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condom found in husbands sleeping bag..

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Bubbles007 · 14/10/2010 22:26

Husband returns home from three day sailing trip, I find a condom in his sleeping bag whilst hanging it on the washing line after I have cleaned it. I asked how it got there and apparently it was an ongoing joke amongst the other married men on the boat. They kept moving condoms around. Am i being unreasonble by being uncomfortable with this ?

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bintofbohemia · 15/10/2010 09:37

Perhaps he just fancied a posh wank - the only way to go in a sleeping bag really. Wink

Sure it's nothing to worry about.

FindingMyMojo · 15/10/2010 09:51

I think there are some things women will never understand about men - this kind of 'fool hardry' joking is one of them. I'm sure it a 'you had to be there' kind if joke. Just bloody baffling from any other standpoint.

Silly joke - don't wast any more brain cells trying to understand it. Smile

proudnscary · 15/10/2010 09:56

WTF, what do you all mean 'silly joke'? What straight, grown up men would find a condom funny?

I know men can be childish - god knows my dh can be when he's pissed up with all his 40-ish friends - so I don't mean that. I mean there is no way he and all his blokey married friends would find this amusing or think about doing this!!

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 15/10/2010 10:03

I'm struggling to see imagine why they would pass a condom around (still in it's wrapper), why he would sleep in a bag with one in there (they're jaggy wee things) and why he wouldn't take it out and some point and give it back to it's owner.

I'm with Proudnscary - my 40-something husband and his friends can have a laugh, but think even they would be a bit Confused if one of them started to pass a wrapped condom around.

katkouta · 15/10/2010 10:14

Yep, with proudnadscary too. I have quite a blokeish soh myself, but don't see how 'passing a condom around' would be construed as funny. Confused
I would be asking a few more questions if it were me.

mamadiva · 15/10/2010 10:27

I found one of those little vending machine condom boxes of 3 (with 2 missing) in my DP's jacket pocket years ago.

I WENT MAD! as you can imagine... as soon as I confronted DP he started laughing which of course made me madder. He then explained that he and my brother (who was 12 at the time) had been sitting in his work blowing them up on their heads Hmm which my brother agreed with.

I completely did'ntt think about the fact that my DP worked in the public toilets at the time, which meant cleaning and stocking these machines... DOH!

Anyway the moral of the story is men are far more immature than we like to think, it was probably just a daft joke. If there's no other concerns I would'nt worry :o

HeadlessPrinceBilly · 15/10/2010 10:40

People find different things funny. Just because you don't find it so doesn't mean that they didn't.

Deliaskis · 15/10/2010 10:44

I suspect it's one of those things that was completely hilarious to those guys there at the time, and I'm pretty sure that the whole point of the joke was probably not that they found a condom funny in itself in manner of yr8 boys, but that someone would not notice and get in trouble with their wife on return. I'm not saying it's hilarious, it's not, but it's fairly believable.

The only thing I would say is, having spent lots of time sleeping on boats, if his kit actually looks (and smells!) like he's been on a boat for three days (i.e. you've no reason to suspect he was actually in Paris instead or anything), I would probably believe the story he's given you. Sailing trips are really not the place for an illicit affair.

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JenaiMwahHaHaHaaaaah · 15/10/2010 11:44

The prankster chose an unrolled sleeping bag at random in which to place the offending article, on the last day so that the prankee didn't feel it.

I wouldn't give it a second thought, tbh.

FindingMyMojo · 15/10/2010 13:53

proudnscary thankfully my DP isn't the type to find this sort of thing funny either (or even think of this sort of thing) however I've worked with/known loads of guys over the years who would. I don't get it but there you go - bizarre!

RiverOfSleep · 15/10/2010 13:57

I can well imagine it being one of those silly in-jokes that sounds totally lame to someone who wasn't there. eg try explaining the frootshoots thing IRL.

Gobsmacked at the idea of washing sleeping bags though. I thought they just got yukkier and yukkier till you bought a new one Blush

GoldenHaze · 15/10/2010 13:57

Sorry to sound like the Voice of Doom, but beware! The same thing happened to me - ex-DP had condom in bedding after weekend away with the lads. He said it was a joke. I wanted to believe him and so did.

Turns out it wasn't a joke. He'd cheated.

I threw him out, along with his bedding!

TrillianSlasher · 15/10/2010 13:58

Ewww, your title made me think it was a used one.

Yes, perfectly acceptable answer is that some of the other guys on the sailing trip thought that hiding condoms was a fun game.

ShrineOfCrazyDemon · 15/10/2010 13:59

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WitchyFlisspaps · 15/10/2010 14:02

Maybe he planned a 'posh wank' (not wanting to sully the inside of his sleeping bag knowing you'd wash it and possibly find out) but fell asleep on himself before he had the chance?

proudnscary · 15/10/2010 14:02

Sorry, as I said earlier, I do not buy this explanation for a nanosecond.

No guys above the age of 14 find condoms amusing, honestly - even the silly, twatty, drunken, bantery, blokey, practical-joke-playing ones!

ShrineOfCrazyDemon · 15/10/2010 14:04

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proudnscary · 15/10/2010 14:07

Exactly SCD.

Bubbles, hope we are not upsetting you here, sincerely. But if you are posting here I assume you want some very honest, blunt answers?

If you feel able to, maybe you should bring this up with him again and say you find it hard to believe.

lennon80 · 15/10/2010 14:10

I am afraid if that was me I wouldnt accept that explanation because its not something that constitutes a joke but it does sound like an excuse. I would mention it in front of these other blokes when you next get chance and if they look confused then you know it wasnt a joke at all.

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FakePlasticTrees · 15/10/2010 14:13

for those saying this sounds a bit teenagerish, in my experience, put a group of blokes together for a few days and they do revert back to being 14 year olds, but with more money.

From experience I can tell you a shag in a sleeping bag is logistically possible (assuming both people are v slim), but not very comfy.

OP - only you know your DH, it probably is just a joke, but if you have any other worries, you need some serious conversations.

JenaiMwahHaHaHaaaaah · 15/10/2010 14:15

Get a few women together for a few days and they revert back to being 14 year olds, but with more money.

Or is that just me and my friends?

FakePlasticTrees · 15/10/2010 14:15

oh, and DH normally has condoms in his wash bag because he normally goes away with me. If he was going away on a boys weekend it might not occur to him to remove them.

FakePlasticTrees · 15/10/2010 14:18

JenaiMwahHaHaHaaaaah - oh me and my friends are far most sophisticated - we're 16 year olds after 48 hours... Grin

earlymorningwaking · 15/10/2010 14:19

Buy a cotton sleeping bag liner - easier to wash!

Sounds like a daft bloke joke to me.. in the same position would be freaked out though..