to start co-sleeping with my 11 month old?

[PavlovtheWitchesCat]

Its a gentle one. please?!

DS wont sleep/can't sleep whatever his reasons, most likely my fault, dont want to go into it ergain as I have a million threads about my sleep depravation already on the go in the archives.

Anyway, he is a clingy little thing, and loves company, dislikes being on his own for even a second. He dislikes being 'trapped' for example if the stair gate is shut on the front room he goes mad, even if I am in the hallway, where i was already, once it is shut, he gets upset.

So, given that today, he settled for longer for his nap than he has for a long time, while cuddling in with his mama while she was home from work for the day (another thing, he really is missing me when I am at work atm) and given that he sleeps soundly once brought into the bedroom at 5am ish, AIBU to start to co-sleep with him? DH is happy to do it, as night times are becoming (becoming?!! already were!) hard work.

Am I going to set him back a million years by doing this? bearing in mind he is not sleeping through anyway?

Oh, brilliant. I have only just seen this. So happy that it has worked out for you! Yay!

This is def not GF land so do whatever works for you.
my 2 DCs co slept until they were fed up with it 4 months and 2 years respectively. None of us are scarred by it all!!

Even my five year old crawls in sometimes at 5.30-6sm for a cuddle before school, and goes back to sleep (it has been known to be 2am as well). I think that being near you, not necessarily in the bed, is very reassuring for some babies (not all).

FWIW, mine did this for a month or so when he was 9 months. But it was bloody freezing and I think that had somethingto do with it....!

We still cs with DS 18 months, agree with everyone that you have to do what works for everyone to get the best sleep possible. Take each day at a time. Nothing compares to those cuddles! Now I am pg with dc2, will have to reevaluate at some point I guess! YANBU.

do it - my little girl is 3 and she's been sleeping in her own bed for ages - but recently she's taken to waking in the night and coming into our bed and snuggling up - it's so cute when your woken the next morning by someone stroking your face.

If you can't sleep in your parents bed when you are little when can you.?

Do it, do it!! I started co-sleeping with my fussy DD when she was 11 months old, I'd been resisting up until then, though in hindsight it would have been a good thing to do earlier. She slept in our bed nightly until she turned 2 y.o. then we moved her to a single bed in our room, then only when she was 3.5 y.o. we moved her into her own room, at the same time as moving house. At that stage she was happy to go on her own. I don't regret it at all, I miss our night time cuddles and closeness. Especially if you're out at work during the days, you can have some together time at nights. It's all good. My DD is now a stroppy 6 y.o. and will only give cuddles on her own terms, so we've come a long way since her earlier limpet clinging!

Our bed contains: DP, DS1 (4.5, ASD) DS2 (2.9) elderly cat and myself.

Cosleeping is sooooo lovely, and I think we'll reap rewards for ASD DS1 - why would you want a put an autistic child to bed alone when it is far cosier and lovelier to be in between mummy and daddy, and with little brother and pet cat?

If only it was a kingsize bed tho...

Do it!
I love co-sleeping. My daughter will be 3 in a few weeks and we always have.
First thing I see in the morning is her - what a start to the day! She's a happy little thing - affectionate, and independent. And quite adamant that I'm to stay when I've asked if she wants her bed to herself!