...for tarting myself up a bit just before DP gets home....

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i am a SAHM and often don't bother with make-up in the day, especially if all I am doing is the school run and housework. my days usually consist of the above and sometimes meeting friends or taking my youngest to playgroups etc. but just before DP is due back I nip upstairs, and make myself presentable, stick a bit of make-up on, sort my hair out, put my contacts in if i have been wearing my specs, squirt of perfume, change into something at least clean a bit more attractive than tracksuit bottoms and uggs.

does anyone else do this? or is it horribly "stepford wife" - ly of me :o

It's lovely! while I don't do it all the time I do sometimes.

I do...well I put some makeup on but I certainly don't get changed...can't be bothered and he doesn't care about clothes...in my experience most men only notice your attire when it's not there.

Plus OP it depends what you're changing into...if yoou generally put on a large floppy hat, high heels and a full length sundress...well then yes. You are a Stepford Wife.

Good for you making an effort. I have usually taken a bath just before he gets in so am in my jammies - romance is not dead round these here parts.

It's nice to make the effort for each other as and when you can. You will have days when you can/cannot. If that's understood by both of you then you are on to a very good thing.

That's so lovely of u! Made me feel guilty for my mad hair and scowl look that is all my dh sees! ;-)

I do it too sometimes. Not as often as I would like though since my DD came along this year.

Gosh I should, I look frightful when my DH gets home... Covered in either purée or vomit, no make up, hair tied back as tight as I can get it (so DS doesn't pull it all out), jeans and white t-shirt (AGAIN! only mildly interesting because you can guess what DS had for breakfast, lunch and dinner), no perfume (because someone told me you shouldn't wear perfume if you're breastfeeding - is that true by the way?).
I should make an effort , having said that DH cycles home and is usually sweaty, has helmet hair and often has had something smelly for lunch so I can still smell it on his breath.
GOSH we are an attractive pair!

Guacamole - and I bet you appreciate each other's hard work.

Awww - it's a nice thing to do. Guacamole has summed up my situation exactly, including the biking DH.

Unfortunately, I am 35wks pregnant with DC2 and the little blighter is posterior and I have the back ache from HELL so I don't think I can be nice to DH whilst secretly cursing him for doing this to me

I do that too! Yanbu at all

Chatelaine, thank you... That's nice. I'm not a SAHM, well I kind of am at the moment, I'm on maternity leave and am getting used to being a Mum. Believe me, my appearance now (although still dreadful) is a 100% improvement on what it was in the early days! I really do need to sort out something though (maybe a pinny?) to stop myself wearing my DSs food... Weaning isn't easy, is it?

DH due home at 10 after a week away. Just got time to make myself look 40 again

I don't (spend the day at work anyway) but I probably would if I fancied a shag ;-)

Guacamole, I've never heard that you shouldn't wear perfume . . . I usually have some on and it doesn't seem to have put DD off breastfeeding?

Before I had DD I did used to do my hair, make up, change clothes before DH came home (I worked as well, just got home first, and he works weekends)

Now, I don't really have time but I do generally make sure I get up/dressed/made up/ hair done in the mornings otherwise I feel miserable. That is definitely for me not him though!

It is lovely to make an effort for each other.

Deadly, I think that's when the baby's newborn, so that he/she can get used to your smell.

I used to, but he gets home at 2 am now, so I am asleep.

I really should do this occasionally

DH comes home looking all yummy with 5(7)o'clock shadow and his shirt sleeves rolled up, and I'm generally here covered in god knows what, often no make up and my hair pulled back.
However he always tells me I look beautiful so I don't have a huge incentive :)

If he has been away then I do make an effort, and he then looks awful and smells of coffee having just got off a plane!

OP you sound lovely! Sure my DH would appreciate it, unfortunately I'm much more like Guacamole, and my DH is much like guacamole's DH - I do think it's important for you to make an effort for each other, but timing (weaning, having a newborn and being fat and preggers are not good times to try it out! :o) is everything I'm sure! :o

Does he do the same?

I have to say the thought of tarting myself up for DH at the end of my day turns my stomach.

If someone doesn't fancy me because I'm not wearing make-up, or am wearing a bit of vomit, then...TBH, they can fuck right off and not come back, thanks.

Like Deadly, I fix myself up every morning, for me. This means I am clean, well-groomed and dressed in a comfortable and vaguely stylish manner.

If I am going to do something nice for DH, it's probably not going to be making myself pretty. I haven't worked this hard for equality with him to behave like a schoolgirl with low self-esteem. Sorry, but it's how I feel.

I do not need a man's approval about my appearance.

It is lovely that you still make an effort.
I unfortunately do the opposite. I have lovely hair and make up at the start of the day but by the time DH gets in the make up has run, DD has messed by hair up by playing with it all day and I am wearing clothes which are at least 50% sick.

Fortunately DH likes me best when I haven't made an effort (or so he says) :)

I don't

See I don't know why I make the effort because dp always tells me he fancies me most when I first wake up in the morning (but I think he might be an incredably good liar!)

WomanOfAbjectMystery I think you're being a bit unfair. There is nothing in the OP that suggests she feels she has to do this or her DH will think less of her.

I think it is important for both partners to make an effort and not take each other for granted.