to have bust my judgeometer upon seeing this?

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In Primark today. 2 girls with their mum - one looked slightly older than my DD and one slightly younger so I assume they were around 3 1/2 and 2 1/2. Both walking around with dummies in (not that this is that strange I'm just setting the scene), both with pierced ears (which I hate but I know some people think is fine). They were both dressed in just a sleepsuit (thin popper style). The younger one's sleepsuit was about a foot too long and she was tripping up with every step - it was also filthy as it had been trailing the floor ans she had no shoes on. The older girl didn't have this problem as the mother had chosen to team her sleepsuit with a pair of pink, glittery high heels

Primark do sleepsuits right up to adult size - not the thin sort though only the fleecy ones.

Hold let me just adjusst MY judgey pants.

You mean, you actually shop in primark?

I was thinking that too sleeplessfamiliar how lovely and cosy in the winter.
Would like something similar for me too!

She could have had a crisis and I feel for her if she did but this kind of attire is not THAT unusual around these parts. Adults go to the shops in there pjs etc. This is the worst I've seen though. I spose I could have asked if it was a crisis situation but it might not have been taken too well if it wasn't.

SarfEasticated - I'm afraid so - and charity shops. I'm poor

no shoes and no coat in this weather!?? Poor kids.

I would judge and I wouldn't say anything - WTF are you supposed to say? 'Goodness me, your children look rather poorly dressed for this weather, are you short of a guinea?'

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I took my niece out last week (4) and she insisted she must wear - reindeer antlers, a frog costume and flip flops....
I let her because I thougt it was hilarious

Madam - DD had a dummy at night til she was 2 1/2 - I'm not anti-dummy at all. I found this situation so funny cos I felt like I got a full house in Mumsnet bingo within about 30 secsonds.

The kids were in a shop in the afternoon with no shoes or coats on. Not strolling along the sea front

I'm going with the crisis scenario. Although I would have tried to carry the 2 year old, or grabbed the first cheap outfit off the shelf, paid for it, dressed them, and then shopped some more.

Meh. Who knows? If it was as it appeared then I'd call it neglect.

I'm with thesecondcoming here - I've never seen competitive non judgement before but its certainly interesting.

There are some things not to be judgy about, but toddlers with no shoes and no coats on a cold day FFS - if you think that's OK what the heck do you think is neglectful?

Even my teenage DSD who refuses point blank to wear a coat even on tit-freezingly cold days, always wears shoes!

As for not saying anything, why couldn't you have helped the kid up from one of the supposed 'many falls' saying something like 'oooh this is too big for you, it's making you fall over and you've lost your shoes!' in a friendly, joky way. The mother might have said 'fuck off what's it got to do with you' or 'ooh yes she's such a joker, she's took her shoes off and my mums got them outside' or she might have burst into tears saying she's just escaped from her husband and is here to buy some more'

Can't people speak to other people any more?!

I was too far away to have picked the child up and I had my own 2 with me - one of which needs constant attention. Despite being judgey I'm not so much of an evil cow that I wouldn't help a child to their feet if I could. Their mum, on the other hand, who was right by them was letting them get on with it. Maybe I should have said something on the off chance the mum was fleeing an abuser/house fire but they literally walked across my field of vision and I was too shocked to speak for a while tbh.
Love "supposed" falls by the way.

A friend of mine used to take her kids to Tesco on a saturday afternoon to buy baking things, sprinkles, flour, coconut, icing pens, anythinbg they fancied making. The thing is she didn't bother to get any of them dressed, the'd be in various states of undress (including her) and people used to stare at these unwashed children in their pj's. If I bumped into her I'd laugh...but only because I knew the children were v well looked after and they just enjoyed very lazy weekends. I might have been more judgy if I hadn't known her.

she said saturday afternoon,not the whole weekend?

No she didn't, she said very lazy weekends.

Nowt wrong with primini.

Oh yes - competitive non-judgmentalism. I too am flabbergasted by this concept on MN.

I truly don't know anyone who NEVER judges, it is human nature. Additionally there are times when we SHOULD judge and some situations cry out for this.

Am with secondcoming and babyheave.

Errrmmmmmm.... the other week, during Getting Ready For School Mayhem, it became apparent that DS2 was NOT going to finish eating his toast any time soon (he has taken to breaking his food down to the atomic level ATM)so I bundled him (he is nearly 3 1/2) into the buggy with his coat on over his pyjamas (I put shoes & socks on him) and shoved his outfit for the day under the buggy and we all dashed out the door.
It happened to be a Friday which is Assembly Day - and DS1 was up for a certificate (for being clever at Maths!! ) so I ended up changing DS2 out of his PJ's during assembly. I got some snooty looks from some of the other mums there, to which I replied (not-quite-under my breath, "yes, they're PYJAMAS".
As regards the mum & kids you saw, OP... hmm...I'd have been judgey there, too.
AND I shop in Primark. Asda, and occasionally Lidl too. 'Cos I'm poor, as well!