I've name changed for this cos I'm a coward! My sis and her husband are fairly well off, they have a big house although there's only 2 of them and 2 little puppies. Me, dh and 2 dc's aged 1 and 2.5 went to visit for the weekend and at the mo, dh and I are just trying to cope with 2 little ones and working etc etc. Anyway, we left a number of nappies in nappy bags on the front door step to be put into the bin by anyone who happened to have shoes on when leaving through the front door, we didn't communicate this, we just assumed that people would do it to help (as we would do if we had our shoes on). However, on Saturday night I had bathed DD and taken her downstairs to grandma who was also staying whilst DH bathed DS. When I cam downstairs I had a nappy in a nappy bag in my hand to put outside but DH shouted for bath toys and I left the nappy bag with nappy on the sideboard in the hall whilst I ran upstairs with the bath toys. Whilst upstairs I heard my sisters husband complaining to my mum 'It's getting worse' I had no idea what he was referring to but was aware that my mum was jumpy (I should add that my mum is very anxious and old) I asked mum what was going on (innocently thinking that sister's husband was referring to a leak in a pipe or something) mum refused to tell me for a while but eventually said it was the nappies and that we should have put them in the bin. I promptly went to speak to sister's husband and said that I understood he was unhappy about me leaving nappies on the doorstep and I was sorry but I had hoped that people would help us out by putting them in the bin when they go out. Sister's husbnd said that we should no better. I said that I think he should have told me if he had a problem and not involve my aged mum with anxiety issues. He said that it was wrong that I did it. he did not give any explanation as to why he involved my poor mum. I could go on but won't! What do people think of this? AIBU leaving nappy bags on the front doorstep? Should we support each other as a family?