to be pissed off that my sister thinks I'm a selfish careerist bitch while she polishes her SAHM halo?

[motovacuum]

The snide comments about self-sacrificing mothers (and the fact i'm not one) are never-ending.

I work 100-hour weeks on about 20K, as does my partner. I have done for the last 15 years. Sometimes we have to dress up in the course of our work, so we have some nice clothes. Mostly we wear jeans and jumpers. We do not get any help from our parents at all and haven't since we were at school.

My sister lives 5 minutes away from mummy, and she and her dear PFB are constantly being bought expensive designer label stuff by my parents - and house deposits, new cars, new computers, whatever she bloody wants. This afternoon it was two pairs of shoes each - the 2yo's shoes were over 100 pounds a pair, god only knows what my sister's ones were. Mum was delighted to have spent the money, Dad thought the shoes were lovely, etc etc. My sister's husband thinks it's great (possibly because he doesn't have to pay for his and his family's expensive tastes?)

I'm currently "home" (gritting my teeth in my parents' house) trying to get work done, while my sister comes round every five minutes to slag me off for being selfish, spoiling myself with nice things because apparently I think I deserve it because I don't work myself to the bone for my darling child (because I don't have children yet). I wore a nice coat to a meeting this afternoon, and had to listen to a tirade about it - and she got her PFB darling child to rub jam into it.

and yes, this is partly in response to the opposite-number thread currently in AIBU. What is in the minds of you people ?

OP:

I had a much longed for second child 2 years ago. I suffered 3 mc (2 quite traumatic incomplete ones) between during which time my dsis had my youngest nephew.

Did I hate her? Did I think her selfish? Do I mind that her dh earns WAY more than mine and they can buy their dc basically whatever they want?

NO.

She is my sister and I have 2 lovely nephews whom I adore.

It is not your sisters fault that you work hard in a job you dislike is it? Your fertility issues are not her fault, are they?

My parents spoil their grandchildren. My PIL spoil my dc. Its what most grandparents do. I know in my parents case they want to give the Grandkids what they couldnt give us.

Your attitude to your little nephew is awful.....he is the innocent in all this.

YABVU.

I hope your employment and fertility issues resolve themselves OP....but who will you blame if you are still unhappy then I wonder?????????