To hate being a housewife/homemaker?

[domeafavour]

I love being a mum, but hate hate hate the other stuff that comes with it.
The washing, drying on the line, on radiators, in a dryer that creases everything, the ironing, cooking , cleaning.
Sorting bills, car tax, direct debits, fixing everything that goes wrong. Organising, re- organising. Bring responsible for every bloody thing in the house.
Cooking, so sick of trying to think up new meals. Lost all appetite, don't even want to eat anything I cook.

Can't wait to go back to work, can you tell?!

lady,you will find your own routine as you already have,toddlers love helping mum and find the most boring tasks exciting,even if we dont

tbh I didn't get much done when dd2 was a baby. This was basically due to me choosing to spend her nap times mnetting/reading etc rather than getting organised.

I know it sounds harsh but once I went back to work I got my act together a bit more and managed to do most of the jobs.

In our house I work part time and dh ft btw, so imo on the days that I am off and he isn't, the majority of the tasks are my responsibility.

I would hate to leave it all for the weekend, even though he would do it I feel that if I am off at the weekend then it is nicer to spend time doing stuff with the dcs.

theywillgrowup, how long can you leave your DC for?
seriously, when they are 1, 2 or 3 how long would you leave them alone, 2 floors down?

theywillgrowup the point was that you are not able to do a "proper" cleaning or thorough job. It is hard when having a toddler or more. Add on top of it that should I have a choice much rather sit and do coloring with my kids that scrubbing the bathroom....

And different people have their own expectations of what a "decent" cleaning is...I have my mother's standard who was a sterilising freek- I am the opposite !

dome take them with you if walking,assume you have safety gates

if not walking take bouncy chair etc,or sit with pillows around babe,few toys or any household items to play with

get them to help,i do say that in the looses term though

its not impossible and no parent is by their dc's side every minute,you just cant be

...are you my mother???

cleaning when you have dc's at home is not impossible,if you dont like cleaning fine but dont say cant be done,dome how many do you have DC's i mean

..or my MIL? Now that could be funny!

way maybe i am but my DC's are twins 11yrs and nearly 4yr old so probably not.lol.

i do have OCD, seriously so maybe thats why i am how i am.though more of a tidy freak than deep deep cleaning

well, I'm very happy you have such amenable children, mine would not stay still and yes, needed pretty much constant supervision. Like I said every situation is different. Of course it's not impossible and I would always be able to do something,and I could always do it when they were asleep, but not a thorough house clean, moving the furniture etc.

Yes, clearly am pathetic. Had not thought of that.

Thanks.

it's not really about me, I always did the cleaning around DS, when he went to nursery, or when he was asleep, I just couldn't do it with him around my feet, but I can just see how or why people would want a cleaner.
I'm not saying it's impossible, just a bit more difficult for some.

i think the pathetic was aimed at me

dome mine werent are not amenable,3 boys god no way but was/am on my own

never forget when they were about 2yrs old went in another room 4 boxes of cereal all emptied on floor into a real variety box in seconds

i laugh about it now,didnt then

lol

wish you well

Ah. [raw nerve emoticon]

I;ve just gone back to University at the age of 49 in order to avoid the "H" word. I'm using my student grants/loans to fund as much domestic outsourcing as possible.

I have a teenage aspie son and a v.v. aged mama to care for, as well as a high maintenance self-employed DH. I run two households under one (large and crumbling) roof.

Uni is a walk in the park in comparison. If I play my cards right I'll still be working on my PHD in my 60's.

now thats multi-tasking

Well in MrsF!

That is what I much rather do!! How do you go about it Mrs.F ..

Thanks for your words of encouragement!

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HTH!

I am a sahm, I hate tidying up and washing clothes etc but that only takes maybe half an hour in the morning and half an hour in the evening. I love all the other bits, cooking, decorating, nipping out whenever i feel like and i do things like making clothes crochet/ knitting. I am probably hopelessly old fashioned but who cares do whatever makes you happy - if you don't like ring a sahm then don't be and its fine to look forward to going back to work!

Forgot to add i also have a home binder that i keep thing out of magazines in that i want to try - i got this idea frorm my 87 year old grandmother. I am 27 there is no hope for me is there.

"Cooking, so sick of trying to think up new meals"

can I suggest a 1 week/fortnight/month (however many dishes you have in your repetoire) rotating menu. No menu planning and dead easy to write the shopping list