to think that in front of my boyfriend my flatmate should not....

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wear an animal print dressing gown, legs crossed and on of them showing to the thigh and talk about how she'd like to shag a guy at work because he's "dangerous" and "everyone likes a bit of danger"?

To be fair she didn't know he was coming around at 8am this morning but is it too much to ask that she bloody gets dressed???

It was just that the flat was tiny....Eh??? It's really weird because even in my small place I don't actually need to walk around topless...er...ever!

Did this really happen Lottery, or are you confusing your youth with the film Performance?

Right I've distilled it down to the core issue. She is being irritating and needs loads of attention from men - fine - but don't use my boyfriend (or anyone else's!) to give you some.

Sounds about right Tommy

Sisterhood my arse

She was quite clearly trying to get his attention (probably not to get him to act, but just attention for the sake of it). I've had friends like this and you never feel you can trust them because they don't treat YOU with any respect when it comes to behaving correctly towards bf's.

I'm with the evildead on this one. Not really appropriate to talk saliciously like that in a scantily glad leopard print dressing gown in front of your flatmates new boyfriend. However I think younger girls nowadays may sometimes think that men find that sort of talk attractive I'm obviously 32 going on 80 or something?

I'm not surprised you felt unsure about it all, if she has these sex texts with men who are already in relationships with others. She may not sleep with them yet but sooner or later she will be the OW if she keeps this sort of behaviour up. Seriously doesn't surprise me how you feel. She's stepping way beyond normal boundaries. I felt uncomfortable with a female friend with my H for years and lo and behold she had an affair with him. So admittedly my POV is bias, I'll confess that now. However if he is a decent guy (unlike my H) then nothing would happen. However I still don't think you should flirt in front of your friends bf. Clearly I'm in a miniority though I suspect

That post is terribly rambling and may make little sense. Time to make a cuppa I think.

I suppose I should also say if a flatmate had her bf over I'd get dressed, even if it was just some jogging bottoms and a top. Not remain wearing so little, but it is her house as everyone says. I'm a boring old prude aren't I?

Live by the sword, die by the sword, I say. People who steal other people's partners can't expect anyone to be faithful to them really, can they? Tut tut. What a carry on.

No, teaandcake, you are perfectly sensible and reasonable, and living in the real world

All those who think the OP is not right to feel uncomfortable are a bit deluded about this "sisterhood" lark, IMO

Did she know he was coming round? If not why she she dress any different to how she normally dresses. You clearly have concerns about your bf, a trust issue.

Grannie I love you. You sound like my mum on every thread I read that you're on

Thanks tea and mad. She's not malicious and intentional but I wonder where her need for attention will end up one day. Hopefully not in my relationship! You read so many threads and hear so many examples of affairs and I don't think you can ever assume that you are immune from them (obviously I'm in early stages so it'd make it an easy decision) but acting slutty seductive around other people's men is just not on.

I'm a boring old prude too

classydiva - no she didn't know he was coming around and that doesn't bother me as much as "oooh, everyone likes a bit of danger..." as part of a larger conversation about how she was looking for a man and it didn't matter if he belonged to someone else.

It isnt just friends who sleep with your partners. Your mother/sister/brother could too.

Where will the thought process stop.

I never left anybody alone with my mother after she had an affair with my boyfriend when I was 14 and he was 16.

Ouch classy that's horrible

She sounds like a dog whistle - my ex-friend was pain up arse in tha dept - insisted on giving my DH lap dance on her birthday. Poor DH found it all deeply embarassing and unpleasant, I was annoyed she would flirt with my DH. No trust issue, just expect more of a mate.

northernrock - seriously, the flat was THAT tiny we couldn't actually stand up straight in our rooms - they were funny mezzanine affairs so you sort of had an under bed bit with drawers and the top bit up a ladder was for sleeping - so in that way that young girls do we'd frolic about in our pants swapping clothes and tarting ourselves up in the big mirror in the living room! It was ace!

Actually DH and I had a female friend of mine living with us until recently and I didn't care one bit if she got her boobs (or anything else) out in front of him or talked about slightly racy things. I, of course, still pratted about topless/bottomless/states in between when clothes-borrowing etc.

I guess it's just a matter of how secure you feel about your relationship/friend - mine aren't boyfriend nickers and nor am I!

Teaandcakeplease - maybe I am your mum!

"with bits and pieces hanging out below" - Yuck!

Ahh Grannie you only have 2 GC's so far, you can't be my mum However you're a similar age.

I admit I've been skulking on gransnet for more info

T&C: Really did check my phone, you know!

As you were, everyone.

I really texted my mum In fact if you'd clicked on my name and seen my profile photo, you'd have said "no that's not my DD"

Right, I must stop hi-jacking the thread, although I am having fun

OOh, didn't know you could do that. Just had a look - lovely photos!

Well I for one am loving this - getting a nice warm fuzzy feeling

LOL It's a beautiful thing!