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To wonder why I bother ?

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 13:53

Bloody MIL again, she has a prolapsed vagina, I wish i didn't know this but I do.
Anyway she has now basically cancelled our Christmas because she has no feeling in her vagina and requires intensive physio (I am scared to ask).
Apparently her pelvic floor is unaffected so she's not weeing all the time.
But am I unreasonable to wonder why you can't manage a 30 minute car ride and what the hell it matters if you are not married/dating/likely to be in the near future getting any if you have feeling in that area at the age of 71 anyway ?

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Litchick · 30/10/2010 15:54

Am loving that she is able to tell you in advance that she won't be up to doing xmas your way.
Am assuming she can't make the christening either.

Op on your due date? Forcing DH to bring hours old child to her in case she died. Hmmmmm.

Sounds to me like she is deliberately finding problems.

gettingonmyownnerves · 30/10/2010 15:58

I'm sure I would have felt some sympathy if your OP hadn't been so offensive.
My Mum has had two lots of surgery to repair a prolapsed vagina and she was in extreme discomfort as well as pain during the months she had to wait.
I'm quite shocked at some of the attitudes on here - is it because it's perceived as an older woman's complaint that people seem to find it funny?
I can't imagine a description of childbirth injuries, for example, provoking the same type of comments.

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 16:00

I can't imagine a description of childbirth injuries, for example, provoking the same type of comments.

Oh yes I'd forgotten that bit, it's all DH's fault in the first place because he was 9lb's Grin She actually said that.

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Hedgeblunder · 30/10/2010 16:00

'ohhh lord!
I remember your MIL!
yasooooonbu- I hope her vag is better in two months time though

CrazyPlateLady · 30/10/2010 16:03

I think there is a huge backstory to this womans (the MILs behaviour) and that is why the OP is being like this.

Faking a heart attack whilst you were in labour? Says it all really. She sounds very attention seeking. I take it this is another one of her ways to get attention.

CrazyPlateLady · 30/10/2010 16:07

Ok, I have finished reading the thread.

Ignore her. Do your xmas your way. Have the christening. Ultimately she is the one missing out. Ignore her demands for attention and get on with your lives.

I wouldn't want to take a while family to spend in a small flat at Christmas either.

YANBU.

MrsSchadenfreude · 30/10/2010 16:10

Can you give her a swim ring to sit on in the car? [grin}

MrsSchadenfreude · 30/10/2010 16:10
Grin
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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 16:16

I know where I'd like to stick the rubber ring Grin

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 16:17

Thank you CPL when ranting away I forget that not everyone knows the full sorry Blush

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BitOfFunderthepatio · 30/10/2010 16:19

There is really no need to change your plans- just make it clear that you are having Christmas at home, and that you will visit at some point over the holiday when she has recovered a bit.

Be nice, but firm.

FanjolinaJolie · 30/10/2010 16:27

YANBU

Surely Christmas doesn't need to be cancelled over this?

She's got eight weeks until then how does she know she'll not be able to attend/enjoy?

(Wish the old ducks would just say 'lady's troubles' or some such I wouldn't want to be hearing about prolapsed fanjo's from a pensioner.)

I would have sympathy if she was in pain, but... numb...don't see why the show can't go on really.

Rosieeo · 30/10/2010 16:44

Sorry, but DH and I have been killing ourselves laughing at Granny's Vag. Thanks and for what it's worth, YANBU! Grin

JetLi · 30/10/2010 16:53

In the space of two months, if she does her exercises then the physio will mean she ought to be able open beer bottles with her fanny, such will be her vice-like grip.

So YADNBU.

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mamatomany · 30/10/2010 16:55

Jet - you have put me off my tea with that visual

I know Rosie, my own other nearly pissed herself when I called to deliver the news to her and pointed out I was 9lb 10oz and she's fine Wink

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LittleMissHissyFangs · 30/10/2010 17:24

Don't let her hysterics ruin your DC christmas. Tell her you are sure the Doctors will sort her out in good time, that this is what you are going to do, that your christening is on boxing day and therefore you have this season planned.

she's doing this for the attention indeed, don't rise to it.

Disengage and do your own thing every time.

I can't bear elderly bullies.

PirateScaredyCat · 30/10/2010 17:26

i really feel the need to say something about giblets.

RumourOfAHurricane · 30/10/2010 17:33

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FanjolinaJolie · 31/10/2010 19:16

Let this be a lesson to us all to keep doing our pelvic floors so we don't end up like OP's MIL.

agedknees · 31/10/2010 19:22

Could they not use a ring pessary for a few months to tide her over? Would make life a bit easier for her.

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