ideas. Needless to say it hasnt changed a thing between us and was a waste of money and a pain in the arse changing everything into my married name. Marriage is a piece of paper..nothing more..it can be gotten out of easily. Never forget that!

PerfectlyNormalInFrance · 09/11/2010 15:16

Maybe he's worried that David will start 10 AIBU threads on here in relation to the wedding?

Original poster
Gooftroop · 09/11/2010 15:18

his brother will flounce dramatically half-way through in order to grab the limelight.

Grin
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TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 09/11/2010 15:19

I know, I know! His birth certificate would show he had been born a girl!

No, hang on...

Born Jewish!

Oh.

A Muslim!

PerfectlyNormalInFrance · 09/11/2010 15:20

Worse than that... it'll come out that they didn't have sugared almonds and the daily mail will vilify them for defying tradition.

Kewcumber · 09/11/2010 15:21

I'm single, have one DS, don't particularly want to be married (don't even know who DS's father is Wink and he's not named on DS's brith cert for that very good reason) but happily troll along to friends weddings so am not anti-marriage per se. Just not particularly interested n it myself.

But... I don't think any prospective employer would be one jot interested in any of that only whether I was competent to do the job. Why as his prospective employers would his martial status interest anyone?

Blimey no hope for me being Prime Minister is there.

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 09/11/2010 15:21

I think we should all spread the rumour that David Miliband isn't getting married because he is secretly a Muslim woman.

marantha · 09/11/2010 15:22

kitten30 While I agree that from a commitment point of view, marriage may make no/little difference to people's feelings, it certainly does make a difference to their legal status.
No way is it 'just a piece of paper' in the legal/financial sense.
It makes a hell of a difference. For example, cohabitees have no automatic rights to partner's estate should they (partner) die intestate. With marriage, the spouse is next-in-line.

saffy85 · 09/11/2010 15:22

YABU

But then I would say that. I'm expecting my second DC and never intend to get married. Do I care what anyone else thinks? Do I bollocks. Smile

Unrulysun · 09/11/2010 15:24

Damsel are there other flavours of vol au vent? Not here in 1974 there aren't. Pray do tell of this brave new world which has such wonders in it.

And MmeLindt can you be more careful with the linoleum? Proper tile effect that is.

Have we still not agreed on this? Despite it being 100 to 1 in favour of YABU?

Original poster
Gooftroop · 09/11/2010 15:27

Don't worry saffy, no one cares what you do. I barely care what Ed does tbh.

I just care a tiny bit.

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Original poster
Gooftroop · 09/11/2010 15:29

Now, now unrulysun, I've gone through all the replies with my micrometre and spread sheets and think 4 people do not think I am clinically insane. I think I'm doing quite well.

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kitten30 · 09/11/2010 15:31

marantha .. have you never heard of a legal document called a will?

TheCoalitionNeedsYou · 09/11/2010 15:32

Gooftroop - Am I one of the four? I don't think you are mad. Just very poor at backing up your opinions.

PerfectlyNormalInFrance · 09/11/2010 15:34

4 favourable posts out of 271 is a 0.015 success rate. I wouldn't say that was good.

Apparently vol-au-vents can have prawns in them. I'm sure that combining prawn cocktail and vol-au-vents was the height of sophistication.

('tis Damsel)

Kewcumber · 09/11/2010 15:36

I soooo wanted someone to pick me up on this "don't even know who DS's father is" but you are all beeding heart liberals (or just don't care Grin. Pah!

passthechocs · 09/11/2010 15:38

kitten a will won't always cover you. And even if it does, it will mean that the money that is transferred may be subject to tax. It will probably take much longer as well.

gooftroop don't think you are insane, just don't agree with you!

passthechocs · 09/11/2010 15:39

And Damsel - congrats on becoming Dr Damsel