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Original poster

to think it is a bit weird when women shop for their husband's clothes?

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TheEvilDead2 · 30/10/2010 11:03

as well as pack for them for holidays, business trips etc?

I have a few friends who do this... my DH would never trust me to do all his clothes shopping for him (and frankly I couldn't be arsed). And holiday packing and stuff like that... isn't it akward when someone else does your packing?

I wouldn't let Dh pack my suitcase. Christ knows what I'd find it in it.

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TheEvilDead2 · 30/10/2010 11:04

btw the above obviously doesn't count xmas, and birthday shopping for the odd thing. Just women who actually pick out their males wardobes...mostly without them there to even have a say

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FranSanDisco · 30/10/2010 11:05

I do shop for DH online after consulting him but he packs for himself. DH never gets time to buy clothes because he is so busy 24/7 Hmm. Just about fits in a game of golf now and then - altogether now AHHHHH!!! Grin

pommedeterre · 30/10/2010 11:06

I've had to do this a few times for dh due to time constraints as he works very long hours.
I found it a bit nerve wracking as I wouldn't want someone else to pack my suitcase but he was fine and relieved he didn't have to think about it.
Not a regular practice though. Think that would start to feel a bit like being his mum which is obviously to be avoided as it would kill the sex I'm presuming.

RockBat · 30/10/2010 11:06

Not really, depends on the person in question. DH has absolutely no interest in clothes, none whatsoever. He wears them because he has to, would merrily go naked! He also detests shopping with a passion whereas I don't mind it. If I left him to buy his own he would have been wearing the same jumper and jeans since college. It's no big deal and certainly not any kind of emasculating power trip on my part.

MrsBadger · 30/10/2010 11:06

not all his clothes shopping, but I am in clothes shops more often than DH, so am aware of his 'need list', and'll often buy stuff just in case and take back if wrong.

packing - not a chance. I pack for me and the dcs, he packs for himself and the kitchen.

SheWillBeLoved · 30/10/2010 11:07

I think it's a bit odd when you do everything for them. They're adults, not your children, and so should be able to take responsibility for their own shopping/packing, just like you have to.

But saying that, when I was still with my ex, if I was out shopping and saw something I knew was his style and he'd like, I'd have no problem buying it for him. Never packed for him though.

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TheEvilDead2 · 30/10/2010 11:10

Thinking of Rockbat's husband merrily off to work butt nekkid

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Psychommead · 30/10/2010 11:18

I love shopping and have time. He hates it with the ferocity of a thousand suns and has no time. So, bit of a no-brainer for us.

I don't pack for him though. Do remind him to pack PJs mind, because he forgets them often.

Bumperlicious · 30/10/2010 11:25

I wouldn't shop for him per se but I would buy stuff for him if I was out and saw something he would like.

Never packed for him though, he would hate that.

JuicyOoozingLips · 30/10/2010 11:28

I buy him clothes, only cos i shop more than he does as he works a lot. plus I know what he likes and wouldn't 'style' him as such. packing he can do himself!

thisisyesterday · 30/10/2010 11:28

dp doesn't give a shit about clothes.

if i didn't get stuff for him he would be wandering round in stuff that was worn out when i met him 7 years ago

this is fine, it's him, he just doesn't care if what he wears is worn out or not. there have been occassions when he has picked stuff up.. but in general he doesn't bother

so if i see stuff, particularly in sales etc, then i get it for him.
means he always wears stuff i like too lol

RockBat · 30/10/2010 11:35

You may jest EvilDead :o He thinks he's safe indoors because we have a wooden front door. However, what he fails to realise is that there is a window at the top of the door and the stairs are right in front of it. When he 'bounces' down the stairs in the morning, the milkman is treated to a view of DH's meat and two veg wafting in the wind :o

I'm sure that's why the milk is being left later these days...

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TheEvilDead2 · 30/10/2010 11:41

Occupational hazard I suppose? Blush

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Lonnie · 30/10/2010 11:41

I often buy my dhs clothing He hates shopping and would happily walk around in the same clothes for years and years and I dont want him looking like a scruff (he washes he is just one of those people that doesnt feel clothing is that important) its painful to make him come shopping so these days if I see something I think he will like I buy it and we have a much happier household. Yes there has been times where I didnt get it right but then it goes back to the shop for a refund or exchange.

We always pack his bag together not because he isnt able but because it is a nice part for the two of us to have together before he goes away for however long. Its a bit of adult time me and him time I enjoy it and I know he does too as he has commented the few times I didnt come to help that it felt strange.

Its not about him being unable too its because we enjoy it. He is also able to buy clothes but he doesnt enjoy it I love it so what is the problem?

I hate dealing with the garden he loves it so he does it and I do other more important stuff (like mn) Smile

valiumskeleton · 30/10/2010 11:45

I do. But I do get that some men look so hideous you wouldn't let them walk ten steps behind you in the outfits they pick out.

My real objection is when women think of presents to buy for their husband's family and then buy them, wrap them and allow their husband to think that it was no big deal.

RockBat · 30/10/2010 11:50

I refuse to do that. DH is absolutely in charge of present and card buying for his family. At Christmas he generally bribes me to wrap the presents as his wrapping looks like DD did it. But I usually get a good price for it :)

BubbaAndBump · 30/10/2010 11:51

I have forced DH to follow me around a shop while I 'help' :o him choose clothes. This happens once in a blue moon. If I don't send him out to buy clothes, he would also be butt nikkid - not through a sense of freedom but because his older clothes have either given up the ghost or crawled off into a nether world of their own accord.

And yes, I have been known to pack for him in the past! Shock

I would go loop the loop (and die of surprise) if he tried to do either of the above for me though! :o

missmoopy · 30/10/2010 11:52

I buy stuff for dh if I see something I think he'll like but not because he's incapable of doing so himself!

I DO pack for him because he is feckless at it! Plus, its quicker and easier.

WingDad · 30/10/2010 11:53

Whenever my wife goes on a shopping spree with her friends, she might buy me the odd T-shirt or whatever. I do the majority of my clothes shopping however...when I find the time!

I always pack my own bags when going away, otherwise I wouldn't know where anything is and if I forget something, I can only blame myself Grin

Besides, only I know how to properly fold things!

duvetcover · 30/10/2010 12:00

I buy clothes for DW once in a while. Not all the time, but sometimes I pass something and think "she would look great in that". When I have to take a trip to the US for work, she usually gives me a list and I choose all sorts for her. Almost always works for her. Is that any more wierd?

WingDad · 30/10/2010 12:03

I've done the 'buy-me-this-this-and-this' thing when I've gone away somewhere. I have to say I've never, ever, in our .....12 years of marriage looked at a dress and thought my wife would look great in it. I'm just not very women's fashion conscious.

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TheEvilDead2 · 30/10/2010 12:07

Besides, only I know how to properly fold things!

Is wingdad my DH?! Shock

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TheEvilDead2 · 30/10/2010 12:09

Actually duvet, I'll give you slightly less weird because you are doing it abroad. That is just bringing home a suitable gift :)

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brimfull · 30/10/2010 12:10

I buy stuff for dh as I love shopping and he loathes it and has zero interest in his clothes.
Wuoldn't dream of packing for him though or let him pack for me.
Even ds (8) packs for himself ,although I do check it.

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