to think people who don't bath/wash their DCs every night are lazy?

[BigMommaOf4]

I am shocked by the amount of people on here who state that they only bathe/wash their DCs once or twice a week. OK bad cases of excema accepted, I just think that's soooo lazy. No one IRL I know leaves it that long so is it just a peculiar Mumsnet trait because they are too busy MNing?

DTS1 has excema btw, I just cover him in an emollient before he gets in the bath and it does not exercerbate it.

I mean, come on, babies and toddlers in nappies, older Dcs not very efficient at bum wipeing - how can people leave them to fester for days?

In the 'olden days' when tin baths had to be got out and water boiled in a copper pot, obviously it was not possible every day but nowadays that's not the case.

Also my DCs love RELAXING in the bath/shower. It's not only for cleanliness. They love feeling warm, clean and comfortable before getting into bed. Even my 12 week old starts getting excited just from me taking him upstairs of an evening because he knows he's going in the bath and he adores it.

Do all these people, who only bath their DCs twice a year, have a bath/shower every day themselves? Bet they do! Feel sorry for the poor DCs.

Oh my goodness.
It doesn't matter
If you bathe your dc every day
Or every other day
Or once per week
Who cares? Everyone does their own thing.
People are having a go at those who do bathe their dc everyday just as much.

I bathe ds everyday, as I hbe said. He's clean and healthy and his skin is silky smooth. Nothing wrong with it.
Likewise, nothing wrong with those who bathe less often!

Nevercansaygoodbye - I will ask them when they get home from school, but at 13, 15 and 17 I think they might be a little old....sorry! [hgrin]

sorry for double posts and typos. Stupid iPhone.

Im so lazy I almost can't be bothered to post that my DS has a bath every other night.

Signed, a bad parent.

We have bathnights Sundays, wednesdays, fridays NO excuses.

My children wash everyday

We are clean ta very much

YABU, & more than a tad HUYOA

as already said, its not laziness, its CHOICE & I'm sure in most cases INFORMED choice

perhaps you might understand better if those of us that know that over bathing depletes skin of its natural oils, & that Children don't perspire & therefore smell in the same way adults do,so really DON"T need it, looked at those of you who DO choose to bathe your Kids daily as OCD sufferers with child abuse tendencies ???

I'm terminally lazy and my daughter, who is nearly 10, bathes once a week. She hates bathing and always has. I'm not going to force her.

I've warned her that she'll get body hair soon and she'll start to smell if she doesn't bathe more frequently. She generally grunts her reply with a shrug of the shoulders.

I could get LUDICROUSLY smug about the things my dd is fantastic at and the things I think are important in parenting, perhaps even casting aspersions at the OP but I have much better things to do with my time:)

lost part of my post

its PERSONAL CHOICE, does not make for dirty Kids so YES, YABVU

Pre pubescent children do smell imo if not washed.

My prepubescent child doesn't smell. Her mates would soon tell her (I made them promise they would :))Her hair gets a bit whiffy after 5 days. I think I can live with it.

I really don't think that boys are inherently smellier than girls at 8 and 10. If you believe what your sons tell you Beenbeta, you are probably abetting them in bullying making life difficult for these two boys. Be very wary about believing everything your children tell you, especially about school. If my children came home with tales of that kind it would all sorts of alarm bells ringing about how they were treating the children in question at school frankly.

Maybe these children's clothes smell, which could be due to all sorts of things such as the clothes being put away not entirely dry.

Oh and the rule in our house is- as soon as you hit double figures you bath/shower every day. Very clear rule, no need to discriminate between the pubescent/prepubescent and make anybody feel embarrassed or crap.

Rockinhippy nice. Saying that you see a link between bathing daily and child abuse. you sound lovely.
I don't say anything bad about those who bathe a few times per week... In fact, I've said I don't care and to each their own. Why such a horrible statement?
I am not abusing my ds.

My two DSs of 7 and 10 shower 2 or 3 times a week, and they most certainly do not smell.

I think once puberty starts I will increase that for the older one, but that's not imminent

DD gets a bath/shower nearly every day as it's always been part of her bedtime routine not because I feel she needs it. She's been potty trained for ages, and always smells gorgeous. I never use soap on her unless she is visibly filthy (ie never) - I just let her soak. DP gives her a bubble bath but I try to ensure that doesn't happen too often.

I do wash her (curly fine) hair MAX of once a week though.

YABVU

I don't even tot up the amount of times I bathe my 2.5yo nipper. He always smells pleasant and I make sure that he brushes his teeth twice a day, washes his face and hands frequently and wipes his bum with those swanky wet wipes that smell of watermelon when he's done his business.

I've noticed that if we go overboard with the bathing routine then DS's eczema tends to flare up and his hair turns to candy floss. I actually prefer him a day or two after a bath/shower as his skin looks radiant and his hair curls in the most adorable way.

I also agree with those who have already pointed out how wasteful this bathing everyday lark seems. A 2 minute shower if you must but anything beyond that suggests to me that you have money to burn when it comes to your gas/leccy bills.

of course I don't, that was said with tongue firmly in cheek star expat ....

just making the point that you can't judge others based on your own personal choices, & the OP does states that she is "shocked" & considers those of us who don't bathe our kids daily as "lazy" so just attempting to point out(badly it seems that it would be a sad world if we all took that same stance

YABU I try every other day but no biggie if don't. Good practice for scout camp etc anyway!

I bath my ds every night.

Only because it is the only time I can be sure he will stay put for a few minutes.

It is not necessary though. It is not as though he works in a mine or something.

Jellybeans - that has reminded me of when ds1 went on School Journey. Apparently his showergel spilt all over the stuff in his toilet bag, so not only did he not wash for most of the week (apart from once, I think, when he cadged soap from a friend), but he didn't brush his teeth either, because there was soap on his toothbrush. [henvy]

I did point out that he could have told one of the teachers accompanying the trip, and they would have sorted him out a fresh toothbrush and some soap, and he looked at me with stunned amazement and disbelief - it hadn't occurred to him to do anything that sensible outrageous!!

I did wonder whether they should have split up the kids on the return journey, into those who had washed, and those who hadn't, so that there would have been one relatively fragrant coachload, and only one where the whiff was causing the paint on passing cars to blister and peel! [hgrin]

Ok in that case, I agree with you, rockinhippy :)
Sorry I'm a bit oversensitive and took it too personally.

And nobody - why has no-one suggested sending children down the mines as a way to replace the child benefit when it is cut?? [hgrin]

baths always on nursery days, always find something on the mucky child then. baby probably 2 x per week.

I have just realised, we must be total mingers! My dc always bath/shower on a morning - as do I... Op, how does that fit?
Oh or maybe it is everyone else because they are all smelly for the day but clean for the night?

And nobody - why has no-one suggested sending children down the mines as a way to replace the child benefit when it is cut??

I am surprised that they haven't.