to be a little bit pissed off that sil has decided that 2yo nephews party

[bogie]

is being held on my birthday?

He was born just before christmas I was boorn on the 18th... Which falls on the saturday so she has told everyone that she has booked a hall and that dn will have a party in the church hall from 2-5... then we will all go back to her fucking tiny house for the rest of the night to have a party for the adults?, and then said oh to me "and you can invite a couple of your friends round for your birthday" ... now I am fine with the whole him having a party in the day but why is she insisting on having a party for the adults??? This means that Mil will have to be there.. Meaning me and Dp will not be able to do anything (was thinking a nice meal) in the evening because Mil would have come over to ours and put the dc's to bed.
I am a little bit pissed off me and DP go out twice a year, his birthday and mine and that is it. So aibu?

maryz, what hat aibu is missing is that arrangements for babysitting have already been made - MIL has other plans!

SPB, sorry, I missed that bit
(thanks)

Ask if your DC's can stay with your DN at your SIL's house, where the party is. Stay and have an 'adult' drink, then off to dinner with your DH. After all, someone is going to have to keep an eye on DN, so they may as well put your DC's to bed as well. Presuming there will be lots of family members there?

I do think SIL IBU

(i still don't really see the problem)

I think you need to ask your mother in law if she is definitely reneging on her promise to babysit that evening?

I would be hurt at being told and not asked how I would feel about it all.
On the other hand, you could invite all of your friends to your sil's house, and send your dh over at 4:00 with a big banner saying "Happy Birthday Bogie", and a big cake with your name in it. Maybe food too. The best part, you won't have to clean up beforehand or afterwards!

PS Only because it is an "adult" party, and they already knew you had plans and were counting on mil to babysit, and overrode those plans, without even discussing it with you. I would never dream of high jacking a little ones party.

Actually.... I wouldn't really hi-jack a party, but it is fun to imagine scenario's like this.

:)
yes, that bit was buried in the detail Jareth!

thesecondcoming- If by bubbly you mean fat then yes