To ask that THEY ask to leave the table?

[spybear]

I have had quite a fair few kids over for tea during these holidays and if they get down from the table without asking then I will request from them that they ask before they get down as this is what we do in our house.

Today I have my nephew over to sleep, he kept getting down from the table and trying to play when we were still eating( he is 3yo)
so I asked him to stay sitting and to ask if he wanted to leave, he wouldn't ask, he refused so in the end I just said ok then but next time please ask.

AIBU and old fashioned? And I am expecting too much of my nephew (FWIW i also have a 3yo DD and she asks and has asked since she was out of a high chair)

I'd rather a 3 y/o leave the table than sit and whinge throughout dinner because they were to stubborn to ask permission. Don't see the fuss tbh. I do expect manners from someone that age though.

They wouldn't whinge after the first couple of times though would they? They'd get the picture quite quickly.

We need a woop woop! type emoticon for Hecate - well said! Have people really said you don't have to say thank you if you don't mean it?

The one I encounter in the playground quite a lot is 'Why should I have to say sorry for crashing into you if it was an accident/not my fault/ I didn't know you were there/ someone else pushed me into you?' BECAUSE IT'S POLITE!

HEAR HEAR HECTATE
Manners maketh man
Teach 'em good manners while they're young and it becomes habit

Hecate - totally agree.

I cant abide children getting down from the table in restauarants and running around while their parents doing nothing to control them. They plainly are allowed to do it at home and know no better.