to get angry when the mother kept saying 'she's ok' when her son knocked my DS down on the floor at the softplay, ok even i know it was an accident.

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ok, just came back from softplay, i am not a big fan but DD ( 23 mths) loves it, shes a very active toddler as its getting cold and still wet this morning so park wasnt an option. Anyway, a little accident today at the softplay, honestly, i understand accident does happen but what annoys me the most is softplay seems to be a groud full of irresponsible mums, sat there talk and eat and don't watch their kids...and i do notice some mean children around who have no idea what 'share' means.. also, what annoys me the most is they would order 'chicken nuggets & slush' for their children?? i mean, ok its softplay but they do have toastie and milk on the menu.

Anyway, a little boy probably same age as my DD, he accidentally knocked her down as she was walking and he was running towards her...I was like, shocked, it was really bad, i could hear a loud noise when she was knocked down and she cried really bad...now ..i wasn't too angry cos i know accident does happen, i was just very concerned if my DD's ok...what made me very angry was the mother of that little boy kept saying,'' oh, she's ok, i am sure she's alright'',

it's like she thinks my DS was just a softie, i know my DD!! i mean, i wouldn't have got so angry if she just simply said...i am terribly sorry, he didn't mean to, is she ok?? i would accept it, i wouldn't be so angry and i did believe that little boy didn't mean to. you know, sincere apology would go down better, don't you think so?

I didn't know what else to say to her, i just said 'jesus, kept shaking my head, that's terrible' honestly, i was and am still angry.

now i am getting in case people get judgey when i peruse a menu of some place and order dd4 just chips.

Misdee, of course . I was imagining something that could be put on a plate with nuggets.

yes you have over reacted but when you see your baby hurt or upset sometimes that happens your only human.

I also agree that an apology was in order. I do it a lot its just polite and its usually met with "oh, it's ok"

I get annoyed at soft play too but tend to avoid them

ok now i have read past the judgy chicken nugget coment.

OP you are angry that someone tried to reasure you that your DD was ok? you are angry about that? she was being nice, it was probably a bit of a shock for her aswell as it isn't nice to see children upset.

don't misdee - as I posted further down the thread (or up if you don't have MN classic ) I feed my dc what everyone would consider healthy food at home so when we go out they get what they want.

Sometimes it's chips and tomato ketchup.

If I even suspected anyone was being judgeypants I'd have something to say about it!

I draw the line at fruitshoots though

My DD loves a slush and some crap food at soft play.
I think it's akin to hell so I read my book, drink my dishwater coffee and ignore her and everyone else.
Then I go home and have some neat vodka wine.

You are being just a teeny bit precious op.

presumably that is why these places are SOFT play - as toddlers are running around banging into each other and falling over? And everything is soft/padded so they don't hurt themselves when they do? (I've blessedly manage to swerve the places this far)

You've got yourself in a tizz about absolutely nothing here. Bundle your DD up & maybe stick to the park?

What exactly are you angry about?

but what is wrong with wrapping up and going to the park?

I don't get why the park is not an option, we have warm clothes and wellies easily available in this country, non?

Oh yes, I used to judge parents of Those Kids at soft play.

Then ds1 grew into one...

hah x posts Finding

gabear....yes she was...but there is no need to go even lower. If you were blessed with a good education and can write with skill....even basic skill...then it's pretty classless to sneer at those who cannot.

Why would you shake your head and say "Jesus thats terrible", when she was obviously apologising for her little boy and trying to make sure your dd was ok.

Really sorry but I find your op a bit of a ramble tbh.

Do you think the OP has run screaming from the screen? :o

oh,accidents happen op!you are being a bit,pfb,non?
ok,it's horrible to see your tot distressed,but the other mum sounds as if she was trying to reassure you.if anothr mum kept going,"jesus,this is terrible"..i'd think she were a bit odd,and probably try and tell you she was ok too.

What is toastie and milk? OK, I know what milk is, but is it a dippy thing? Trying to get a picture here.

Ah well, ForMashGetSmash, we shall have to agree to disagree.

echt - what I call a toastie is basically melted cheese in between two slices of bread which have been toasted together in a toasty machine.

A bit like a toasted cheese sandwich (but not exactly)

probably on white bread too...

I could live on toasties :) White bread with ham and cheese, golden brown on the outside, lovely and melty on the insides... mmmm

I had a toastie and milk for my dinner

I had a friend like this. Our second children used to spend a lot of time hitting and pushing each other. If her son did it to mine I would comfort mine and then brush over it knowing that it was a phase. She would go on and on saying stuff like oh my god oh Jesus etc. It drove me mad and I had to avoid her.

peanut butter toasties!!!! yum

I am guessing she is your PFB.Little siblings are knocked over 10 times a day and not always accidentally

I'd stay away from softplay if I were you. It seems to have a very negative effect on your common sense ...

Hope your dd is ok