to be shocked at pre-school handing out sweets?

[RidgewayLass]

DD did not know what "sweets" meant until she started pre-school. Since then she has been offered 1 or 2 fun-size Milky Ways twice, both times just before lunch ffs, and yesterday it was lollipops and chews. It looked like all the other children were having sweets, and there was no alternative treat for children who are not allowed sweets. At home we do have sweet biscuits, cakes, puddings, icecream, but we are very wary how much pure glucose or sugar DD gets in one go.

I told her the lollipop and the chew were very bad for her teeth, and she asked "well if they are so bad for my teeth, why did my teachers give them to me?" Why did they? I thought the schools were supposed to do healthy eating - where does this fit in?

Firstly, genuine apologies to anyone who was offended by my flippant choice of language - fair points, well taken.

Secondly, I really don't get this. This seems to be turning into a debate about bad parent/good parent dependant on your stance on giving sweets.

I don't think the OP was being smug or PFB, just asking a genuine question about whether it's good practice for nursery to be giving out sweets.

Absolutely each of us is entitled to give or not give sweets etc at home however we feel is best for us and our families, and I don't think that is really an issue. I thought the point was, given the amount of publicity there has been about healthy eating in schools, and the fact that so many primary schools actually do ban sweets in school, whether it was appropriate for a nursery to give out sweets.

I genuinely don't have an issue with people giving their children sweets, but it is a personal choice.

However, by no stretch of the imagination could anyone say that sweets are good for you, or have any nutritional value, hence my confusion about why a nursery gives them out. Sorry, just seems odd to me.

Exactly the same with DS, his idea of a treat when he was little was a platter of fruits de mer from Tesco, because it was expensive and not something I could afford to buy very often.
I just noticed there is still an easter egg in the cupboard uneaten.
Both DCs are a healthy weight for their size and always have been.

I suspect the preschool are only giving out sweets that other children have bought in for birthdays. If the OP objects she just needs to tell the preschool that she doesn't want her dd to have any, simple as that.

bruffin - people don't like it
what's mediteranean about haribo?

No NotanOtter a small minority of people don't like it, never came across anyone IRL who was opposed to birthday sweets at school. Why should a small minorities views overides everyone elses, just because they can't handle the fall out when their dcs go out into the wide world and find that what is vetoed for them is not taboo for other dcs.Which is exactly what the OP is complaining about.

The point I was making was that one of the pleasures of food is sharing with others, whether its sweets or cakes or fruit.

i think your point about the sharing of food is plain missing the point

were it tiny fajitas we may not be complaining

I don't know where you live but where I live lot's of folk tut and then bitch at this going on