To not want children at my 30th birthday party??

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, I've decided to have a party for my 30th birthday and I thought it'd be a great way of getting rid of the children for one night and having a proper adult get together. Several of my friends have children of my daughters age, 5. I really don't want it o turn into a childrens party or be stressed out about where they are and what they're up to.

My invertation e-mails say that "It'll be a nice chance to have an evening out without the children" I thought this was a subtle way of saying "No kids".

My brother in law has now phoned and said "What, NO KIDS!!!" he then said he couldn't get a baby sitter for his 11 year old son and asked if the other brothers children were invited and I said no.
He seemed really shocked and there was a hint of "Oh sod it then" in his voice.

I don't really mind if the older ones come, but I can't have one rule for one and another for everyone else.

I think I might just cancell it and go to the pub with my Husband instread.

I don't know what to do, I was looking forward to it but now I just think sod it, it's more hastle than it's worth.

I'd forge ahead and just say, "Nope, no children." If anyone is arsey, that's their problem.

Enjoy your birthday bash. :)

simple really. Children not invited so if they can't get a baby sitter they can't come.

30th birthday party with no children seems fine to me. I assume it is an evening event.

YANBU - don't cancel, if you want an ol'fashioned kids free piss up that is your choice. Not everyone can or would want to get a sitter though.

YANBU. It's an adult party - not like it's the first one ever or that it's some crazeee new concept you've come up with. Your BIL is being a fool.

No kids sounds good to me!
There might be a few who can't attend due to babysitters etc. but I'd be prepared to lose a few guests in favour of an adults only evening. It's only one evening!

I agree! Children should not be where there are adults and alcohol.

Thanks.If I was having it at the pub, there wouldn't be this problem. It's because it's at home they think the kids should be allowed.

I'm having to put my own daughter to sleep upstairs, she goes to bed at 7pm. they'll probubly think I'm being a hypercrit.

Will your daughter really sleep through it all?

YANBU I too would jump at the chance of a child-free party - can I come?! Hope you have a great evening.

YANBU I would grab this invite with both hands!

Why oh why do people get so arsey whenever their precious darlings are not invited to something???

Your party, your Birthday, your rules. As the others have said, it's an evening party for God's sake. If they can't get a babysitter then fair enough but if they're just being pissy then sod them!

Personally I wouldn't be offended in the slightest and would jump at the chance for a grown up night out!!!

YANBU!!!

I might say to my brother in law, "If you can't come due to baby sitting, could you have one more for the night??"

BTW try putting a fan on in your DD's room when you put her down. The white noise will help to drown out any party racket!

Hey if it is in your own home you are entitled to have your daughter there.

I personally believe that adult parties should always be free of children.

Alternatively those in charge of children shoulndt be allowed to drink.

YANBU at all.
If they can't get a babysitter they can't come.

This thread is a welcome twist on the Children at weddings threads.

She is a very good sleeper, I might buy her some little foam ear plugs too.

YANBU - however, I would also try to 'farm out' my own DC in this case and have a really child-free environment!

Can your nephew not use your bedroom for the evening (bring DS, snacks etc). It's what we did as kids at 'grown up' parties.

That's a better idea - lol

Disagree with children should not be near adults and alcohol! Booze is not devil spunk, boozers not his spawn!

Ha, ha. I had the children at my wedding, they were a pain in the arse then as well. My daughter wasn't even concieved then, so at least I didn't feel responsible for any of them.

YANBU. You should change the venue to a pub

No... don't let your nephew come and have a kids party going on at the same time. That's the thin end of the wedge, besides which, you could upset others who have kids.
Adults are entitled to have adult company once in a while. I'd just try to get your daughter off to a sleepover somewhere as well, so you can really relax.