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To wonder why I bother ?

70 replies

mamatomany · 30/10/2010 13:53

Bloody MIL again, she has a prolapsed vagina, I wish i didn't know this but I do.
Anyway she has now basically cancelled our Christmas because she has no feeling in her vagina and requires intensive physio (I am scared to ask).
Apparently her pelvic floor is unaffected so she's not weeing all the time.
But am I unreasonable to wonder why you can't manage a 30 minute car ride and what the hell it matters if you are not married/dating/likely to be in the near future getting any if you have feeling in that area at the age of 71 anyway ?

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LoveBeingAMardyBum · 30/10/2010 13:58

PMSL @ christmas is cancelled cause granny's vag is knacked

Trifle · 30/10/2010 13:59

Why has she cancelled your christmas? Christmas day will still exist, prolapsed vag or not.

Seabright · 30/10/2010 14:00

If something has "prolapsed" doesn't that mean it has "fallen out"? I imagine that must make sitting, especially in a car (potentially bumpy) very uncomfortable. Maybe that's why she's can't manage a car journey?

3thumbedwitch · 30/10/2010 14:02

Take it as a bonus that she won't be there - unless you were banking on her doing all the cooking, can't really see the problem - the only Christmas she has cancelled is her own, which is pretty understandable if her bits are hanging out like turkey giblets.

Chil1234 · 30/10/2010 14:04

YABU... Your attitude appears to be that she's can't possibly be suffering, is making a big fuss over nothing and is being very selfish by putting your Christmas plans out. Hope you're never sick OP...

Doigthebountyeater · 30/10/2010 14:30

Gosh OP you're really nice aren't you? Hope I don't get a DIL like you in the future Hmm

olderyetwider · 30/10/2010 14:33

Why won't she be getting any in the near future? The fact she's 71 doesn't mean she's automatically past wanting sex. The lack of feeling is clearly important to her, or she wouldn't bother with the physio.

You sound a bit callous; would you be happy to have no feeling in that area?

notalone · 30/10/2010 14:33

YABU - and very unsympathetic. Jeez, sometimes words fail me. I hope when you get older your children in law are a bit nicer to you.

SheWillBeLoved · 30/10/2010 14:33

YABU. At any age, something like that could be very distressing I'd imagine. Perhaps ask Santa for a box of Compassion this year.

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 14:36

Chil1234 - you probably have to meet her to understand, this is the woman who was given three choices to book a hysterectomy and chose my due date.

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DuelingFanjo · 30/10/2010 14:37

you can still have Christmas. It will still be there.

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 14:41

I know we will of course do something but I had actually planned to make a big effort this year and of course include her.
But if she and her fanny can't make it what can you do.

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LBsmum · 30/10/2010 14:45

Its still only October, why not make alternative plans, do something really wacky, or even get in the car and drive over to her

Am dying to know what it is that your MIL does that makes Christmas, ie why is it cancelled without her.

Sorry but YABU, it sounds painful

olderyetwider · 30/10/2010 14:46

Tinsel round her fanny might make it more festive for you all Grin

notalone · 30/10/2010 14:47

But why shouldn't she choose your due date for her hysterectomy? The date may have been the best for her and her circumstances. Many many people don't go into labour on their due date and of those who do, many don't see their families until after the day they have given birth. You sound a bit precious. Her life does not revolve around you, you know

themildmanneredjanitor · 30/10/2010 14:48

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 14:51

a) the baby did arrive the day before his due date.
b) my husband is an only child so he was asked to bring the baby - 9 hours old to her house in case she died on the table.
She could have chosen the week before, a month afterwards but no she wanted DH's attention to be on her not his new baby.
With have history of her pretending to have a heart attack whilst I was in labor last time.

As for what she does that makes it special, fuck all she is the most ungrateful cow you could hope to meet and what I've probably not made clear in my ramblings - because I am pretty pissed off about this, is that she will expect DH to run around after her on Christmas day rather than be with his family.
He will say no and then she will play up for the next 364 days.

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alexisfaith · 30/10/2010 14:53

Is this a wind-up? If not the OP is a total c* ...

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 14:55

At least my C* is intact though Grin

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Doyouthinktheysaurus · 30/10/2010 14:55

YABU

I expect she actually feels quite uncomfortable alot of the time.

I have had a prolapsed vagina, an awful lot younger than your MIL unfortunately! It's not uncommon especially post hysterectomy but can be quite uncomfortable.

Try having some sympathyHmm

SheWillBeLoved · 30/10/2010 14:56

[hshock]

Blessing in disguise that she has a numb vag if it means she doesn't have to spend Christmas day with somebody who has such a shite opinion of her. She's 71 fgs. [hbiscuit]

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 14:56

Is quite uncomfortable enough reason to ruin the plans of the rest of the family though - including 6 children, really ?

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 14:57

Agony I might think fair enough.

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Doyouthinktheysaurus · 30/10/2010 14:57

Oh, I feel really angry on behalf of your MIL op.

Your attitude stinks!!

madugherowngrave · 30/10/2010 14:57

Are you sure you even want her there? Hmm