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AIBU?

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To think I should be able to spend as much or as little as I want at the supermarket?

114 replies

SumfingNew · 06/11/2010 21:18

Location - Aisle 4, Sainsbury's, Trowbridge, Wiltshire.
Time - 1230 today.

I did the weekly shop this morning, as usual. As I was placing the food etc onto the conveyor belt, I could overhear the cashier and the customer ahead of me bitching about the latest M&S advert, saying how 'smug' Hmm it was and how it reminded people of how little money they had.

Fast forward to my turn in the spotlight...

The cashier struck up conversation with me and mentioned the conversation she'd been having, about "rampant consumerism" and how "disgusting it was".

Not entirely clear what exactly she meant and suspecting strongly that I disagreed with her if what she meant was what I thought she meant (i.e. "w*nkers" like me, with money, spending it), I just shrugged and said, "I wouldn't knock it too much...if people weren't buying stuff, you'd all be out of a job, surely?".

She gave me a cat's bum smile and said nothing after that, other than to announce the total cost of my purchases (£155.50) in a very disapproving tone Angry.

We have friends for lunch tomorrow (2 adults, 2 children) and yes, I pull out all the stops when entertaining...but (annoyed at myself for feeling I have to chuffing justify my purchases!) I've also bought a week's worth of food for me, fiancee and our baby girl.

AIBU in thinking I should be able to buy any amount's worth of food without disapproval from the supermarket staff?

OP posts:
ENormaSnob · 06/11/2010 22:21

Is this really an issue?

Do people really give a shit what others spend on groceries Confused

piscesmoon · 06/11/2010 22:22

If you live in a small place you get used to it. If you don't want comments then you need to shop in a big city or town.

flyingzebra · 06/11/2010 22:24

Ok.

You need to care less.

Many, many times have I spent over £150 in Sainsburies and never once have I cared about what another person has thought or said about that.

Why would you care what she thought? Really?

BeerTricksPotter · 06/11/2010 22:25

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flyingzebra · 06/11/2010 22:26

And before you say you don't care - how else would you notice this:

"She gave me a cat's bum smile and said nothing after that, other than to announce the total cost of my purchases (£155.50) in a very disapproving tone"

How the hell do you have time to notice the cashier's tone when you are busy packing £155 worth of shopping?

You are def overthinking it.

SumfingNew · 06/11/2010 22:27

I just object to being made to feel as though I have done something wrong when all I have done is buy some food!

This is not me being sensitive - she clearly disapproved and wanted me to know that.

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flyingzebra · 06/11/2010 22:27

Beertricks, I agree.

But it's far too dull to troll about, surely?

SumfingNew · 06/11/2010 22:28

BeerTricksPotter - come round here and I'll show you the receipt if you like Grin

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flyingzebra · 06/11/2010 22:28

Bloody hell sumfingnew, have you never had someone clearly disapprove of you before? How old are you? Does it not happen all the time? That's life, non?

SumfingNew · 06/11/2010 22:29

"How the hell do you have time to notice the cashier's tone when you are busy packing £155 worth of shopping?"

I'm a fast packer - with a 5-month old in the trolley, grabbing/dropping/licking everything, you have to be!

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BonniePrinceBilly · 06/11/2010 22:29

Have her flogged by the local magistrate and sent to Bedlam

Seriously, get over yourself!

cumfy · 06/11/2010 22:29

What impertinence!
Quite above her station.

Chynah · 06/11/2010 22:31

I'd bemore worried that you actually care what a cashier was (or maybe wasn't) thinkng - why do you need their approval?

SumfingNew · 06/11/2010 22:31

flyingzebra - many times. Just a shame that some people are so effing chippy unprofessional that they can't keep their prejudices at home.

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cumfy · 06/11/2010 22:32

This is not me being sensitive

No of course it isn't :o

SumfingNew · 06/11/2010 22:32

I don't need her approval. I can just do without her unprofessional disapproval, that's all!

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flyingzebra · 06/11/2010 22:32

I can't tell if you're trolling or genuinely being as strange as you're making out OP

BeerTricksPotter · 06/11/2010 22:33

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cumfy · 06/11/2010 22:34

Why did you talk to her at all ?

PinkieMinx · 06/11/2010 22:34

How is OP strange? Cos doesn't enjoy snarky comments about her shop?

WastingAway · 06/11/2010 22:34

Perhaps there's a sort of Home Front mentality coming in due to the awful recession and huge government cuts.

I can see how some might see spending that much money on food immoral.

PortoTreasonAndPlot · 06/11/2010 22:35

YANBU. You should be able to buy what you like at the supermarket without the checkout staff commenting. Be that a 24 pack of durex and some lambrini, or champagne and foie gras. It is none of their business and highly unprofessional to make any comment.

memoo · 06/11/2010 22:35

OP is a man pinkie

SumfingNew · 06/11/2010 22:36

BTP - I didn't say it was impressive...just that the cashier had a problem with it!

cumfy - just small talk, being polite - that's normal, isn't it?

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brimfull · 06/11/2010 22:36

oh ffs
£155 is fuck all ,suspect teh cashier was nonplussed at the amount just thought you were a bit of a misery

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