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Renewal of vows after nine months of marriage?

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BalloonSlayer · 25/10/2010 15:12

There is an article in the Laydee section of the Times today about the current vogue for having Vow Renewal ceremonies.

Apparently the Black Swan Hotel at Helmsley, North Yorkshire have launched a £2,500 wedding vow renewal package.

You get a certificate and everything.

One couple are renewing their vowa after nine months of marriage because they had 140 people to their first wedding and it was "Too big. So we decided to have another one."

AIBU to think Hmm?

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scurryfunge · 25/10/2010 15:14

Maybe they had some serious issues within the first few months of marriage and wanted to renew because of that.

spookyhalloweenFluffypomkins · 25/10/2010 15:14

If they want too and can afford the £2,500
Why not?

nickytwotimes · 25/10/2010 15:15

yanbu

9 mths?!

Hullygully · 25/10/2010 15:16

Fabulous.

I'm going to have one a week.

GypsyMoth · 25/10/2010 15:16

money making scams!!

you dont even need vows to be happy,let alone a second time..

Itsjustafleshwound · 25/10/2010 15:17

YANBU - what was the original wedding all about then??

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BalloonSlayer · 25/10/2010 15:18

They said "Even before we got married we said we would renew our vows because we had picked such a big date. It was all so hectic and the day came and went too quickly."

I agree if they have got the money, why not, and to be fair, the second one was just the two of them. But did they think making the vows didn't count the first time, I wonder?

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BalloonSlayer · 25/10/2010 15:20

Yeah hully, if I was a squillionaire I'd have one a month.

I'd make everyone come. And bring presents. And have a dress code. And no babies. Especially breastfed ones. And by the end of the decade I'd be a multi-squillionaire by flogging all my toasters on Ebay.

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BarnacleBill · 25/10/2010 15:21

Ridiculously attention seeking.

9 months? Bloody hell, even after 9 years i'd be Hmm it's just so pointless.

TrillianSlasher · 25/10/2010 15:21

They just want another party. They liked being the centre of attention for the day and wanted to do it again.

Why not, if it makes them happy?

megonthemoon · 25/10/2010 15:21

No, YANBU. I think Hmm too.

Itsjustafleshwound · 25/10/2010 15:22

Huh?? - they admit that they were carried away the first time so got conned the second time doing what they should have had in the first place?? Perhaps there is a market out there - renewing the divorce (double lawyer fees) or christening the child a second time as you have had a falling out with one of the godparents ....

GypsyMoth · 25/10/2010 15:22

why not?? because i expect friends and family....people like us....will be expected to fork out for outfits/travel/accomadation etc etc....for a sill indulgement like this??

spleenvent · 25/10/2010 15:23

Who are they? Jordan and Peter Andre?

SheWillBeLoved · 25/10/2010 15:23

I always find renewing vows quite odd. If you meant them the first time, why do you need to do it again?

saffy85 · 25/10/2010 15:23

YANBU. I think it's a lovely idea to renew wedding vows (although I have no intention of making any marriage vows whatsoever), but 9 months later? Why? If I got an invite to a renewing vows ceromony 9 months after attending the actual wedding I'd be a bit Hmm tbh. And probably wear the exact same outfit as I wore to the wedding as a bit of "fun" de ja vu Grin

spleenvent · 25/10/2010 15:23

Or whatever the name is of her latest victim husband.

ghoulishglendawhingesagain · 25/10/2010 15:24

LOL. 9 months after my wedding I was having DD so I was a tad too busy to waste my money on another party!

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BalloonSlayer · 25/10/2010 15:24

Later in the article a lady from Relate reckons it's because so few couples make it to 25 years nowadays Sad

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BalloonSlayer · 25/10/2010 15:25

I must re-iterate that the 9 months couple's renewal was just the two of them.

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cakewench · 25/10/2010 15:29

wow. They're spending on their renewal about what we spent for our entire wedding. :)

Hey, if they want to do it, whatever. Do I think renewing your vows after 9 months is a bit of overkill? Absolutely. Even if I thought I wanted to re-do our ceremony, I think I'd want to wait a bit longer than that. If only because I think it's nice to have some time between 'events' in order to appreciate them fully.

TrillianSlasher · 25/10/2010 15:30

So not even an attention-seeking thing?

I'm with whoever said that they'd clearly had some marital problems. But I'd rather just go on a holiday.

anonymousbrainsnatcher · 25/10/2010 15:30

I would actually like to renew my vows. 12 years in two weeks.... so it won't be this year. May be 13, lucky for some Confused. Would just be an excuse for a bit of a knees up/party. No presents, no fancy outfits or whatever. Just a few family and a few friends. Would also like to combine with naming ceremony for DC....

Is that so wrong?

Why is it pointless? Am actually interested to hear, as it is just something I quite fancy doing!

saffy85 · 25/10/2010 15:30

Fair enough but 9 months later? I think the lady from Relate may have a point. My SIL has a friend who about when and not if her marriage breaks down. Eh? Confused why the hell even bother getting hitched if you don't think it'll work out and you'll be together forever?! Why waste everyone's time?

Am I hopelessly naive in thinking a person only ever plans to get married the one time?

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BalloonSlayer · 25/10/2010 15:31

I suppose I am of an age where people only renewed vows because they had been broken, and it was sadly usually the fidelity one.

So if I heard of anyone renewing their vows when it wasn't a big anniversary I'd think: "Oh Aye? Which one of 'em was it then?"

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