To not want children at my 30th birthday party??

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, I've decided to have a party for my 30th birthday and I thought it'd be a great way of getting rid of the children for one night and having a proper adult get together. Several of my friends have children of my daughters age, 5. I really don't want it o turn into a childrens party or be stressed out about where they are and what they're up to.

My invertation e-mails say that "It'll be a nice chance to have an evening out without the children" I thought this was a subtle way of saying "No kids".

My brother in law has now phoned and said "What, NO KIDS!!!" he then said he couldn't get a baby sitter for his 11 year old son and asked if the other brothers children were invited and I said no.
He seemed really shocked and there was a hint of "Oh sod it then" in his voice.

I don't really mind if the older ones come, but I can't have one rule for one and another for everyone else.

I think I might just cancell it and go to the pub with my Husband instread.

I don't know what to do, I was looking forward to it but now I just think sod it, it's more hastle than it's worth.

I'm loving the fact this is almost unanimously OK - yet there's moral outrage on a regular schedule over no kids at weddings (almost typed weedings... child-free gardening anyone?).

It's your birthday so no YANBU.

If everyone's kids come it'll just end up a kids party and not really about you.

Of course you can't attend every party once you have children. They wreck your social life. There's no need for every celebration to be family oriented. Why would children expect it, and worse their parents?

YANBU and I would totally not have a problem leaving DC with a sitter while I had a good great time without them.

I do think a wedding is a little different though as it's a ceremony where you make serious vows in front of people who care about you. A party is just a party and a bit of time for adults to let their hair down - and not necessarily suitable for children.

No kids = great

I don't see how children are any more suited to attending serious ceremonies though.

But anyway that's a different thread.

YANBU

YANBU

I could imagine anything worse than children at a 30th or 40th for than matter.

Other than a wee babe in arms who is too young to be left.

Jeez, YANBU. I have never been to an evening party with children, apart from a day time thing that's run into the evening like a wedding. What a bore. Some people need to get a life!

I would take my children to daytime events where people are having the odd drink, but not think twice if they weren't invited to an evening party, if only because they go to bed between 7-8. I did take them to an evening wedding recently, they were very tired, but did stay on the dancefloor til 10pm.

yadnbu you wouldnt have a rave at a christening and it would end up being a childrens party no one could let loose , you only get your thirtieth once have a fabulous one!

YANBU.....no kids....
Can i come

Hang on, where are all the people who think it is unacceptable to be invited to an important event without their parnters and children and parents and SIL and cat? If this thread had had 'wedding' in the title people would have been calling you a child hater, implying that you don't value family at all and asking where you think all this money for a babysitter is coming from. Come on, people who will not be torn away from their childre, at least put up a bit of a fight! (YANBU)

YANBU. Who wants an adult party with children around anyway?

It is very different from a wedding. A wedding is a family thing, in the daytime and difficult to get sitters because of the timing, the length of time and often the distance.
A party is completely different so YANBU-stick to what you want-an adult party is very different from a party with DCs. People are being utterly precious if they can't get a sitter (if getting plenty of notice).
If they make a fuss I would ditch it and go out with DH-or find a venue that doesn't allow DCs.

I also think it is very different to a wedding. A wedding is, by its very nature, a family gathering.

An adult birthday is not the same IMO. I still wouldn't invite adults without their partners in general, but don't thnk children need to be included to celebrate an adult party. Just like I don't think adults have to be invited to a child's party within the family.