To expect step SIL to buy DD a decent present?

[ladyandthechocolate]

She is obsessed with buying everything in the sales to the point when she will buy things just because they're going cheap.
DD (2.2) was given a very smart wool monsoon coat for her birthday that's dry clean only. She will NEVER wear it and of course I can't return it.
I just think she's wasting her money, i'd rather she asked me or bought her some books which DD always appreciates.
I always try to buy carefully for her DD who is 7 and give gift receipts.
It's not about how much she spends, I don't really care.

DD ends up with a load of stuff she has no use for.

Should I say something? Am I an ungrateful cow?

Does she have kids??

YAAUC

You are very very ungrateful.

She has one DD who is 7

Why won't she wear the coat? She's two - surely you decide that one?

I think YABU tbh.

yabu

receive gratefully but you could try to steer everyone in the family with a DD would love some new books lego etc

Yeah yeah i'm sure I am very ungrateful but it pains me when people waste their money.

How is a wool coat from Monsoon not a decent present?

Don't understand the OP.

Chuck the coat in on a wool wash - you might be surprised!

I think you are being ungrateful.

But why can't your DD wear the coat?
And can I lol at 'books which DD always appreciates'

At 2.2 most DCs just want stuff to hit things with or stuff to eat don't they

Wow - what Yuno and thedollshouse said.

She probably thinks she can afford nicer things for your DD if she buys them in the sale... did you ever think about that?

And get some of those sachets from Lakeland that turn your tumble drier into a dry cleaner and let DD wear her beautiful coat...

Just let her wear the coat and wash it in the washing machine.

Ds has been bought coats from Monsoon (in the sale too I expect) they say dry clean only but they wash really well.

Your sil probably thought she was buying a really nice present.

You will have to try to adapt your utilitarian view of present-giving I'm afraid. Let people give what they enjoy giving, not what you deem "not a waste". If you start dictating presents to the givers, all the joy goes out of it.

Well she knows I have 6 month old triplets and we don't get out much so dry cleaning is an impossibility. It's a dress coat, embroidered. The sort you might wear for a very smart occasion. FFS she's 2. What does a 2 year old want with a woollen coat? Wear it to the park?

She sounds very generous.

Yabu

She'll have seen it and thought "I know a little girl that would look lovely on". It's not some sort of sideswipe at your ability to have it cleaned.

Glad you are not my SIL!

YABVUngrateful. Wool coats are fab, my children wore them when they were 2, and I haven't been in a dry cleaners since I've had children.

Let your daughter wear it, and sling it in the washer on a cold wash if you need to.

Actually Pagwatch DD is obsessed with books to the point of it becoming unhealthy. If that's possible?

As I said it's not how she can buy nicer stuff if she buys it in the sale. But I do need to tone down my utilitarian attitude a bit...

I think the coat sounds lovely- my aunt used to spend obcene amounts on us as children on the most beautiful clothes, I really treasured them and have kept some of them. Let your dd wear the coat!

Are you serious? You should be grateful i would love a coat from monsoon! (only have son's thought!)
What is the saying? Never look a gift horse in the mouth! Bloody hell your lucky she bothers!

The coat is free so it doesn't matter if it doesn't wash well, your dd can just wear it for running about in after a few 'posh' wears.

It's a lovely gift and you're being a touch precious.

Sell it on ebay and buy something that you can use.