To think that BOTH parents

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Should be informed and agree if their child is going to be photographed and featured in a national newspaper?

no, not neccessarily

depends, are they together or separated ?If they're together then I think its OK for the newspaper to assume that one parent speaks for both.

Ok probably need to add more details so it's not AIBU by stealth.

DSDs mum keeps appearing in national newspapers (with photos of her and DSD) on random subjects. I have no idea why and she has never asked if DH is happy with it (which he's not). What the heck is she up to? Not that it makes any difference, but for fullness we have joint residency.

Back story here?

Would have though any person with parental responsibility should be able to give permission, as with anything else.

Do newspapers need a person's consent in order to publish their picture, even a child's photo? I would imagine not, so I reckon you're on a hiding to nothing.

No you only need one guardian/parent's permission I believe.

But I would be very put out indeed if I was your dh.

I can't even bear my mother putting pix of the dc on the dreaded Facebook.

She is giving interviews, so obviously she is consenting.

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So I think your DH needs to take it up with her if he has concerns.

Is she doing it to get paid maybe or just because she likes it ?

There's probably a legal answer (not necessary) and a moral one (probably best to)

I agree that he needs to talk to her about it, any time he mentions anything that he is concerned about he is 'controlling her'.

No idea why she I doing it. She's in PR workwise so maybe she just has lots of journalist contacts?

My son ended up in local paper a couple of times without any one's permission so I think no is the answer to your question. He wasn't named in either, a photographer just happened to be around at the activity he was in. He was delighted to be in the paper.
I would let it go unless she's slagging you off in the paper.

But this isn't random photos in the local rag, this is her giving interviews and posed photos with the 2 of them. I think that makes it slightly different. All my DCs have been in the local paper when they had a special project on at their school, I have no problem with that.

The articles are about her and DHs marriage/divorce, her new partner and their relTionship, pensions as a divorced woman, things to do in our city with kids, a posed photo with her, DSD, her partner anda random toddler advertising a competition on the front of a national newspaper. All of the articles are in national papers.

Don't really see the problem.

is it the parent the child lives with who is in the photos with them, and presumably gave their consent,if so whats the problem here? that parent has to make umpteeen decisions every day for that child - does exP need to be consulted on each one?

Parents of adopted kids/those involved in witness protection etc etc i can quite see why schools have to be careful about photos and names and where/if they appear in a public domain, but for an average child there is no issue IMO

Perpetually- we have joint residency, DSD spends a week with us and a week with her Mum. It just doesn't sit well, DH feels very uncomfortable with DSD being exposed in the national press.

The fact that your DP doesn't like it doesn;t mean he has any right to put a stop to it. What the mother is doing is not demonstrably harmful in any way to the DC. Even if he was still married to her and living with her and the DC and she and the DC wanted to do this, he would have no legal way of stopping her from doing it. He can't make her 'obey' him.

well I sent all 3 DS's forms for consent for photos etc back to school with ticks next to all the boxes.

I didn't consult exH on the matter......

if she's doing it to annoy/get at your Dp shell be delighted that its working

really though, i dont see your DPs problem. What does he think will happen? Or is it just his "lack of control" of the situation he finds frustrating?

How old is your stepdaughter?

'obey'? Blimey SGB, that is not what DH or I want, I'm just cNvassing opinion. Would any of you want your XP/H constAntly in the papers with photos with your child?

does his ex ask to be consulted on all the decisions he and you make for the DC while at your house? or lay down the law about what they can and cannot do? if this is so then he has a point

where would he draw the line about decisions he does/does not need to be in on?

but...but.....YOU have a photo of DSD on your profile here on MN!!!!!

DSD is 6. If you google daily mail pension cinderellas you will find them there.

So did I MaMo, but that's for the school website and at a push the local paper.

I don't think I would have an issue with it