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to get angry when the mother kept saying 'she's ok' when her son knocked my DS down on the floor at the softplay, ok even i know it was an accident.

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baytree11 · 19/10/2010 15:11

ok, just came back from softplay, i am not a big fan but DD ( 23 mths) loves it, shes a very active toddler as its getting cold and still wet this morning so park wasnt an option. Anyway, a little accident today at the softplay, honestly, i understand accident does happen but what annoys me the most is softplay seems to be a groud full of irresponsible mums, sat there talk and eat and don't watch their kids...and i do notice some mean children around who have no idea what 'share' means.. also, what annoys me the most is they would order 'chicken nuggets & slush' for their children?? i mean, ok its softplay but they do have toastie and milk on the menu.

Anyway, a little boy probably same age as my DD, he accidentally knocked her down as she was walking and he was running towards her...I was like, shocked, it was really bad, i could hear a loud noise when she was knocked down and she cried really bad...now ..i wasn't too angry cos i know accident does happen, i was just very concerned if my DD's ok...what made me very angry was the mother of that little boy kept saying,'' oh, she's ok, i am sure she's alright'',

it's like she thinks my DS was just a softie, i know my DD!! i mean, i wouldn't have got so angry if she just simply said...i am terribly sorry, he didn't mean to, is she ok?? i would accept it, i wouldn't be so angry and i did believe that little boy didn't mean to. you know, sincere apology would go down better, don't you think so?

I didn't know what else to say to her, i just said 'jesus, kept shaking my head, that's terrible' honestly, i was and am still angry.

OP posts:
GypsyMoth · 19/10/2010 15:14

you lost my sympathy when you got judgemental about all the other mums there,and what they chose to treat their kids to!!

lollipopshoes · 19/10/2010 15:16

um... was your dd okay?

as for the children eating chicken nuggets - so what? my kids get fed ultra healthy food at home so are allowed to choose whatever they want if we eat out (once or twice a year!) and if it's chicken nuggets and chips, well, it's a treat, they can have it!

muddleduck · 19/10/2010 15:16

so...

you got hysterical and she tried to reassure you?

Aloneinthehouse · 19/10/2010 15:17

You went to soft play with a little one and she got knocked over, it happens, the woman should have apologised but was most likely quite flustered by what her child did.

Softplay seems to breed parents like you initially described, some dont go there for their childs enjoyment but so they can have a social natter and a coffee whilst ignoring the kids

Have a cuppa and relax, it will happen and it was an accident.

Tortington · 19/10/2010 15:18

totally OTT there op.

sorry your kid got knocked down, but seriously love, get over it.

SixtyFootGhooool · 19/10/2010 15:18

OMG Op
Calm down and listen to yourself
You are not doing yourself any favours here

RockBat · 19/10/2010 15:19

Oh get a grip. Really, your DD was ok, right? So she wasn't lying, she was just reassuring you. It's not like she went over and pushed your child to the ground herself, her same age toddler did it. What exactly would you have wanted her to do? Hot sweet tea? Pour you a brandy? Call an ambulance?

And was it your DD or DS? You don't seem sure...

And what the children had for lunch has flap all to do with it. Sounds like you'd better stay away from soft play in future.

Ugh, I give up!

Tee2072 · 19/10/2010 15:29

What does the food have to do with anything?

Also, do you have a son or a daughter, you don't seem sure.

Perhaps you had a nip of the bottle after the hell of softplay?

Personally, I don't go to them. My son is just walking and even in crap weather we go outside to play in the park. He wears wellies and a coat. He gasp gets a bit damp, but that's half the fun, isn't it?

traceybath · 19/10/2010 15:29

Oh dear - you sound a little ummm over-wrought.

Accidents happen - if you get so stressed with normal toddler behaviour probably best to avoid soft-play.

Hope your DD is ok.

ShowOfBloodyStumps · 19/10/2010 15:33

She was reassuring you.

I hope your dd/ds is okay.

And it's absolutely none of your clenched bottom's business what other people feed their children on a single occasion.

proudnscary · 19/10/2010 15:58

Oh for feck's sake woman, get a grip.

Nellykats · 19/10/2010 15:59

The only reason to judge other people's food is if they're throwing it at you.

yabu

hystericalmum · 19/10/2010 16:03

Good God. Calm down!!!

gapbear · 19/10/2010 16:06

How I feel about people who write 'cried really bad' is how you feel about people who let their children eat chicken nuggets.

It takes all sorts.

It's soft play, accidents happen, get over it.

misdee · 19/10/2010 16:06

slush and some nuggets ok for dd4.

milk and toastie could kill her. so if you dont muind i'll avoid that item.

ForMashGetSmash · 19/10/2010 16:09

gapbear....don't be bitchy...WHAT does the OP's grammar matter? I agree that she is BU but no need to try to make her look dumb.

Hullygully · 19/10/2010 16:10

Well I think you have a point. People don't watch their kids in those places - I didn't, I let them run free and devoured Take a Break and all the other mags they have. That's the point of them. It's just a bit pox that you were the parent of the small one, but your time will come, you too will get to sit and ignore them while they knock small ones over.

PutTheKettleOn · 19/10/2010 16:10

She could have been trying to reassure her own DS, I know my DD gets very upset when she sees other kids crying.

Btw, it's ok to go to softplay y'know, you don't have to justify it with 'I only go when it's raining, and my kids only eat toasties anyway, I'm not like those other mums who go to soft play...' Wink

GoreRenewed · 19/10/2010 16:12

I suspect she was just trying to reassure you. Why would you be angry because of an accident? I expect the other mother was shocked and embarrassed and said the wrong thing.

NothereisnobodylurkingbehindU · 19/10/2010 16:15

It was a minor accident, the other child was probably very upset as well and most toddlers don't know what 'share' means. HmmYOu need to relax a bit - active toddlers will fall over A LOT and you are going to burn yourself out if you have to react like this every time.

ShatnersBassoon · 19/10/2010 16:17

What is slush? I'm imagining the bucket we used to scrape our school dinner plates into Confused

YABU, pigswill or not. It was an accident, but you got angry about it.

booooooooooyhoo · 19/10/2010 16:17

whats wrong with chicken nuggets?

gapbear · 19/10/2010 16:17

ForMashGet Smash - OP was having at go at a group of people giving their children type of food that she personally disapproves of. That is being bitchy.
So I assumed that she would be OK with other people having similar attitudes to her.

misdee · 19/10/2010 16:18

slush, am assuming an icey drink full of enumbers and additives. aka slush puppies

PuppyMonkey · 19/10/2010 16:19

Get angry, fair enough. But get over it.

They might have been gourmet Chicken nuggets for all you know.